Breast augmentation surgery etiquette (long)

[go to dw asap]

I am not trying to be rude or lewd or open up the forum for talking about breasts. I am asking this as a serious question.

In this day and time, many women are opting for increasing their size using a surgical approach. As a 'Barely A' gal first and foremost, and as a surgical nurse who has seen too much go wrong, I can honestly say that I will never consider this approach. It's not that I am knocking the ladies who do. I actually envy their courage.

I have three reasons for not adding on, and they are as follows:
1. I have two daughters, and I want them to love their bodies as they are and not feel pressured to put themselves in harm's way in order to look like Victoria's Secret says they should. I don't think I can preach what I don't practice, so I have to accept myself first and foremost, three-baby-belly and all.
2. I've seen too much go wrong at my job to ever dream of it. No surgery is minor. Heck, one of my doctor friends had a tummy tuck and lipo a few years back. The anesthesiologist, (a good friend of hers), accidentally gave her too much IV and she went into fluid overload with subsequent congestive heart failure and wound up spending a week or so in the ICU. That story has a happy ending. Another lady in our circle of friends had breast implants, lipo, and tummy tuck and went home and threw a clot and died right there in front of her kids. I'm not saying all that to be an alarmist. I realize of course that 99.7% of the time, everything goes well. It's just that, with me, if anything can go wrong, it will. And I prefer to stay alive.
3. The procedures are cost prohibitive. I would rather go to DW than have a large bosom.

With all that being said, the question I pose is this; when you notice that your friend's breasts have increased by three cup sizes overnight, and she is wearing a shirt which calls attention to the situation, what do you say?

KUDOS to those ladies out there who have the guts to go for it. SPORT THEM!! SHOW THEM!!! WISH I HAD THEM!!!

But should one compliment the new "rack", as it were? Something like, "Hello. Haven't seen you in a few weeks. I see that your breasts are now bountiful. Congratulations." Or should one just try her best to AVERT HER EYES from the new purchase?

What's right?!

I'm being serious here.

 

[Blondie]

Sorry, I'm off topic here. Cute avatar! I have a 3 month old Weim.

 

[oxfordcircus]

Sorry, I'm off topic here. Cute avatar! I have a 3 month old Weim.

Craziest dogs on the planet. I thought border collies were crazy, but my weimeraner is way crazier.

 

[DVCLiz]

I'd say, "Wow! Look at those puppies!"

But only because I'm confused - is this a bosom thread or a dog thread?

 

[Blondie]

Craziest dogs on the planet. I thought border collies were crazy, but my weimeraner is way crazier.

Weims are definitely in a class all their own!

Sorry to hijack your thread OP, carry on!

 

[ToriLammy]

I'd say, "Wow! Look at those puppies!"

But only because I'm confused - is this a bosom thread or a dog thread?

My response to a friend having the surgery would depend on how close a friend she was. A really close friend I'd probably have knowledge before the surgery so I'd compliment her on it if the surgery went well. A not so close friend, I wouldn't say anything unless they asked.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

I am not trying to be rude or lewd or open up the forum for talking about breasts. I am asking this as a serious question.

In this day and time, many women are opting for increasing their size using a surgical approach. As a 'Barely A' gal first and foremost, and as a surgical nurse who has seen too much go wrong, I can honestly say that I will never consider this approach. It's not that I am knocking the ladies who do. I actually envy their courage.

I have three reasons for not adding on, and they are as follows:
1. I have two daughters, and I want them to love their bodies as they are and not feel pressured to put themselves in harm's way in order to look like Victoria's Secret says they should. I don't think I can preach what I don't practice, so I have to accept myself first and foremost, three-baby-belly and all.
2. I've seen too much go wrong at my job to ever dream of it. No surgery is minor. Heck, one of my doctor friends had a tummy tuck and lipo a few years back. The anesthesiologist, (a good friend of hers), accidentally gave her too much IV and she went into fluid overload with subsequent congestive heart failure and wound up spending a week or so in the ICU. That story has a happy ending. Another lady in our circle of friends had breast implants, lipo, and tummy tuck and went home and threw a clot and died right there in front of her kids. I'm not saying all that to be an alarmist. I realize of course that 99.7% of the time, everything goes well. It's just that, with me, if anything can go wrong, it will. And I prefer to stay alive.
3. The procedures are cost prohibitive. I would rather go to DW than have a large bosom.

With all that being said, the question I pose is this; when you notice that your friend's breasts have increased by three cup sizes overnight, and she is wearing a shirt which calls attention to the situation, what do you say?

KUDOS to those ladies out there who have the guts to go for it. SPORT THEM!! SHOW THEM!!! WISH I HAD THEM!!!

But should one compliment the new "rack", as it were? Something like, "Hello. Haven't seen you in a few weeks. I see that your breasts are now bountiful. Congratulations." Or should one just try her best to AVERT HER EYES from the new purchase?

What's right?!

I'm being serious here.

Why do you need to say anything at all?....Also you don't seem to have your opinion straight. First you say you should love your body and accept it & then you say it is cost prohibited. Which one is it?

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

um, nice top job?


and the weims are cute

 

[lovetoscrap]

In my experience everyone that I have known that has had it done has been VERY PROUDLY showing it off. I had one friend that even wanted to show me the girls completely so I could see what a good job it was I don't think I have ever had a friend that didn't bring it up pretty quick and ask what I think of them!

 

[Lisa L from MI]

Craziest dogs on the planet. I thought border collies were crazy, but my weimeraner is way crazier.

Betcha mines crazier than yours!!!

Sorry OP....just had too!!!

And, back to the topic...I don't know what I would do in that situation....I would never consider an "increase"....a "lift" maybe (even if I am barely a B TMI)

 

[oxfordcircus]

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[lulugirl]

I usually just say "wear em' like a badge honey"

 

[oxfordcircus]

delete

 

[oxfordcircus]

I'd say, "Wow! Look at those puppies!"

But only because I'm confused - is this a bosom thread or a dog thread?

 

[lulugirl]

I'm confused, who's the OP "go to dw asap" or "oxfordcircus"?

 

[go to dw asap]

My response to a friend having the surgery would depend on how close a friend she was. A really close friend I'd probably have knowledge before the surgery so I'd compliment her on it if the surgery went well. A not so close friend, I wouldn't say anything unless they asked.

Let's say anything from moms at the gym that I just talk to casually a few days a week to good friends who live a ways off that I only see every few months, but we keep in touch via phone, email, etc. You know, one of those kinds of friends who would come to your aid in the middle of the night in a blizzard.

 

[Pam]

I'd say, "Wow! Look at those puppies!"

Or: "Down boys, down!!"

 

[lulugirl]

Nevermind...I see they are the same poster.

 

[go to dw asap]

Why do you need to say anything at all?....Also you don't seem to have your opinion straight. First you say you should love your body and accept it & then you say it is cost prohibited. Which one is it?

Ah. You raise an interesting point. I never broke it down quite that way. I stand corrected.

Also, might I say, I am TRYING to ACCEPT my body, which has had three babies and is almost forty, and is very VERY white and has some real creepy veins in the legs and crow's feet on the face, and even though I don't drink very much beer, I have a bit of a beer gut. (sigh)

I appreciate your point. You're a very Intelligent Bear.

 

[go to dw asap]

Nevermind...I see they are the same poster.

Sorry, I did not know that my husband, Oxford Circus, had logged in and I accidentally posted as him. YIKES!!!! DANG!!!