I'm sure there are brides and grooms out there who are just starting out in life and are given the gift of a traditional wedding by the parents, who pick up the tab for it. The money they receive as gifts may help them with their bills the next month if they are living paycheck to paycheck, which many young couples do. But instead you'd rather they use it to buy a nice gift for themselves rather than get them out of a bind with their bills? Normally people here on the Dis say the opposite... As for a honeymoon fund, what's wrong with reimbursing your savings for something you've already paid for? Also with a honeymoon fund (on some of them), people can still buy things like dinners or excursions even if the honeymoon is paid in full. It would be buying the couple a nice memorable experience, rather than a tangible gift they may never use and takes up space.. They'll always remember Uncle Joe and Aunt Jan gave them the snorkeling adventure in the Caribbean when they look at those photos.