Can I vent for a minute!

[DisneyBamaFan]

I'd go anyway. Sorry but it's DH's obligation. If he has to stay behind, then he should be the one to sacrifice, not the entire family. JMHO (going to put my flame retardant suit on now).

LOL - couldn't be married to someone who thought like this.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

LOL - couldn't be married to someone who thought like this.

I understand my opinion is probably contradictory to most people, and maybe it's a reflection on my own marriage, but I also couldn't disappoint my children because of my husband's job, and I would hope the man I married wouldn't want to disappoint his family because of his job either. Guess it's just a matter of perspective. Like I said JMHO.

 

[mousetravel]

I understand my opinion is probably contradictory to most people, and maybe it's a reflection on my own marriage, but I also couldn't disappoint my children because of my husband's job, and I would hope the man I married wouldn't want to disappoint his family because of his job either. Guess it's just a matter of perspective. Like I said JMHO.

I agree with this. Can you take your kids, without your husband? It would be a fun "mom/kids" vacation.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

I understand my opinion is probably contradictory to most people, and maybe it's a reflection on my own marriage, but I also couldn't disappoint my children because of my husband's job, and I would hope the man I married wouldn't want to disappoint his family because of his job either. Guess it's just a matter of perspective. Like I said JMHO.

I understand, but our vacations with our kids are family vacations. We would not be a family without both my wife and I there. We make sacrifices for one another every day.

I send my wife on trips with my kids all the time without me, but not something like this. I would be crushed if my wife went on a trip like this with our boys without me.

 

[punkin]

It's just that I work for attorneys who do this constantly to their families. These families spend years being put on the back burner and it burns my butt. Once we had an attorney who was allowed to leave for the birth of his child, but was told he should return to the office the next morning. Then he worked continuously for the next week because something was due. I guess I'm just fortunate that I have a job and not a career. I figure if I got hit by a bus tomorrow the company would continue on without me.

My DH is not an attorney. For the birth of our first child (18 years ago), my DH took one day off (the Friday she was born) and then he stayed home the entire weekend and went back to work Monday. His boss berated him for days, saying how he was obviously not committed to his job and career and needed to get his priorities straight. That's really bizzaro-world thinking.

Oh, just wanted to add that that particular investment bank was one of the first to go down in flames this past economic meltdown.

 

[Kathi OD]

My DH is not an attorney. For the birth of our first child (18 years ago), my DH took one day off (the Friday she was born) and then he stayed home the entire weekend and went back to work Monday. His boss berated him for days, saying how he was obviously not committed to his job and career and needed to get his priorities straight. That's really bizzaro-world thinking.

Oh, just wanted to add that that particular investment bank was one of the first to go down in flames this past economic meltdown.

It's not often that I can top a DIS anecdote...but when my oldest son was 3 he developed bronchial pneumonia. DH was working out-of-state and I had a job working at a private kindergarten. When I told my boss I would need to take some time off to care for him, I was told I needed to get my priorities straight and hire a private duty nurse to care for him while I was at work! Like that might happen. Even if it weren't for the idea of a stranger taking care of my sick child, I would have had to pay TWICE my salary to that stranger! It didn't take me long to get my priorities straight... I quit on the spot.

OP, I'm sorry that you're not getting to go on your vacation. I know February seems a long way off now, but it will be here before you know it.
Enjoy your trip when it gets here.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

I understand, but our vacations with our kids are family vacations. We would not be a family without both my wife and I there. We make sacrifices for one another every day.

I send my wife on trips with my kids all the time without me, but not something like this. I would be crushed if my wife went on a trip like this with our boys without me.

Point well taken. Thank you for allowing me to express my opinion and not bashing me for it. I can only bring my own experiences to the table, so I'm grateful when others help me see another side to things.

 

[punkin]

Like I said, Kathi OD, there are some people who live in Bizzaro World and expect the rest of us to join them there.

As for the OP, I am sorry this is happening to you, but I am sure you can try to reschedule and have fun when your DH can join you. At least you are not out any money.

 

[Brit17]

I totally understand how you are feeling ... I cancelled our trip to WDW this year, (which would have been last week), and I've been feeling quite blue myself ... so in order to turn my frown upsidedown , I decided to bring a little Disney to NJ instead ... because I LOVE the way Disney decorates their parks and resorts for Christmas, I "borrowed" some of their ideas and "tried" to decorate the same way outside my home ... for example, I have a huge flower box in my front yard, so I filled it with artificial pointsettias and placed some Mickey & Friends Christmas lawn statues (that I had gotten from disneystore.com a few years back) among the pointsettias ... I also have an outdoor sound system, so I'm playing Christmas music outside also, just like Disney does ... call me silly, but it definitely helped lift my spirits ...

Have a great trip in February! ...

 

[clh2]

Sorry to hear about the delay...


Tell your DH that he owes your something fun on the cruise...I'm thinking an afternoon in the spa

 

[tlbwriter]

DH does not get my disappointment coz he is like Feb thats just 2 months away which in the broad sense I do understand. But he is out 4 days a week in Boston while i am here alone with the kids. 10th dec was a day I was anticipating from August when we booked the cruise as the day I get a break from my routine.

I'd be tempted to do something to help him understand. Like maybe plan a really special *adult* evening without the kids, tell him how fantastic it's going to be, buy sexy lingerie, talk it up for a week, and then that morning say "Oh, sorry, we have to put it off. Something came up." Maybe he'd be a little more sympathetic.

But seriously, I'm disappointed in the "you're lucky he has a job!" replies. Are we never allowed to vent about anything anymore? Yes, there is always someone worse off. So I guess if you've got both legs and both arms and can breathe without an iron lung and didn't eat a cup of cold poison for breakfast you have no right to ever complain about anything!

 

[kwelch10377]

But seriously, I'm disappointed in the "you're lucky he has a job!" replies. Are we never allowed to vent about anything anymore? Yes, there is always someone worse off. So I guess if you've got both legs and both arms and can breathe without an iron lung and didn't eat a cup of cold poison for breakfast you have no right to ever complain about anything!

I'm glad someone else said this....I was thinking the same thing.