Burial Plot? Kind of a creepy thread but hey, it's almost Halloween.

[KelNottAt]

My husband and both kids know I do NOT want to planted in the ground. Cremate me and dump my ashes where the Potomac meets the Chesapeake. Do it from the Maryland side, do it from the Virginia side, do it from a boat. I don't care.

The last thing I want is to be a decaying body permanently stuck in a place that will become an occassional obligation for visits or holiday decoration.

When I'm gone, GO! Get on with your life and be happy for the time we had. Think of me every time you enter the open water or eat a crab!

 

[Sparx]

All I know is that if anyone even THINKS about having me cremated I will haunt them till the end of time!

I have fire issues.

 

[kaylajr]

All I know is that if anyone even THINKS about having me cremated I will haunt them till the end of time!

I have fire issues.

Exactly how I feel

both of my parents want to be creamated so I will respect there wishes but
I don't have to like it

my parents and i have spent Years in the fire service protecting people from fire
to me it is a cruel joke for them to end up in one
but it is there wish
Just hope my Brother is around when the time comes

My grandmother was cremated and I had to pick up the box at the funeral home and drive it to the cemetary
ihad the creeps the whole ride

 

[aka-mad4themouse]

My in-laws bought 6 plots when they purchased theirs --two for themselves and 1 each for their sons and DILs. Now, I really like my in-laws but the thought of spending eternity next to my MIL???? I told DH that if I died first and he buries me in that plot, I coming back to haunt him every remaining night of his life. Since the man really likes his sleep, it sounded like an effective threat.

 

[Chattyaholic]

DH and I bought a 5-grave plot in a nearby cemetery many years ago, when our children were still small. It was only $100 and includes eternal care. We have not gotten our headstone yet, but we're starting to think about it more. Personally I would like to be cremated, and if I die before DH I'd like my ashes saved and then buried with him when he dies. He doesn't care one way or the other if he's cremated or not. Our son has a problem with me being cremated though so I don't know if it will happen. I hate to insist on it, as I won't know the difference anyway once I'm dead and gone, but if it's going to bother him for the rest of his life maybe it would be better not to do it. But if I could be buried with DH that would free up one of the sites, so we'd have four left to give to our children if they would wish to use them one day.

My parents have their burial plots, and headstone. A double heart with their birthdates on either side, and in the center are entwined wedding rings with their marriage date. On Dad's side is a bowling pin as he used to love to bowl when he was able, and on Mom's side is a ball of yarn and crochet hook as she loves to crochet. I even have a photo of the stone, with my parents on either side. Some may think it's morbid, but I don't. They have also pre-planned their funerals and paid for them as well. They picked out their caskets and what type of service they want, etc. Even partially wrote the obituaries already too. Death is a part of life, we all have to deal with it, some will deal with it better than others.

 

[NMAmy]

and thanks for the laugh about your not haulin your cookies to England thing!

You're welcome, pattyT. Dh thought it was pretty amusing, as well, since he wants to be cremated but begged me to just let his parents go first before I go giving away his burial plot--particularly to his SIL because my MIL is not very fond of her.

 

[Martha7]

Sometimes the issue of burial plans becomes a huge issue in the family. When parents buy the burial plots ahead of time, it can create tension with the other side of the family. My DH's parents have their plots together with other family members in Texas. My Mom has already passed away, and my DB doesn't have any issues with us being buried out of state, but if my family had wanted us to be buried near them, it would cause problems. It seems to be the ultimate "choosing sides!" I think sometimes it's better to keep your own burial plans from your parents and in-laws. My DH and I have discussed our wishes with each other, but we keep it to ourselves. That way, hopefully his parents will predecease us and no big family issues will arise. They haven't really pushed the point either. There are a few plots left and they've let us know that they're up for grabs. I guess we'll see who "wins" that race!

 

[chesirechik]

My Dad works at a funeral home and cemetary. I've had burial plots since I was 16 and my brother since he was 12! My parents purchased 6 plots (2 for them, 2 for me, 2 for brother) when both set of grandparents purchased plots in the same "garden" of the cemetary.

When my grandmother died a year ago we all went down to see her casket lowered into the vault. My Dad nudged me and said see that stone next to her vault? That's yours. Thanks for creeping me out, Dad!

 

[NMAmy]

When my grandmother died a year ago we all went down to see her casket lowered into the vault. My Dad nudged me and said see that stone next to her vault? That's yours. Thanks for creeping me out, Dad!

I used to work at a dealership where the local mortician would bring his car for service. When he'd say, "Hi, how are you?" to one of my co-workers, the co-worker would say, "I'm FINE." I laughed so hard and asked my co-worker if he thought the poor guy was trying to drum up some business.

I want to spend the least amount of money possible--I think I'll take my dad's route of being cremated and just letting either DH or DD keep the ashes or bury them as they wish.

Mom takes Dad from house to house with her when she goes back and forth to the cottage in the summer. She likes to have him around to talk to which I think is kind of nice. Right after he died, she brought his ashes to my uncle's house for dinner--really to show the container she'd bought but I told her we all loved Dad but if she didn't stop taking him on outings, people were going to think she'd lost it.

 

[Maleficent13]

I probably should think about it, but I don't wanna and you can't make me! So there!

 

[experiment626mom]

My parents have owned 4 plots since the 70's. considering there's 5 of us in the family, I've all ways found this strange. So far my uncle and my dad are buried there. My mom's headstone is all ready there, all I'll have to do is add her death date. She wanted it that way. She had really specific ideas about what she wanted so when dad passed she felt it was a good time to pick it all out.

DH and I have discussed paying off our cremations through the Cremation Society of Illinios. What will happen to our ashes is a big????

 

[froglady]

My grandfather bought a family plot (10 gravesites)in an old, small town cemetary (Warren, RI) back in the twenties. He, both grandmothers, and my father's cremains are buried there; my mother will be cremated and I'll bring her ashes to join Dad's in the same grave. That leaves six graves for the rest of the family, if they choose to be buried.

 

[NMAmy]

I probably should think about it, but I don't wanna and you can't make me! So there!

Nanner, nanner, nanner. I ALREADY made you think about it!

 

[Martha7]

Too bad we can't be scattered in WDW! Actually, DL would be fine with me too! (I can just picture my family dumping my ashes in a corner of the MK parking lot!)