Canceling trip- need consolation

[stargazertechie]

So my mom, husband, and I had planned a Thanksgiving trip with my dad before he passed away. We continued full steam ahead with planning after his passing, figuring we needed a good distraction from the holidays.

Our last family trip (mom, dad and I) was last Thanksgiving to Disney. It was absolutely magical. Despite his diagnosis and his poor health, he spent 8 hours a day at the park, rode everything he wanted to ride (except Pirates- it was down every time we went to ride) we had amazing food (he hadn't been eating well for months prior to the trip) and he had more energy than he had had in months. Serious true magic/miracles made the trip amazing.

We've got our reservation for the resort, every ADR I could have wanted for this year, Candlelight Processional package, and a tour booked. But every time we sit down to do something for the trip, I find myself crying, thinking about the fact that this time last year Dad was alive and we were getting ready for Disney together, and now he's dead.

When I called mom last night, she admitted she had been feeling the same way- she just couldn't get excited about WDW because we miss dad so much

I cancelled our airfare and rebooked a flight to Miami, and we're in the process of booking a cruise on Norwegian to the USVI instead on the biggest ship in the fleet But I find myself thinking longingly of the castle at Christmas, and the magic of the holiday season. And then I start crying again

Someone please console me- I KNOW disney will be there next year. I know christmas decorations will be there next year. I know we can go next year... but it's still bugging me. I KNOW we will have a great time on the cruise... but I still feel unsettled

 

[jensen]

So my mom, husband, and I had planned a Thanksgiving trip with my dad before he passed away. We continued full steam ahead with planning after his passing, figuring we needed a good distraction from the holidays.

Our last family trip (mom, dad and I) was last Thanksgiving to Disney. It was absolutely magical. Despite his diagnosis and his poor health, he spent 8 hours a day at the park, rode everything he wanted to ride (except Pirates- it was down every time we went to ride) we had amazing food (he hadn't been eating well for months prior to the trip) and he had more energy than he had had in months. Serious true magic/miracles made the trip amazing.

We've got our reservation for the resort, every ADR I could have wanted for this year, Candlelight Processional package, and a tour booked. But every time we sit down to do something for the trip, I find myself crying, thinking about the fact that this time last year Dad was alive and we were getting ready for Disney together, and now he's dead.

When I called mom last night, she admitted she had been feeling the same way- she just couldn't get excited about WDW because we miss dad so much

I cancelled our airfare and rebooked a flight to Miami, and we're in the process of booking a cruise on Norwegian to the USVI instead on the biggest ship in the fleet But I find myself thinking longingly of the castle at Christmas, and the magic of the holiday season. And then I start crying again

Someone please console me- I KNOW disney will be there next year. I know christmas decorations will be there next year. I know we can go next year... but it's still bugging me. I KNOW we will have a great time on the cruise... but I still feel unsettled

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm sure it's terrible to think of going to the parks without your father. It's probably the right thing to do something that will be totally different and allow you to create new memories instead of dwelling on the past. Knowing how precious every day really is, your father certainly wouldn't want you to waste any of your vacation in despair over his passing. Go on that cruise and create new wonderful memories.

The next time you do go to the world, try to find some little way to honor your father. Maybe eat at his favorite restaurant or ride his favorite ride and allow yourself to cry and mourn just a little. Then, force yourself to have all kinds of fun and know that he's with you in your heart.