Bridal shower etiquette...who pay's????

[georgina]

It's always interesting reading wedding posts. I've never been to a bridal shower that wasn't in an individual's home, for relatives and friends. Something large enough to be in a church hall sounds more like a wedding reception to me!

 

[Nztara]

We had this discussion at work a while ago. A younger co-worker said in her area it was common to have large showers at restaurants in her hometown. She was a bridesmaid and struggling with the expense of the shower the mother of the bride wanted for her daughter. The bridesmaids had to sit the MOB down and explain what they could afford vs. what MOB wanted. MOB decided to pay for the majority of the shower herself to make it what she wanted it to be.

 

[LovesTimone]

Around here the Matron or Maid of Honor, and bridesmaids normally pay for the Bridal Shower, My Daughter got married a year in a half ago, Her MoH and the other bridesmaid had her shower at the MoH moms house. The MoH called and asked me if I would make a watermelon basket for the shower, which the answer was of course, and I footed the bill for it.

I have been to a several showers given by the brides mother or grooms mother. I really did not think anything about it.

 

[aprilgail2]

It's always interesting reading wedding posts. I've never been to a bridal shower that wasn't in an individual's home, for relatives and friends. Something large enough to be in a church hall sounds more like a wedding reception to me!

I have not been to one in a home since the 1970's- they are all out at halls or restaurants - the maid of honor and brides maids pay. My friends daughter was getting married and the bridal party didn't have that much money so she chipped in behind the scenes but was not the "host"

 

[kymom99]

I was given a baby shower at my SIL's house back in '99. Also one at my friend's house. My aunts and sister had one for me at my church hall. I have been to showers at condo clubhouses. that is where I had my niece's wedding shower. her baby shower was at my sister's house. When I got married the first time, my aunts had a huge shower with all ages at my aunt's house in her yard. It was so much fun and just beautiful. They sure knew how to throw a party! The only time guests were ever asked to pay for a shower was for coworker showers where we would all go to a restaurant. Each paid for their own food.

 

[NJlauren]

I think from reading all the reply's it all totally depends on that brides family and where they live. Where I live it is almost always hosted and paid for by the MOB or MOG or both. However a very close friend of mine (who was in my wedding) who is not from around her was shocked by this and said by her the bridesmaids always host and pay.

So all in all, i think there is no over arching answer anymore. I know my MIL was insistent that my bridesmaids already had enough expenses related to the wedding and didn't want them to have to lay out more money.