Can you steal a playdate?

[lck33]

Really, I hope this is the place to post this because someone really needs to help me out here. My DD (8) has a play date tommorrow with a girl (8)that she has known since she was 3 although hey haven't seen each other in a while because they are going to different schools. We saw them recently again at my neighbors home. My neighbor and good friend works with and is good friends with her mother. This little girl had a play date with my neighbor's son last weekend. My DD was on a different play date with one of her other girlfriends. They went to the movies with her parents. Anyway, the mother of this little girl emails me and asks when my DD is available for a playdate. So I email her back saying how about Saturday, she agrees. Great all set. So I mention to the little boy (8) that this little girl is coming over this weekend and ask him what he is doing. He says he is going to a party, going snow tubing, and having a play date, so i said Sounds great, thinking to myself okay he has other plans. So tonight my girlfriend calls me and tells me she thinks is pretty c****y that I set this play date up without even inviting her son. She feels I stole his playdate in a sense. That she is friends with her mother and her son is friends with the little girl. I am flabbergasted! I told her I asked him what he was doing this weekend and he had plans so I didn't think anything more of it. She said that I made her feel like her son was not wanted around that why I didn't invite him. I told her she is crazy if she feels that way. I always treat her kids like they are my own.

So my questions are;

Isn't this insane?
Did I really steal her play date when the mom asked me?
What do you think I should do about it?

Thanks in advance for all of your help. I really am not used to all this drama.

Elsie

LC

 

[glitterkittyy]

Isn't this insane? Yes, but some mothers go all "mama bear" when it comes to their kids. I'm guilty of that at times myself.

Did I really steal her play date when the mom asked me? No, she's just being silly.

What do you think I should do about it? I personally would keep the playdate. The other mom will realize that she's being childish soon enough.

 

[Allison]

You shouldn't do anything about it. That's crazy. Is this woman saying since the girl had a playdate with her son, she isn't allowed to have playdates with someone else? That's what her statement amounts to saying.

 

[Rebelmom67]

Tell her "yeah, I stole your kid's playdate, now deal with it!"!! What a fruitcake, I don't think I would be able to have playdates with her and her child anymore.

 

[OceanAnnie]

You shouldn't do anything about it. That's crazy. Is this woman saying since the girl had a playdate with her son, she isn't allowed to have playdates with someone else? That's what her statement amounts to saying.

I agree. That's about the nuttiest thing I've read here.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Tell her "yeah, I stole your kid's playdate, now deal with it!"!! What a fruitcake, I don't think I would be able to have playdates with her and her child anymore.

Indeed. They would be dropped from the list. I'd be cordial and very busy.

 

[Bluestars]

Yes, this is insane. It sounds like the mother is insecure and paranoid.

 

[lck33]

Thank you so much. I thought maybe I was losing it. I am going to keep the playdate. My daughter is really looking forward to it.

I really did not know what to say to her when she called. I was like "are you kidding me?" She said "No. That's the way she feels and since we are friends that she felt she should tell me how she feels. I said "Do you feel better?" She said, "Thats not the point." Anyway, may be she just feels a little jealous that her friend emailed me. I don't really know.

But thank you for all of your replies. I feel so much better.

Elsie

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

This could not happen with men...

Yeah, I know we have our own stupid traits, but this is just funny to me...

 

[MelanieC]

She is insane - Is she serious???

Seriously, I would just ignore her. I'd have better things to worry about. What's up with this "playdate" thing anyway - Shouldn't kids just be playing with each other without worry about calling it an official "playdate".

The other mom needs to get over herself.

 

[Stacerita]

Tell her "yeah, I stole your kid's playdate, now deal with it!"!! What a fruitcake, I don't think I would be able to have playdates with her and her child anymore.

You did not "steal" a playdate. They would have had to have a playdate already set up, then you swoop in a take that one away. Shes a nut job.

 

[disneyjunkie]

This could not happen with men...

Yeah, I know we have our own stupid traits, but this is just funny to me...

I'm a woman and it's funny to me as well. Then again I never understood the purpose/need for play dates.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Really, I hope this is the place to post this because someone really needs to help me out here. My DD (8) has a play date tommorrow with a girl (8)that she has known since she was 3 although hey haven't seen each other in a while because they are going to different schools. We saw them recently again at my neighbors home. My neighbor and good friend works with and is good friends with her mother. This little girl had a play date with my neighbor's son last weekend. My DD was on a different play date with one of her other girlfriends. They went to the movies with her parents. Anyway, the mother of this little girl emails me and asks when my DD is available for a playdate. So I email her back saying how about Saturday, she agrees. Great all set. So I mention to the little boy (8) that this little girl is coming over this weekend and ask him what he is doing. He says he is going to a party, going snow tubing, and having a play date, so i said Sounds great, thinking to myself okay he has other plans. So tonight my girlfriend calls me and tells me she thinks is pretty c****y that I set this play date up without even inviting her son. She feels I stole his playdate in a sense. That she is friends with her mother and her son is friends with the little girl. I am flabbergasted! I told her I asked him what he was doing this weekend and he had plans so I didn't think anything more of it. She said that I made her feel like her son was not wanted around that why I didn't invite him. I told her she is crazy if she feels that way. I always treat her kids like they are my own.

So my questions are;

Isn't this insane?
Did I really steal her play date when the mom asked me?
What do you think I should do about it?

Thanks in advance for all of your help. I really am not used to all this drama.

Elsie

LC

I thought I knew all the bad words, but I am at a loss for c****y.

You did nothing wrong, OP..momma bear is hormonal or too much coffee that morning.

 

[disykat]

Yes it's insane, no you didn't steal a playdate, I'd do nothing.

If she mentioned it again, just repeat that you mentioned it to her son told you he was busy. End of discussion. It's not even like you tried to do it behind their backs. I can't see what her objection would be.

She needs to get over it. At age 8, there are going to be times when there are girl play dates and times when everyone can play together. The mom probably wanted her daughter to have a girl playdate and it probably has absolutely nothing to do with the boy whatsoever.

I was also trying to figure out the bad word. I'm thinking she typed an extra c? I've just never heard the word used that way and frankly, don't think I'd be staying friends with someone who would call me up and say that to me.

 

[eduk8r26]

With friends like that, who needs enemies?

 

[MsLeFever]

Were their playdates more of a "play go steady"? Ignore her - she's a nut.

 

[hereyago]

What a wackodoodle. But me being in a smart mood tonight, you should say: Yes I stole the playdate now nanny nanny boo boo. Is the woman like 5?

 

[lck33]

I know my typing stinks. But the word is crabby with a p not a b. Not sure if that is allowed. Just want to be safe. Anyway, now the secret is out Thanks again. You guys and gals rock! And for what it is worth, my husband couldn't believe it either. He told me to just ignore her.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

I know my typing stinks. But the word is crabby with a p not a b. Not sure if that is allowed. Just want to be safe. Anyway, now the secret is out Thanks again. You guys and gals rock! And for what it is worth, my husband couldn't believe it either. He told me to just ignore her.

That's why I didn't know..crappy is acceptable Dis language... (you typed it fine!)

I wanted to call her a wackadoodle, too.

 

[luvsmickeymouse]

She is insane - Is she serious???

Seriously, I would just ignore her. I'd have better things to worry about. What's up with this "playdate" thing anyway - Shouldn't kids just be playing with each other without worry about calling it an official "playdate".

The other mom needs to get over herself.