No problem. When I first started looking there was like no information about the CG anywhere - and even less for an evening reception, so I'm happy to share what I've learned.
We're having a group of 30-50, so the rules made sense for us... With such a tiny group, I suppose it wouldn't hurt to ask - the worst they could say is no, which you're expecting anyway, right?
"California style" is "family style" not really sure why they don't just call it that... I think it's just to confuse you... I had to ask too
We chose the Healdsburg Dinner (we wanted the Calistoga, but our guest list of un-adventurous eaters made us choose this one - Salmon, Beef, and Chicken are pretty safe choices) which is normally $80 per person.
We added the
California Vegetable Wrap with Herb Aïoli ($6)
Petite Crab Cakes with Sauce Rémoulade ($10)
for the pre-reception - we're using both the Napa and Sonoma rooms, so we wanted 2 "events"
We're keeping the Assortment of Oven Baked Flatbreads and having them passed in the Pre-receptoon as well.
We cut out the Sonoma Goat Cheese Ravioli as we know our guest list and though I think goat cheese is a gift from heaven, most people wouldn't, and since we added the passed items, we decided to cut that.
We also cut the Banana Bread Pudding, as we're having wedding cake.
The modified price of the Healdsburg dinner is $65 per person, plus the $16 from the pre-reception items, we're back to $80 - well okay - $81. So by adjusting things and spending an extra dollar, we're getting a menu that's much more us...
The menu thing was an issue for me at first too, becuase I liked peices of all of them, but wasn't sold on any of them, but being able to delete items, and add the "enhancements" really helped.
There is flexibility, but you have to work within their peramiters. If you're willing to get creative, I'm sure you can make it work...
For instance - if you like the teriyaki filet... what about adding the "Beef Skewers with Teriyaki Glaze" to be passed as an apetizer as guests enter? And then deleting one of the other courses?
Are you having a dinner or lunch reception?