Came out to coworker, need advice (long post)

[Sphyrna]

Yea, just saying you have a partner and bringing a picture definitely makes it easy. But when you don't have a partner you don't have that option

 

[zeitzeuge]

I've never officially had to come out at work. Any of my jobs. I just go into the job like anyone else. If for some reason, who I'm dating or if I'm married or whatever comes up, I'm just honest with them. Very matter of fact. I put up pics in my cubical that make things a little obvious. I have a framed pic of Steven and I in San Francisco. I can't tell you the number of times people ask who he is, or comments. Especially IT guys who come to work on my computer.

Every situation is different, including yours. You come out to co-workers at your own pace, but my advice it just to let it happen naturally.

 

[rpmdfw]

I've never officially had to come out at work. Any of my jobs. I just go into the job like anyone else. If for some reason, who I'm dating or if I'm married or whatever comes up, I'm just honest with them. Very matter of fact. I put up pics in my cubical that make things a little obvious. I have a framed pic of Steven and I in San Francisco. I can't tell you the number of times people ask who he is, or comments. Especially IT guys who come to work on my computer.

Every situation is different, including yours. You come out to co-workers at your own pace, but my advice it just to let it happen naturally.

That's pretty much how I've handled it as well.

My favorite reaction was when I started my current job, and a co-worked asked if I was married and I said "No, I have a partner" and she said "Oh, I'm sorry!" to which I replied "I'm not. He's a great guy!"

 

[wallyb]

I just Bring in my Cher doll collection and set it up on my desk -
Question answered!

 

[rpmdfw]

Question answered!

Oh, Wally. Something tells me that after meeting you, the question never even gets asked.

 

[wallyb]

Oh, Wally. Something tells me that after meeting you, the question never even gets asked.

Subtlety is soooooo overrated!

 

[Sphyrna]

I can't tell you the number of times people ask who he is, or comments. Especially IT guys who come to work on my computer.

I'm an IT guy who goes to people's desk to work on their computer! What are you saying? I do enjoy looking at what people have posted on their walls and desk, sometimes.