Cash for diapers

[torinsmom]

I think it was great to mention on the invitation that the mom would be using cloth diapers(so noone would buy disposable), but it was tacky to ask for money. The mom should have put the diapers on a registry.

 

[cm8]

At that point, I would have opened my card with the check inside (I only give checks at weddings), written VOID on the front and left a very nasty message on the back about why this occurred and that they need to learn some facts about what to do and what not to do!! Oh, and I would have thanked them for the lovely free meal and booze!!

Amen sista, I so would have done the same too!

 

[Imzadi]

I could give you an answer but it would have the word "trash" in it and it wouldn't be very nice.

Yes, those are the two words I was thinking, not: tacky.

At that point, I would have opened my card with the check inside (I only give checks at weddings), written VOID on the front and left a very nasty message on the back about why this occurred and that they need to learn some facts about what to do and what not to do!! Oh, and I would have thanked them for the lovely free meal and booze!!

I'd be sitting next to JoiseyMom scarfing down the food!

But, I wouldn't be surprised if this was all they had -->

 

[shinysparklybubbles]

I was at a shower where they did a 50/50 and raffled baskets off, I kid you not!!! I was speechless when they came around selling tickets.

 

[disneykidatheart]

I was invited to a shower and told to include the receipt in the package. Just how did they know in advance they were going to hate my gift?

 

[rie'smom]

All of these would makegreat episodes if there was a Momzilla show.

 

[Donnainnj]

I have also seen that but had no problem with it. You weren't forced to do it, and if you did you could win something. They weren't just collecting cash. The time I saw it was a close friend first at her adopted baby's Christening, when they got him at one day old but weren't sure they would be able to keep him (birth mom kept changing her mind) until just before it became official about 4 or 5 months later. The mom didn't want to have a shower right before the christening so friends made baskets to help make up for no shower. The money raised was to be put in a College fund for the baby. When her 2nd miracle came along naturally after years of infertility they did the same for him to be fair. Since you are in NJ maybe it was the same party? Again it wasn't something I expected or had seen before but I understood it and didn't have an issue with it. (oh and by the way the Mom did not know it was going to happen)
Donna

I was at a shower where they did a 50/50 and raffled baskets off, I kid you not!!! I was speechless when they came around selling tickets.

 

[Sarah_Rose]

I know several people who have had babies in the past 12 to 18 months (one in particular who insisted on all natural fabrics for her baby) and none of them paid $15 per diaper..

I use gdiapers and paid $16 per diaper cover and $7 per cloth insert (made by a WAHM). I have 8 covers (I could get by with 4, but I didn't know that when I ordered them.... having the extras just means that I can line dry the covers so that they'll last longer) and 24 inserts, which is enough to get me through 3-4 days. This stash will last me until DS is 26 lbs, and then I'll have to buy new covers in the "large" size (the inserts are the same size and won't have to be replaced).

Cloth diapering can be as expensive or as cheap as you make it. My own system is decidedly average in price. Well, except when I choose to use the flushable inserts when we travel... then it's much more expensive. But so, so worth it.

 

[barkley]

I use gdiapers and paid $16 per diaper cover and $7 per cloth insert (made by a WAHM). I have 8 covers (I could get by with 4, but I didn't know that when I ordered them.... having the extras just means that I can line dry the covers so that they'll last longer) and 24 inserts, which is enough to get me through 3-4 days. This stash will last me until DS is 26 lbs, and then I'll have to buy new covers in the "large" size (the inserts are the same size and won't have to be replaced).

Cloth diapering can be as expensive or as cheap as you make it. My own system is decidedly average in price. Well, except when I choose to use the flushable inserts when we travel... then it's much more expensive. But so, so worth it.

admittedly, i have not had to deal with cloth diapers for over 16 years, but it floors me when i read about the cost now as compared to what they ran back then then when i factor in the cost of laundering

i think it's interesting though-just for the heck of it i did a google search to see how much diaper services run these days, and at least in our neck of the woods (or more like yours, the one i pulled up for washington is seattle based) the pricing is still not too bad-less than $20 a week.

i think if i knew someone planning on doing cloth diapering i would be tempted instead of gifting them with the actual diapers, trying to see if a group of people would prefer to kick in for a month or two of a service.

 

[Ash&Wes07]

admittedly, i have not had to deal with cloth diapers for over 16 years, but it floors me when i read about the cost now as compared to what they ran back then then when i factor in the cost of laundering

i think it's interesting though-just for the heck of it i did a google search to see how much diaper services run these days, and at least in our neck of the woods (or more like yours, the one i pulled up for washington is seattle based) the pricing is still not too bad-less than $20 a week.

i think if i knew someone planning on doing cloth diapering i would be tempted instead of gifting them with the actual diapers, trying to see if a group of people would prefer to kick in for a month or two of a service.

Laundering doesn't really cost me more than $1-2 extra a month in water bills and gas for hot water. A service would cost me a lot more than buying my stash and doing it myself. Cloth Diapering has an initial large investment, but then ends up costing me little-to-no money. I sell the diapers the kids grow out of to fund the next size up to save even more money.

 

[Erin1700]

What I can not stand is when you go look at the wedding gift registry to buy a gift for the shower and it is filled with every gaming system imaginable!Wii, Xbox, etc plus games. Or all sorts of sports equipment. I have no problem buying towels or dishes but these things are crazy!

Oh and the worst baby shower invite I recieved was from my Sisinlaw. She planned the whole thing and wrote "Please note we DO NOT need any clothes, please buy something else or bring a gift card!"
This was their first baby and she "hates" cutesy clothes. Anything you buy the kid has to be approved. No characters on anything either. Needless to say, we dont talk to them anymore. (other issues)

 

[Rora]

I think that is normal. In TACKEYVILLE!!!

I agree. This is NOT the norm around here. And it's super duper tacky and rude.

 

[minkydog]

admittedly, i have not had to deal with cloth diapers for over 16 years, but it floors me when i read about the cost now as compared to what they ran back then then when i factor in the cost of laundering

i think it's interesting though-just for the heck of it i did a google search to see how much diaper services run these days, and at least in our neck of the woods (or more like yours, the one i pulled up for washington is seattle based) the pricing is still not too bad-less than $20 a week.

i think if i knew someone planning on doing cloth diapering i would be tempted instead of gifting them with the actual diapers, trying to see if a group of people would prefer to kick in for a month or two of a service.

I'm with you. I can't imagine paying $16-17 PER DIAPER. OMG You all do realize that POOP goes in these things, right? I used cloth diapers with all three of my kids. Heck, I still use them at night on my youngest. I bought the the Gerber prefolds at Target, 6 for about $15. They have lasted for years and years.

I love the diaper services! Back when I had two in diapers we had a heckuva lot of diapers around here. I used the diaper service with each child for at least the first 6 months. Now that we're only using one diaper per night, we can easily soak/wash/dry our own. But there was the day when I was doing 3 diaper loads a week AND hanging them out on the line to dry. Target, 6 diapers for about $15 ladies.

 

[kwitcherkicken99]

Someone I know was having a baby, and they asked specifically for diapers and baby lotions.

I didn't specifically request consumables, but most of our family's knew that we had our furniture and big ticket items. Come to think of it, the only "expensive" things we had listed on DS's registry was a pack n play, high chair, an expandable bath tub, and a bouncy seat. Everything else was burp rags, bottles, easy stuff and most of it was under $20. I didn't put any consumables on the registry (like I was told to...) but we ended up getting several anyway. For DH's cousin's first, several of us went in together and bought 1 big item, then I spent the rest of our budget buying up consumables. Jenny said it was one of the best gifts she received.

FWIW, I'd be embarrassed to ask shower-attendees for cash. I didn't attend my cousin's shower because they asked for a regular baby gift, then if you wanted to be eligible for a shower gift, you had to bring an additional gift. I thought it was too much to ask. We sent a few simple gifts and that was it.

 

[wellesleyprincess]

I haven't heard of cash for diapers but...

around here diaper showers are pretty common (especially if doing something for a second baby). I work at a school and we had two these last year. Instead of bringing gifts everyone is expected to bring a pack of diapers and a toiletry (wipes, powder, etc.). I'm guessing that the hostess in the OP may have started as well meaning and gotten out of hand. It's possible that the hostess had planned to do a standard diaper shower then found out the mom was cloth diapering and the whole thing spun out of control to cash for diapers.

 

[Sarah_Rose]

I'm with you. I can't imagine paying $16-17 PER DIAPER. OMG You all do realize that POOP goes in these things, right? I used cloth diapers with all three of my kids. Heck, I still use them at night on my youngest. I bought the the Gerber prefolds at Target, 6 for about $15. They have lasted for years and years.

The way I see it, I've spent less than $300 on my "overly expensive" stash of cloth diapers, to have a system that I really like using. I'll need to spend about another $60 in a year or so for new covers when DS grows out of the mediums, so that takes me to $360. I used disposables until my DS fit into the medium gdiapers (he is very long, so it was only about 8 weeks) and I cringe to think of how much I spent on landfill-clogging disposables in those 8 weeks. So how much am I saving, based on my initial investment of $300? And this is going with a great system that I really enjoy using. I really like the "hybrid diaper" idea because it allows me to use flushable/compostable/biodegradable inserts when we aren't at home. For example, when we go to WDW in a couple months, I'm just going to order a case of the inserts from Amazon and have it shipped to the resort... that way, I only have to handwash wash the covers if there is a blowout or a major leak, while we're on vacation. The flushable inserts are about the same cost as disposables, but my major motivation in cloth diapering is the environment (saving money is reason #2), so I'm still happy.

We have one of the most efficient washer/dryer combos on the market so the cost of washing the diapers is negligible. We only saw our water bill go up $2 after we started cloth diapering.