BUDGET ways to annouce an adoption!!

[newtodis]

I need help in the next hour or so.

PLEASE no flames or views...I know everyone had different thoughts, feelings and opinions not only on adoption but when to share the news about it.

A friend of mine has a foster daughter who is pregnant. She asked us to adopt the baby. After much praying and thinking and discussing, we've asked our friends who are unable to have children to consider. They accepted this week (just waiting for the legal fun to begin) and want to tell the wife's family this weekend. What are some fun ways to share that they're praying this adoption will go through without a hitch???? My friend's foster daughter is having a girl (confirmed by 4D ultrasound).

TIA for any help!!

 

[jellybeans0607]

They could pick up a phone and tell thim. I guess thats the approach i would take. Unless they are looking for gifts from a babyshower, then I would send out invites to a shower.

 

[newtodis]

No they're just going to visit the family for the weekend and looking for a fun way (without breaking the bank) to tell them instead of just blurting it out.

I'm throwing her a shower so she doesn't have to worry about that at all!

 

[Resseda]

Adoption can be sooooo touchy right up until the papers are signed, as excited as I'm sure they are, I wouldn't make a fuss about it until everything is final or very, very close to it.

Ress

 

[jeepgirl30]

When we told my parents about our DD, I put a Winnie the Pooh bootie in a picture frame. The frame was a baby frame for grandparents. I wrapped that up for them and it took them a second but they got it!

For MIL it was her bday so we got her a card that was to "grandma".

I think announcing a baby is announcing a baby adoption or however!

 

[sk!mom]

Adoption can be sooooo touchy right up until the papers are signed, as excited as I'm sure they are, I wouldn't make a fuss about it until everything is final or very, very close to it.

Ress

Agreed- I would wait until things were very close to finalized before I told a lot of people.

 

[newtodis]

Adoption can be sooooo touchy right up until the papers are signed, as excited as I'm sure they are, I wouldn't make a fuss about it until everything is final or very, very close to it.

Ress

I'm fully aware of this but they would like to share with their family at this point. I'm just helping to get ideas.

When we told my parents about our DD, I put a Winnie the Pooh bootie in a picture frame. The frame was a baby frame for grandparents. I wrapped that up for them and it took them a second but they got it!

For MIL it was her bday so we got her a card that was to "grandma".

I think announcing a baby is announcing a baby adoption or however!

What a cute idea!

 

[DisHokie]

CONGRATS TO THEM! (i will keep them in my prayers!) Adoption is such a great thing! I love the frame idea!

 

[ExPirateShopGirl]

I wouldn't spend a dime on any sort of momento to break the news on an adoption that may or may not go through.

Have your friend gather her family around and have a bottle of something to toast with. Break the news with the toast and allow each family member to make a toast. That's special and won't leave a haunting little souvenir if it does not go through.

 

[danilynn19]

Actually when we got pg with DS we went in the woods and broke off a branch off the tree and gave it to MIL and FIL. They didn't understand until we told them we were adding a branch to the family tree.
They loved it! I know it's not the "same" thing, but they are still added a branch to the family tree right? And if HEAVEN FORBID everything doesn't work out there's isn't anything really just staring them in the face and reminding them.

I will keep them in my prayers too!!

 

[blackforest]

What is the BirthMom's due date?

We only had 2 weeks notice, and DD was due 12/22. We stopped at DMom and DStepDad's and announced, "We just wanted to let you know that we might not be here for Christmas." Of course DMom was like "Why"? "Well, we might be out-of-state getting our new baby!" Not a dry eye in the house!

 

[KristinU]

Actually when we got pg with DS we went in the woods and broke off a branch off the tree and gave it to MIL and FIL. They didn't understand until we told them we were adding a branch to the family tree.
They loved it! I know it's not the "same" thing, but they are still added a branch to the family tree right? And if HEAVEN FORBID everything doesn't work out there's isn't anything really just staring them in the face and reminding them.

I will keep them in my prayers too!!

I love the branch idea!

When we told our families that we were in the adoption process we just did the old fashioned thing and said "we have some pretty big news to share...". My parents were in town visiting, so we told them in person and we called his parents to share the news. That certainly was the budget way to go

For folks at work I just brought in DS's referral picture and kept it on my desk...so when people asked who the baby was I told them!

 

[Shmily1]

When I found out about DS coming, we were talking to my parents about Christmas shopping so I told DM not to buy me clothes. She knew I loved to get clothes, so that stunned her!! When she asked me why, I just told her they wouldn't fit for a while!!! Then she got it!!

 

[An_Island_Girl]

Congratulations to your friend! What an exiting time for everyone involved.

With the holidays coming up, it seems like the perfect time to make the big announcement. Some how the holidays make us value "family" so much more.

If the due date is arriving soon, then I'm sure they will want to break the great news as soon as possible. My SIL's parents always called the dogs thier "grand-puppies", so she put a t-shirt she made on the dog (a lab) that said something like "Will you love me as much when the baby comes?"

 

[Judy Judy Judy]

How fun...I couldn't wait to tell my parents either if it were me.

Just off the top of my head, why not go to the Christian Book store in your area and buy one of those nice prayer journals and write on the first page, " Praying all goes well for our baby blah..blah".

It's a nice way to keep a record of first thought and feeling and excitments and later on in life it will become very special to the child as an adult, to see her arrival in print.

And then as time draws near and everything is set you can get them a grandparents photo album.

Godspeed on everything going great!!!!!!!

 

[Kellydelly]

I think it would be a lot more fun to show up with the actual baby and watch their jaws drop when they say she's theirs .

 

[dimimi]

When we wanted to announce that we (I) were pregnant, I gave my parents a card to grandparents....they got it! It was a fun way to announce the good news.

In this case, I think I would be careful how many people I told until the legal process was started. This sounds a bit tricky.

 

[crisi]

Our adoption was a lengthier process. So first we informed our families that we were thinking about adopting. Then we informed them that we'd put in our application and were working on our homestudy. Then we were able to tell them we had a referral - because we adopted from Korea we didn't have a lot of concerns about it not going through - so when we had a referral and photo we pretty much let everyone know. Then when we got the call, we called all our relatives.

We did host a brunch when we got our referral with a mimosa toast for our immediate families with "Its a Boy" balloons and frames with the referral photo in it for the grandparents.

I know so many people who have had their hearts broken in domestic adoption - I'd treat this like a risky pregnancy - let only immediate family know, and in such a way that they keep their hopes at a cautious level - and not spread the news around to someone who will spring "where is the baby" on them six months from now if it falls through. Agree on no momentos. There will be plenty of time for celebration when things are more sure.

 

[lntsmom]

With a private adoption...well, you need to know the laws in your state. I think if I were them I'd just tell them face-to-face: Hey, here's the situation. Keep us in your prayers.

I worked with a man who had gone through 2 failed adoptions before he and his wife had a successful one. In the first one they had even paid for medical care...and had taken the baby home from the hospital. The state they were in (I think it was Oklahoma and this was back in the early 80's) allowed birth moms some time even after giving the baby up physically to reneg on the deal.

So, while for right now it appears all is well and there won't be a hitch, I wouldn't do anything that looks like celebrating.

 

[JandJ]

We are going through a domestic private adoption right now - in fact we just got the call that our Home Visit will be in 1 week and then we are, finally, officially waiting - YAY!!

Like crisi, DH and I have had time to prepare our families and told them we're going to adopt; we chose an agency; we're in the Home Study. As PPs have said, sometimes even the most seemingly committed birthmom can change her mind after a match is made and that is scary. Having said that, I will not hesitate to tell our family and friends when we get that match. It will be very exciting and we'll want to share the news. If, God forbid, it falls through, well, it will be heartbreaking (having been through infertility treatments for 2+ years we're getting used to heartbreak). But I wouldn't not tell them because it may not happen. IMO, think positively and be excited about it!! I think they should just tell them in person. We aren't planning any momento or event to tell our families, we'll just tell them and I know they will be thrilled for us. My BFF already wants to throw me a baby shower but I won't let her until we have the baby in our arms and everything is legal.