Bridesmaid Help

[AlpengeistPrincess]

Hello! I have a question in which I need the opinions of the brides on here. Everyone is so sweet and kind and I just need a true opinion.

My wedding party is going to be 4 girls. I have my best friend who is my maid of honor and then two other girls that include my cousin and my best friend from high school. I need to decide who to include as the last bridesmaid. I have two girls that I am considered. My top choice would be my friend C because of other things that my friend A has done.

A was my roommate on my college program and is a friend from my college. We live in the same house and cook together many nights a week.

However, A constantly argues with me about everything and every decsion that I make. She accuses me constantly of "living in a fairytale world" and in my own little world. She does not understand that I live my life different then her as I pay all of my own college tuition and my own expenses for the most part. My family supports me but the majority comes from me. I spend probally 3-4 nights a week away from campus with my fiance as I am in the mindset that I'm gonna spend time with him while I can.

She puts my choices down constantly and has told me that I have no clue why I'm getting married or that I'm not strong enough to get married.

Am I crazy for not wanting to include A?

 

[iluvasoldier]

Hello! I have a question in which I need the opinions of the brides on here. Everyone is so sweet and kind and I just need a true opinion.

My wedding party is going to be 4 girls. I have my best friend who is my maid of honor and then two other girls that include my cousin and my best friend from high school. I need to decide who to include as the last bridesmaid. I have two girls that I am considered. My top choice would be my friend C because of other things that my friend A has done.

A was my roommate on my college program and is a friend from my college. We live in the same house and cook together many nights a week.

However, A constantly argues with me about everything and every decsion that I make. She accuses me constantly of "living in a fairytale world" and in my own little world. She does not understand that I live my life different then her as I pay all of my own college tuition and my own expenses for the most part. My family supports me but the majority comes from me. I spend probally 3-4 nights a week away from campus with my fiance as I am in the mindset that I'm gonna spend time with him while I can.

She puts my choices down constantly and has told me that I have no clue why I'm getting married or that I'm not strong enough to get married.

Am I crazy for not wanting to include A?

A IS THE CRAZY ONE! I know friendship isn't all about sugar-coating but to always be negative makes you wonder sometimes why you're even friends, or at least in my world.

I think C would be a wonderful choice. Heck if A doesn't understand why you're getting married and says you aren't strong enough I'd almost consider not inviting her for hear of her objecting just to be able to publicly put her two cent in.

Just MO

 

[tric8783]

I would definitely NOT include your friend A. Speaking from experience, I have 7 BM, including one girl I asked because I felt I couldn't not ask her. Now I am finding myself trying to not tell her things so I don't have to hear her opinion and I'm really trying to not let her ruin this experience for me. Save yourself the trouble, you will be happy in the end!!

 

[MrsDuck]

I would not include A! At all. Nor would I feel bad about not including her.

 

[transfergirl]

Is she worth the drama? There's your answer.

 

[Jilian]

I don't think you should include friend A. Heck, I don't think "friend" A sounds much like a friend at all. Wedding planning can get really stressful, even more so with a destination wedding. You want a friend in your corner who will be helpful and talk you down when you're having a bridezilla moment, not someone who doesn't even know why you're getting married.

 

[elfbo]

Just remember, if you dont involve A, and she expects to be part of your wedding, you are going to have to deal with that (since it seems your rooming with her and cant just hide, lol).

But i personally wouldnt have A be part of mine either. Wedding planning is stressful enough without having to add dealing with her, and her negativity to the mix.

 

[AlpengeistPrincess]

A IS THE CRAZY ONE! I know friendship isn't all about sugar-coating but to always be negative makes you wonder sometimes why you're even friends, or at least in my world.

I think C would be a wonderful choice. Heck if A doesn't understand why you're getting married and says you aren't strong enough I'd almost consider not inviting her for hear of her objecting just to be able to publicly put her two cent in.

Just MO

Yeah, she used to not be this negative. I honestly think that she is jealous. Her boyfriend basically told her that he's not getting engaged anytime soon, the earliest would be 4 years from now. They have been together for 5 years now or so.

I would definitely NOT include your friend A. Speaking from experience, I have 7 BM, including one girl I asked because I felt I couldn't not ask her. Now I am finding myself trying to not tell her things so I don't have to hear her opinion and I'm really trying to not let her ruin this experience for me. Save yourself the trouble, you will be happy in the end!!

Thanks!

Just remember, if you dont involve A, and she expects to be part of your wedding, you are going to have to deal with that (since it seems your rooming with her and cant just hide, lol).

But i personally wouldnt have A be part of mine either. Wedding planning is stressful enough without having to add dealing with her, and her negativity to the mix.

Ummm yeah. She comes in my room all the time about it....Hiding isn't an option.

I don't think you should include friend A. Heck, I don't think "friend" A sounds much like a friend at all. Wedding planning can get really stressful, even more so with a destination wedding. You want a friend in your corner who will be helpful and talk you down when you're having a bridezilla moment, not someone who doesn't even know why you're getting married.

Thanks! That's what I keep thinking.

Is she worth the drama? There's your answer.

I keep hoping the drama will die down.

I would not include A! At all. Nor would I feel bad about not including her.

Thanks!

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Thank you for your wonderful advice! I really need to sit down and think about it. She is a friend when she wants to be but I don't need the drama.