Bridezilla email and Bridesmaid response!

[focusondisney]

That letter is just too much. I'd decline being in that dragon bride's wedding. And I'd do it in a crisp, business like email. Something to the effect of....

"Dear Bride,

I really must decline the precious honor of partaking in your wedding. You see, I have several OTHER friends who would like me to be in their weddings and frankly, yours didn't make the cut. I have a strict set of guidelines when considering becoming someone's bridesmaid. They do not include being demeaned in a poorly written business email that demands 100% of my time from February to August. Sorry. Good luck to your future husband, I hope he read the contract BEFORE he decided to accept the HONOR of being your groom.

PS, could you please respond to this email within two minutes of receiving? I'm sure you have your cell phone on you so really, there's no excuse not to. Thanks!"

Great response!

 

[LBIJim]

The spelling and grammar are atrocious and the tone of the e-mail is kind of nasty, but the bride IS letting everyone know up front what is expected. It's better to let them know now rather than springing surprises and causing problems later. The bride seems to be OK with the possibility that some might decline the "honor" of being her bridesmaid. That said, she still seems like a piece of work.

Jim

 

[A_Princess'_Daddy]

I guess my question would be, why would your DW "dutifully put up with it"? Sounds like it was annoying from the start. If there's that much drama and "direction" involved, then decline the invite and send a card.

I really have no problem with people stating flat-out exactly what they want, as long as I have the option of saying, "Um ... no." And I'd rather know what's expected of me up front, so that if I DO say yes, I'm doing that with full disclosure.

But spelling does count. As does grammar.

Sorry, I was typing late at night and not fully cognizant of what I was writing (we'd been to a dinner party with much wine ). I meant to say that she didn't send a snarky reply or actively foment a revolt (despite really wanting to), she simply let her "friend" know that we couldn't make most of the events, we went to the wedding, and that was the end of it (both the wedding and the friendship).

With the wedding she was actually in, the bride was not as bad, and it was more of the "frog in the pot" approach, whereby her behavior gradually became worse and worse, and by the time we realized how out of control she was, we were at the wedding and basically gritted her teeth through it. Again, however, it changed their friendship both because DW lost a lot of respect for her friend and because the friend thought DW wasn't "supportive".

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Dear Bridezilla. Regrettably, I will be unable to serve as your bridesmaid because I have a previous engagement with another bride who isn't asking me to be her slave, isn't treating me as dirt under her feet, and is genuinely honored to have me as her bridesmaid. Nor am I stuck playing slave to her mother. Please express my deepest sympathy to your husband to be and have a nice life.

Sincerely yours,

...............

 

[Andtototoo]

I have absolutely no doubt that, should my sister-in-law ever find a man who is actually willing to marry her, she will be very much like this. She will tell us how to wear our nails, how to wear our hair (and if it is too long or too short for the style, we will no doubt have to cut it or get extensions), that we need to be present at every function, exactly what kind of bachelorette party she wants that we will be paying for, how we are to act at said party, what we should wear to said party, etc.

I once had my invitation to be a bridesmaid rescinded the day before the wedding when the bride realized I don't look good with my hair up. And we all HAD to have our hair up. NO exceptions. So I was cut from the wedding and one bridesmaid came down the aisle with two groomsmen. Needless to say, we are no longer friends.

 

[ilovepcot]

I can't get over the fact this "creature" has 10 friends.

 

[minkydog]

I can't get over the fact this "creature" has 10 friends.

That's what I was thinking. I couldn't come up with 10 friends even if I threw in my 3 sisters and my mom. And I'm a nice person!

 

[ilovepcot]

That's what I was thinking. I couldn't come up with 10 friends even if I threw in my 3 sisters and my mom. And I'm a nice person!

OMG...I tried to hit the "like" button on your response. What can I say...I'm tired.

 

[goofinoff]

Think this story is going to be on the Today Show!!!

 

[lorimay]

Think this story is going to be on the Today Show!!!

I just saw it!

I'm wondering if she's going to come out of the woodwork now.

 

[jujube]

Lowering the bar by giving this crazy woman attention.

 

[lovin'fl]

They were just discussing this on The Talk. And Josh Morrow was on there from Y&R too...bonus! He made comments about not wanting to be this groom or feeling sorry for this groom.

 

[design_mom]

I once had my invitation to be a bridesmaid rescinded the day before the wedding when the bride realized I don't look good with my hair up. And we all HAD to have our hair up. NO exceptions. So I was cut from the wedding and one bridesmaid came down the aisle with two groomsmen. Needless to say, we are no longer friends.

You've got to be kidding! My SIL made me wear the hairstyle she'd chosen, then complained that I didn't look good in it, but she did not cut me from the wedding. That takes a lot of nerve!

 

[marthachick]

Wow. Just wow. I can't imagine actually agreeing to be a bridesmaid for this woman, because as bad as this sounds (and it is poorly written) she's probably going to be worse in real life. I have a standard answer for stuff like this. "I have other plans". Meaning I plan not to do this! Works for a myriad of things.

 

[okeydokey]

I wonder is Bridezilla will figure out who leaked the letter? Too funny.

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

I once had my invitation to be a bridesmaid rescinded the day before the wedding when the bride realized I don't look good with my hair up. And we all HAD to have our hair up. NO exceptions. So I was cut from the wedding and one bridesmaid came down the aisle with two groomsmen. Needless to say, we are no longer friends.

That is absolutely ridiculous. My theory when it came to my wedding? No matter what I chose, in 20 years, my kids would make fun of the clothes, hair, and decorations, so why really stress about it?

 

[Jaya]

That is absolutely ridiculous. My theory when it came to my wedding? No matter what I chose, in 20 years, my kids would make fun of the clothes, hair, and decorations, so why really stress about it?

Oh, absolutely. I remember asking my mother if she had stuck her finger in a lightsocket just before the wedding. My daughter wanted to know what the heck was growing on top of my head...a beehive? Her daughter said her mom's wedding hairdo looked like a marshmallow exploded in the microwave. Get the pattern?

 

[Jaya]

That's what I was thinking. I couldn't come up with 10 friends even if I threw in my 3 sisters and my mom. And I'm a nice person!

I can't even imagine what it would be like trying to coordinate the outfits for 10 bridesmaids. All you would hear is 10 versions of: "I look terrible in yellow/red/green/blue/purple/black"...."I don't like strapless dresses"....."I want to wear a strapless dresses"....."I don't like long dresses"....."I hate short dresses"......"that dress makes me look fat"......"I can't wear those shoes"..... A young relative is getting married next summer and she has told all the bridesmaids to show up in knee-length black dresses of their choice and black 2-3" pumps. At last....a bridesmaid dress that you CAN wear again! Remember the old days: "...and you can shorten it and wear it to a party...." (yeah, right, electric blue satin with puffed sleeves and an enormous butt-bow....)

 

[Hollywoodhaha]

I can't even imagine what it would be like trying to coordinate the outfits for 10 bridesmaids. All you would hear is 10 versions of: "I look terrible in yellow/red/green/blue/purple/black"...."I don't like strapless dresses"....."I want to wear a strapless dresses"....."I don't like long dresses"....."I hate short dresses"......"that dress makes me look fat"......"I can't wear those shoes"..... A young relative is getting married next summer and she has told all the bridesmaids to show up in knee-length black dresses of their choice and black 2-3" pumps. At last....a bridesmaid dress that you CAN wear again! Remember the old days: "...and you can shorten it and wear it to a party...." (yeah, right, electric blue satin with puffed sleeves and an enormous butt-bow....)

my dress for my sister's wedding was like that. it was black and had lace on the bottom and I re-wore it for prom a few months later!

 

[Elinor Dashwood]

my dress for my sister's wedding was like that. it was black and had lace on the bottom and I re-wore it for prom a few months later!

Wow!

My sister picked out our bridesmaid dresses. I was her MOH and she asked me specifically if there were anything I didn't want in a dress. I had just had a baby and wasn't feeling particularly glamorous so I said please, nothing sleeveless or tight. Well, it was....wait for it....BOTH sleeveless AND tight! I could have strangled her. What made it worse was that it was mighty tight across the bust. Uh, guess what nursing breasts look like in a tight satin dress?