Bragging on Facebook

[Mrs.Toad]

Nobody would think it strange if said person was relaxing on the deck and reading a book. Why is relaxing on the deck and playing on FB any different from that?

And I hope I'm not the only one who had to Google "Hyacinth Bucket"...

I haven't googled yet, but have no idea what hyacinth bucket is.

I'm with you. I usually read while relaxing on the deck. Sometimes I bring the laptop out and go on the DIS or facebook. What's the difference?

I also find it incredibly ironic when people post on the community board knocking FB. Again, what's the difference?

 

[ilovemk76]

But... simply relaxing on the deck would be sooo boring to me. I'd be over in it 2 minutes. Nobody would think it strange if said person was relaxing on the deck and reading a book. Why is relaxing on the deck and playing on FB any different from that?

And I hope I'm not the only one who had to Google "Hyacinth Bucket"...

I love "Keeping up Appearances". It is an English comedy. Don't pronounce her last name like it is spelled.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

Don't pronounce her last name like it is spelled.

Hmmm... I'm guessing it's not pronounced "smith". LOL. I'm intrigued. My last name is rather long and hard to pronounce... I always joked that I was just going to tell people it was pronounced "smith" and that we just spell it differently.

Oh WAIT!!! I get it! It's pronounced "bouquet" like a bouquet of flowers, right? Cuz hyacinths are flowers??

 

[smb6]

I've got some people that annoy me on FB also... some with bragging and several looking for sympathy... A few are constantly posting things like "I have no friends, everyone hates me". And then there is 20 comments; I'm your friend", What's wrong", ect, ect... Or I even had one "friend" post how they had no money and they were going to loose everything and then the comments started about "praying for you", I'll help how I can", ... I can't imagine writing some of this stuff....

But on the other hand, I guess I have been guilty at least a little- we cruised and I posted photo's- I was not trying to brag, but rather share a glimpse of our trip with friends; I didn't go on and on about it and just posted a few pics and that was it.

And I've also posted things like "my kids did great at their awards assemblies today" - I guess that is bragging too?

So, now I'm wondering... What is an appropriate facebook post? I mean you don't want to brag... you don't want to air your problems... you don't want to ask for sympathy..... So, what kind of stuff should you be posting? This is a serious question, I don't know....

 

[phorsenuf]

So, now I'm wondering... What is an appropriate facebook post? I mean you don't want to brag... you don't want to air your problems... you don't want to ask for sympathy..... So, what kind of stuff should you be posting? This is a serious question, I don't know....

Post whatever you want. If other people don't like it, then too bad. I know I'm not going to worry if anything I post bothers people or not. If they don't want to read it, then defriend me. No skin off my teeth if they're that petty about such things.

 

[The Orchid]

I've got some people that annoy me on FB also... some with bragging and several looking for sympathy... A few are constantly posting things like "I have no friends, everyone hates me". And then there is 20 comments; I'm your friend", What's wrong", ect, ect... Or I even had one "friend" post how they had no money and they were going to loose everything and then the comments started about "praying for you", I'll help how I can", ... I can't imagine writing some of this stuff....

But on the other hand, I guess I have been guilty at least a little- we cruised and I posted photo's- I was not trying to brag, but rather share a glimpse of our trip with friends; I didn't go on and on about it and just posted a few pics and that was it.

And I've also posted things like "my kids did great at their awards assemblies today" - I guess that is bragging too?

So, now I'm wondering... What is an appropriate facebook post? I mean you don't want to brag... you don't want to air your problems... you don't want to ask for sympathy..... So, what kind of stuff should you be posting? This is a serious question, I don't know....

Bragging posts don't bother me at all! I love hearing about people's successes and joys in life as long as they are not exaggerated or done in a way to try to make themselves better than everybody else. I love seeing vacation pictures and hearing about things their children do. There are so many negative things in the world and so many people are suffering in the recession and with health issues and whatnot. Why would anybody be resentful at seeing positive stuff posted? I always look at people's vacation photos and they always make me smile. And I post mine as well! Nothing wrong with that at all. I think what bugs most people are the ones that are exaggerated or phoney.

However, the comments you bolded here......THAT irritates me. I don't have many on my friend list who do that, but my daughter has friends from her high school who always post that kind of drama. That "Oh poor me, nobody likes me" BS is just a ploy to get people to say, "Oh honey, that isn't true, I looooooooooooooove you." Drives me nuts and I always feel embarrassed for the person doing it.

 

[LovableGluttons]

the self portraits taken with the cell phone get me too. Over and over again.

No, I don't want to see a picture of you making cow eyes at the camera.

Or, bragging about how their life is one big party when you know they and their three kids are living with her mother in a single wide and she dumps the kids on her mother all the time to go drink. She has never supported herself, has no job, and is actively looking for a new hubby (a third) to support her and her kids.

I hid her updates too. I found myself dreading upening up me Facebook page and seeing her nonsense.

 

[Cat0727]

I hide the braggers on my Facebook. My news feed is now less cluttered

 

[SaraJayne]

Post whatever you want. If other people don't like it, then too bad. I know I'm not going to worry if anything I post bothers people or not. If they don't want to read it, then defriend me. No skin off my teeth if they're that petty about such things.

I have the same attitude about Facebook.

About a lot of things, actually.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

But on the other hand, I guess I have been guilty at least a little- we cruised and I posted photo's- I was not trying to brag, but rather share a glimpse of our trip with friends; I didn't go on and on about it and just posted a few pics and that was it.

And I've also posted things like "my kids did great at their awards assemblies today" - I guess that is bragging too?

So, now I'm wondering... What is an appropriate facebook post? I mean you don't want to brag... you don't want to air your problems... you don't want to ask for sympathy..... So, what kind of stuff should you be posting? This is a serious question, I don't know....

I don't see it as bragging when someone shares life's successes or fun times. It's the exaggeration and constant nature of some of it that gets annoying. I love to see vacation pictures and hear of fun times. It's the people who exaggerate, never post anything else, and post those exaggerated successes 4 or 5 times a day that get a little tiring. Most of my friends post of their successes, but they also post jokes, interesting links, inspirational quotes, funny things that happened to them. They might say they are missing a friend or family member who died, especially on holidays or the anniversary of their death. I think that most people have ups and downs and when they post a variety of different things, it seems natural, and not braggy when they post about something awesome.

 

[sookie]

I had a facebook friend (old BF from middle school) who would post daily pics of her outfits - including her new 300 dollar boots, for instance. Her import car. Everything was about things or $$$. Anyway, she was moving to a new city without a job because she couldn't stand being in the same city with her old boyfriend - it was soooooo sad. Her parents were buying her a new loft apartment.

This girl has been leeching off her parents for years - working low wage jobs but living like a millionaire. Seriously.

Anyway, I made a small comment that doth offend. I guess asking if she had a job or if she planned on working when she got to her new city was offensive. I was deleted. HA!

 

[si-am]

I'm guilty of the "relaxing with a glass of wine" type posts.

I don't have kids to gush over, I don't really have much to brag about, I don't really need sympathy very often... I'm not really sure what other kinds of posts I'm supposed to be making.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

Post whatever you want. If other people don't like it, then too bad. I know I'm not going to worry if anything I post bothers people or not. If they don't want to read it, then defriend me. No skin off my teeth if they're that petty about such things.

I have the same attitude about Facebook.

About a lot of things, actually.

Ditto and ditto.

 

[Octoberbride03]

I'm guilty of the "relaxing with a glass of wine" type posts.

I don't have kids to gush over, I don't really have much to brag about, I don't really need sympathy very often... I'm not really sure what other kinds of posts I'm supposed to be making.

Wish i was guilty of the wine posts. Most of my friends are. Some days I beg them to send me some

Being in the same boat as you with no kids and sympathy bit i try to make my updates a bit giggly or "how dumb am I" type stuff.

last 1 was on Sunday. it went like this: Sings i need a vacation: Sitting in the car, belt buckled, hand on gear shift and ready to pull out but i forgot to put the key in the ignition OOPS

 

[si-am]

Wish i was guilty of the wine posts. Most of my friends are. Some days I beg them to send me some

Being in the same boat as you with no kids and sympathy bit i try to make my updates a bit giggly or "how dumb am I" type stuff.

last 1 was on Sunday. it went like this: Sings i need a vacation: Sitting in the car, belt buckled, hand on gear shift and ready to pull out but i forgot to put the key in the ignition OOPS

When I try to be funny like that, no one ever responds. I don't think I'm that clever!

 

[Octoberbride03]

When I try to be funny like that, no one ever responds. I don't think I'm that clever!

Yeah, I kinda run hot and cold with it too. That 1 gotta bunch of thumbs up, but no actual responses. Sometimes I hit the jackpot and get 5-10 responses. As long as people got a giggle out of it that's all that matters.

 

[DWGal210]

As others have said, most stuff doesn't bug me. Maybe I'm lucky that I don't have annoying friends & family on FB (oh no, is that going to be considered a brag?!). If they annoy me, I remove. Easy peasy lemon squeezee.

There is one person, I guess. I went to high school with her & she friended me during our reunion planning. She has to be the saddest person I've ever known - she's clearly depressed. Her posts range from the bizarre to the very sad. Before the reunion, she was posting all this junk about, "I don't think I'll go, no one will talk to me....". So I sent her a private note, said I'd like to see her & catch up. A table of us chatted for about 45 minutes; it was nice, other than her acting offended when I asked if she lived in a home, condo, etc. Apparently I was supposed to be more sensitive to the fact that she didn't make enough money to buy a home, as if I was trying to make her feel bad. Ahyhoo, I thought it was nice - until she posted the next day about how stuck up everyone was & that we ignored her. I would love to de-friend her but honestly, shes so fragile she would think I hated her or something. It's not worth it, so I leave here on my friend list.

But she's very much the exception.

 

[mommasita]

Post whatever you want. If other people don't like it, then too bad. I know I'm not going to worry if anything I post bothers people or not. If they don't want to read it, then defriend me. No skin off my teeth if they're that petty about such things.

This is me to a T.
I don't care what others post, and actually enjoying 99% if not 100% of the posts! In the same light, don't judge me. Perhaps the highlight of MY week is my glass of wine, radio bingo, whatever...
I just put up a new picture and 1/2 my in-laws are up in arms about it??? Really, is your life that insignificant you must judge my FB picture?

 

[Acklander]

There is one person, I guess. I went to high school with her & she friended me during our reunion planning. She has to be the saddest person I've ever known - she's clearly depressed. Her posts range from the bizarre to the very sad. Before the reunion, she was posting all this junk about, "I don't think I'll go, no one will talk to me....". So I sent her a private note, said I'd like to see her & catch up. A table of us chatted for about 45 minutes; it was nice, other than her acting offended when I asked if she lived in a home, condo, etc. Apparently I was supposed to be more sensitive to the fact that she didn't make enough money to buy a home, as if I was trying to make her feel bad. Ahyhoo, I thought it was nice - until she posted the next day about how stuck up everyone was & that we ignored her. I would love to de-friend her but honestly, shes so fragile she would think I hated her or something. It's not worth it, so I leave here on my friend list.

But she's very much the exception.

LOL I have one person on my friend list whose like that. She used to be my neighbor where I lived about 10 years ago. She seems soooo lonely so I keep her on. I think it's just me and her church group. She's always posting these really sad complaints with chores attached. i.e. "I can't get to my tiny lawn because of my health issues so if anyone knows a teen who could do it for me for very little money I'd appreciate it" After posting that, every day for a few days she'd then post "Thank you God for providing someone willing to mow my lawn for free since money is so tight!!!!!" And then a week later theres a post about " My house needs painting but my arthritis won't let me hold a brush so does any one know of a painter who can do it for very little money I'd appreciate it." To be followed by another Thanks to God for providing someone willing to do it for free. It's actually quite entertaining as the chore list goes on for ever - and she NEVER does a thank to the person who actually does the work - all thanks go to God

 

[cat83]

Agree- I have no problem with my friends posting their successes, sharing vacation pictures, etc.

The issue here are the few people who deliberately lie and exaggerate, self promote, and take advantage of facebook friends to boost their ego without actually caring about anyone else.

I am genuinely happy for (most) of my friends... but its that 1 in 100 that really gets on your nerves