No expert here, just someone who's read up in several books and "soaked in" knowledge from a couple of experts.
Despite her totally inappropriate and insensitive comment (she does that all the time, try not to take it personally :hugs: ), Doc's suggestions were good ones.
I'd definitely get her in to another vet for a second opinion ASAP.
In the meantime, if you can, feel her gums -- if they're tacky/sticky rather than slick/smooth or if they're white rather than pink, she may be getting dehydrated. Or pinch the skin in her "scruff" area and if it kinda stays pinched for a second before slowly returning to normal, that's another sign of dehydration. Neither are perfect tests, but they're things you can do at home to test for potential dehydration before going to get your second opinion (which I strongly recommend). If your cat lets you and if you have the materials, you might also just start "forcing" water down her with a syringe. I don't mean being rough with her, I mean giving it to her gently in the side of her mouth a few drops at a time via syringe, but if you can get more fluids in her, that will help with almost all infections/inflammations, and an extra 2-3 CC's of water a day won't hurt her one bit, but might help. But only do that if she's good about taking water from a syringe. You don't want to stress her out further if stress really is the problem.
I can somewhat vouch for the Cat Attract litter. Our Skye was one who wouldn't use the litterbox 3/4 of the time when we first brought him in. He'd go anywhere *near* the box, but rarely *in* it and would never cover. Ever. When we got into the house, we discovered the Cat Attract and switched entirely to that litter (it doesn't have to be mixed with clay, it's a perfectly normal clumping litter on its own -- but don't expect perfumed scents -- it's also more expensive than standard litter, but when it works it's worth it). Skye started using the litterboxes over half the time after that switch. While he didn't go to using the box 100% of the time, it did increase how often he did use the box to maybe 2/3rds of the time. (Only thing that's gotten him to use the box 95% of the time was going to automatic litterboxes -- he was very picky about the state of his litter). Anyway, the Cat Attract is worth a try.
Also swing by the pet store and pick up a product called Nature's Miracle. The specific thing you're looking for is the odor/enzyme cleaner. Also pick up a small black light (usually in the same area of the store at Petsmart and Petco). Use the black light to locate areas where she's peed or pooped on the floor -- they'll show up fluorescent green under the light. Spray those areas with Nature's Miracle and let it soak for a few minutes, then clean and check again. Nature's Miracle should help remove the enzymes that might draw her to that same spot to pee again, and only an enzyme cleaner will remove the enzymes entirely. To a cat, anywhere that they can smell the enzymes of a previous pee/poop they consider to be fair territory for marking or "going", so you want to get all the signs cleaned up that you can.
Once all the enzymes are cleaned, *then* use the FeliWay in those areas. You might also spray it near the door to the garage to help her associate the smell of the puppies with calming/okay stuff. While I don't have direct experience with it (haven't had need yet), two of our breeders and several of our friends have, and they swear by it.
Next, (this is a homeopathic "assist" that not all vets agree with, but we have had 2 "normal" vets recommend it with our pets, we've had good luck with it, and the 3 breeders I've worked with have used it with positive results, as have several friends)... go by a health food store and look for a product called Bach's Rescue Remedy. It's an essense of flowers and a couple of oils that works along the same lines as aroma-therapy to help relieve stress. Add 2 to 3 drops to her water every day, preferably using bottled spring or distilled, and use fresh water every day. Some cats react to Rescue Remedy wonderfully -- our Sage did when he was sick, and Sienna, Leo, and Gabi all did when we brought Leo and Gabi home. It didn't work on Blaze or Skye, though. But it does help my parent's Shih Tzu dog not freak out so much when there's a thunder storm or company comes over. All it takes is a few drops in the water.
*Next*, hop over to the boards at
www.ivillage.com and go to the pet board "Think Like A Cat" and post your situation there. Pam Johnson-Bennett, a professional feline behavioralist and cat-book author, answers questions over there and might have some more suggestions for you. It's from her boards and books that I learned about Feliway, Nature's Miracle, Rescue Remedy, and about 90% of my cat knowledge, most of which has been reinforced by our vets. She's *wonderful* with helping people and might have some more suggestions, and if she doesn't, the other people on the board there might as well.
For pilling your cat, if you have difficulty with that, talk to your vet about other options. Some pills you can crush into a powder and sprinkle over moist food or mix with chicken baby food (*human* baby food, make sure ingredients are nothing but chicken and water). Or you might have success with my friends' method of getting the Pounce cat treats that have a cusioned middle, cutting a small slit in it and slipping the pill into it, then giving her the treat.
As for what to do with your cat if she doesn't have an infection and antibiotics/anitinflamatories don't help, nor do FeliWay or Rescue Remedy -- rather than making her an outdoor cat, you might consider setting up one of the rooms at your house/apartment/condo/whatever that is specifically *her* room, make it nice and cozy for her, and leave her in that room until she stops peeing over everything. This will at least allow you to confine her messes to one room, and is much better for her than turning her loose outdoors, and certainly much better than putting her down. Perhaps that option will appease your husband a little more?
Good luck, and keep us posted!