BRACES QUESTION

[SandyinMonterey]

Speak to the orthodontist directly. If he knows you are moving, he may be able to do a more aggressive treatment plan to finish it before you move! I don't understand why you seem like you are too intimidated to speak with him. We love our orthodontist and he is wonderful! He works with us and we tell him what is going on with our schedule. Really, it seems you are dragging this out when it could have been addressed and treatment plan modified already.


Also, if this is the third time a bracket has come loose, you need to speak to your child about what they are doing to break them. That is the child eating the wrong foods or chewing on things they shouldn't be. Brackets don't typically come loose on their on. Some orthodontists will start charging to repair broken brackets if it keeps happening so frequently.

In January, the relationship with the orthodontist became strained after I asked for the oral surgeon referral that he mentioned many months before. I was asking for several reasons: just found out we would be moving and mother just diagnosised with breast cancer. Knowing that winter break was coming up in February, I'd either go to GA (where my husband was already living so we could look for a house), go to NJ to see my Mom, or get the oral surgery done. When I asked, he became very put off. Didn't want to talk about it never mind hear my reasons. Shortly after that is when her braces had come loose the second time. The technician and I started talking, told her what was going on and just felt he didn't listen. After that, the orthodontist hardly talks to me during appointments or makes eye contact. I'm not intimidated by him. By posting on the boards I was hoping to see what other people experience in this situation of moving in the middle of braces. Plus, I wanted more information. As far as my daughter's braces coming loose three times, I can say with certainty it's not due to what she's eating. Was even told by office that this is "not unusual."

 

[Sadie22]

Have you apologized for your behavior and attempted to smooth things over with the practitioner? I'm saying say you're sorry, last month at the visit you came in after just finding out you had to move and at the same time mom diagnosed, you were so stressed and may have come off as obnoxious when you didn't mean to be. Have you said that in so many words to this learned professional? That can be so important to do. Regardless of whether you think you were demanding or anything else, you may have been perceived as "one of those [difficult] moms." Do what you can to make up with the doctor so the two of you can work something out.

 

[SandyinMonterey]

Have you apologized for your behavior and attempted to smooth things over with the practitioner? I'm saying say you're sorry, last month at the visit you came in after just finding out you had to move and at the same time mom diagnosed, you were so stressed and may have come off as obnoxious when you didn't mean to be. Have you said that in so many words to this learned professional? That can be so important to do. Regardless of whether you think you were demanding or anything else, you may have been perceived as "one of those [difficult] moms." Do what you can to make up with the doctor so the two of you can work something out.

It really didn't go that way. The day I asked the orthodontist about oral surgeon referral wasn't the same day as when her braces came loose. It was at end of visit, I was actually standing up and just simply asked. I wasn't in a bad mood, if anything, on the quiet/sad spectrum. He was already onto the next thing, he has a room full of chairs. The day she saw the technician for her braces coming loose, it was just us three in the office. I simply told her I was asking in order to plan. She was nice, conversation went well. I was very calm.

 

[angierae]

My dental insurance did not pay their $1500 up front. They paid monthly. We paid our share up front - at the end, my ex got a bit of a discount because the total cost ended up being a little less than they'd estimated. So yes, your experience mirrors mine.