Can't Plan for Baby? Better Plan for Disney! -- PTR

[annmarieda]

So excited for you and DVC! I think it will make a lot of sense for you...and APs for 399? VERY COOL!!!

Love the photography class pics. I have seen those come across groupon..or living social.. and thought I might. Good to see they really are fun!

I also love all that you are doing with the kids. You are such an awesome aunt!!! I am not sure any of you know how lucky they are to have you. My youngest would have a hard time recognizing her grandparents on the street...let alone and aunt or uncle.

Finally, I am so sorry that you have had a rough year. I also am sorry your due date is quickly approaching. In trying to get pregnant with my youngest I had quite a few miscarriages...but one in particular was the hardest. I have my angel and yet each year a particular date causes me to pause. It shouldn't..but it does. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers over the coming weeks. I hope your party helps to heal some of the hurts. And if you adopt No matter how you become a mom, I KNOW you will be an awesome one!!!!

 

[ronnmel]

I'm so sorry to read that you are having a hard time and that your family is not very supportive. It's really sad.

No worries, Mel! You have a cute wee one to attend to! =) I haven't been very good about updating this thing, LOL!

Are you still planning on doing a trip while Claudia is around 6 months?

We have had a few roadblocks for that January trip with Claudia, but there seems to be hope that the trip will indeed happen.

 

[cindianne320]

Thanks for the update! Your monthly parties sound like so much fun!

 

[teekathepony]

I'm sorry to hear that your family is not being supportive, I hope you can educate them a little and that it might make a difference.
The photography class looks fun! I've always wanted to teach one.

 

[Queila]

Oh Paula,
My heart goes out to you.
I know all too well what a struggle it can be to have people understand that miscarriage and infertility is a HUGE deal in our lives. I think our struggle just makes people uncomfortable and they just wish it would go away.

One of the girls from my circle of girlfriends got pregnant at the same time as I did (hers was unplanned) and our due date was 3 days apart. You should see how many people have taken upon themselves to judge me as a bad friend for not being abe to be "happy" for her baby or for not rushing to the maternity ward to congratulate her.

The more people tell me "it is going to be ok" the more I feel like screaming: I AM THE ONE WITH THE DEAD SON so SHUT UP!

Anyways, my "due date" was in September and it was one of the darkest days of my life. I wish you all the strength on the weeks to come and I hope your party bring you and your family a little closer.

On a ligher note your DVC plans are exciting and your math skills are impressive. We loved AKL and I promise to rent points from you if you are ever stuck.

Q

 

[reelmom]

I have just read your PTR from day one until now. I am so sorry of how life can be incredibly crappy and then have to deal with insensitive friends and family. Please know that I will be praying for you and your husband. I hope that there will be many more smiles and joy in the days to come. You certainly deserve it.

 

[HermanTriplets+1]

I think your party idea is wonderful - hope it was fun! What did you put on your gift registry? Years ago when all my friends were getting married before me, I asked my parents to have a "shower" for me for my birthday and I got towels, linens, dishes! You have to know to ask for what you need and for what you want. Good for you.
I would love to do a photography course like you did - maybe then I could stop using only the "auto" setting of the new dSLR camera we got this year!

 

[silverhaze269]

Checking in to say I'm still here!

The party ideas are awesome!!! They sound like they're going to be lots of fun!

Also, congrats on the DVC!!!

I hope the holidays are finding you well

 

[Disney9.9.10]

Hi Paula

I found your report from another report. I am not sure if you are still writing this, but I'd be interested to read about it if you are. I am so sorry for all of your losses and fertility struggles. People just don't get it. My husband and I just lost our baby that was our first pregnancy. It is such an awful thing to go through. I hope that things are going well with the adoption process if that is what you decided to do.

 

[Alysa]

Hi Paula, Hope you had a great holiday! Photography class - what a great idea! Looking forward to seeing the Tangled photos and your new skills in action!

 

[Lemonademouth]

I am so very sorry you are going through this. My husband and I have been trying for 7 years and have had 3 miscarriages. We have lost friends over insensitivity too. It's a lot harder when the biggest negativity comes from my SIL and MIL. SIL had four, 2 of which were conceived around the time of 2 of our miscarriages. 1st she told me I was so lucky and should be happy I was not pregnant. Second time she had 2 kids and said why don't you just come and play with my kids. Third miscarriage, she announced she was pregnant with #3 and then asked me why we wanted kids so bad anyway. It seems all my mil can do is talk about the kids. I try to do my best but end up just doing a lot of smiling and nodding. I know it isn't the children's fault, but just constant talk about babies depressed me. She in turn complains to my husband saying she never gets to talk about them.

Anyway sorry to rant like that.... I just find that I have no one who really understands my issues, and when I find others who are going through it I tend to commiserate.

The DVC sounds great!! I have been trying to get my husband to buy into it, but he keeps saying we will move down there then change his mind. Oh well, I guess our yearly visit will have to suffice for now!

Good luck and continue to keep your head up!! From your report you seem to be strong, a lot stronger than a lot of us!!

 

[HermanTriplets+1]

HI just checking in - have you been to Disney yet???