Bridal Shower--- do you give "sexy" gifts or practical?

[MomNeedsVacay]

I've also (I say also b/c I started a different invitation thread) been invited to an upcoming bridal shower. At my bridal shower I received mostly lingerie, candles, xx books etc... .
I've been invited to a bridal shower and my first instinct would be to buy something naughty for the bride-to-be. At the bottom of the invite, in really tiny lettering, it states where the bride is registered. To me, this says "buy something off of her registry"...although I usually save the registry gifts for the actual wedding present...
I don't want to be the one boring person who brings the boring toaster. I also don't want to be the inappropriate guest who brings thongs and edible lotion. What do you usually bring to a bridal shower?

 

[Stacerita]

I usually bring a personal gift to the bride at her bridal shower. Usually bath and body baskets or other pampering type things. I save the registry gift for the wedding, and I bring the naughty stuff to the bachelorette party.

 

[bumbershoot]

I would never think I could choose something like that for another person (though one of my friends bought me a pretty lacy white thing for me...she chose well, it was amazing). And it might embarrass the person, so I'd just get stuff from the registry.

From my experience, getting stuff from the registry, or other household items you like to give people, is just as thrilling as the lingerie, LOL.


Oh, and people put the info for registries on invites like that mainly as a convenience to their guests, not b/c they will ONLY like things from their registries. Saves about 1000 phone calls from being made.


And *whatever you do* do NOT buy something sexy for the groom. Friend of a friend of mine did that, and not many months after the wedding, groom left my friend for the gift-giver. YUCK. So NO thongs for the groom.

 

[Serena]

It depends on the person and how well I know them.

 

[NMAmy]

Who is giving this shower? Will the bride and groom's mothers, grandmothers, elderly aunts be in attendance or is it mainly friends and coworkers? That makes a huge difference to me. I mean, who wants to open a racy book or gifts in questionable taste in front of the husband-to-be's grandma?

I usually go for gifts from the registry. But, then again, I'm in the mother of the bride age bracket now so take my advice accordingly.

 

[Cool-Beans]

To me, buying stuff like that is just too personal. I don't even imagine people I know "doing it", much less buy the props. I wouldn't do it. But, that's me.

And in few years, she'll be happier that she got the good mixing bowls, anyway.

 

[breezy1077]

Personal/practical gift for shower - sexy gift for bachelorette party.

 

[Aimeedyan]

In my area, a bridal shower is not for personal items but practical items from the registry.

A personal shower or bachelorette party is for personal items, and is typically a small group of girlfriends of the bride.

I would be embarassed for the shower guest if they strayed from the norm and brought something naughty to one of our showers - esp since the groom is often there, too, along with children.

I suppose it depends on your area. Here, people don't give a gift at the wedding if they attended a shower so you give your practical item there. If the registry info is on the bottom, I assume they would like practical gifts. When I am invited to a personal shower, the invite typically lists the brides clothing sizes since most people buy an "outfit" for her. =)

 

[aprilgail2]

In my area, a bridal shower is not for personal items but practical items from the registry.

A personal shower or bachelorette party is for personal items, and is typically a small group of girlfriends of the bride.

I would be embarassed for the shower guest if they strayed from the norm and brought something naughty to one of our showers - esp since the groom is often there, too, along with children.

I suppose it depends on your area. Here, people don't give a gift at the wedding if they attended a shower so you give your practical item there. If the registry info is on the bottom, I assume they would like practical gifts. When I am invited to a personal shower, the invite typically lists the brides clothing sizes since most people buy an "outfit" for her. =)

Same here- its a gift for the house for the bridal shower, nothing kinky, most buy off the registry-thats for the bachelorette party. I would hate for someone to pick out something personal like that for me and then to have to open it in front of a room of people??? No thanks!! Weddings here are no gifts, just cash or checks but even if you went to the engagement party and brought a gift, another gift for the shower and another for the bachelorette party you still bring a gift of money or a check to the wedding, you would never not give a gift because you gave one at tthe shower!