Bridal shower gift

[Darcy03231]

One of my go-to gifts is a rechargeable flashlight. My ex and I received one as a wedding gift. I thought it was odd at the time but wrote a nice thank-you note. 30 years later the ex is gone and I still have the flashlight. I bless that man every time the power goes out. I can't tell you who gave us what other than that one gift.

 

[SirDuff]

One of my go-to gifts is a rechargeable flashlight. My ex and I received one as a wedding gift. I thought it was odd at the time but wrote a nice thank-you note. 30 years later the ex is gone and I still have the flashlight. I bless that man every time the power goes out. I can't tell you who gave us what other than that one gift.

I've given smoke detectors, fire extinguishers, and co monitors as wedding gifts. A couple of times, when I visit, a friend will point to one and say "You're still keeping us safe" (or some other wording).

 

[McKelly]

My parents gave my DH and I a card table and chairs at the wedding shower. I still use that thing 25+ years later - well the chairs anyway - the table broke. My adult kids finally did it in...

 

[DreamIsaWish]

What would the note say? “I already gave you money towards the wedding so no shower gift for you”

I guess I'm sentimental, but I'd find something more eloquent, like "I will always treasure all the time we've spent together planning this special day for you. Of course you have our financial support as your shower and wedding gift, but know that you will forever have our emotional support as you start your own new family."

 

[mjkacmom]

I guess I'm sentimental, but I'd find something more eloquent, like "I will always treasure all the time we've spent together planning this special day for you. Of course you have our financial support as your shower and wedding gift, but know that you will forever have our emotional support as you start your own new family."

So they’re not giving a wedding gift too? I think reading that note in front of shower guests would be awkward, especially when people are waiting to see what the gift is, because even though it is worded nicer than mine, it means the same thing. I think it would be less awkward to buy a blender.

 

[unrequited23]

Do you have any 'secret' or cherished family recipes, like Great Aunt Ida's Famous Carrot Cake? If so, I would get a recipe book, put in the family recipes and blank pages for recipes of her own and include a note about passing on old family traditions while looking forward to making new traditions with her.

 

[DreamIsaWish]

So they’re not giving a wedding gift too? I think reading that note in front of shower guests would be awkward, especially when people are waiting to see what the gift is, because even though it is worded nicer than mine, it means the same thing. I think it would be less awkward to buy a blender.

I wasn't expecting the note to be read at the shower, and specifically said so. (And actually the OP said that the wedding cost was an early wedding present: "We gave the kids a few thousand dollars to to help with the wedding. We told them that this was a early wedding gift." so to answer your first question, yes they are not giving a wedding gift, too)

I never read the cards or any heartfelt handwritten notes at my shower, wedding, birthday party, or any other occasion. I read the card to myself, look up and say thank you, and move on. No one has ever questioned. We just move on to the next gift.

But it seems we will just have to agree to disagree, as what works in one family or social circle may not work in another.

 

[DreamIsaWish]

Do you have any 'secret' or cherished family recipes, like Great Aunt Ida's Famous Carrot Cake? If so, I would get a recipe book, put in the family recipes and blank pages for recipes of her own and include a note about passing on old family traditions while looking forward to making new traditions with her.

I love this sentimental route! A friend of mine in college did something similar with her family recipes as a present to me when she was on a very tight budget. I still use those recipes 25+ years later and have added my own.

 

[gopack]

Southerner here-gift off registry for shower gift and money for wedding gift.