Both sons want contacts but only one can wear them.

[unrequited23]

I would let the older child try contacts and also plan on purchasing prescription sunglasses, swim goggles, whatever else would improve his quality of life to the same level as his contact wearing sibling.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

What hair issue? Was a post altered or deleted? You are post #2 but I see no reference to hair in the OP's post. Maybe I need contacts?

The poster is referring to a different thread the OP created last year. The OP has only created 2 threads this one and another one and hasn't responded to either one. I'm guessing a person who just likes to have fun online creating random threads but I personally couldn't tell if they are true stories or made up ones.

 

[sam_gordon]

What hair issue? Was a post altered or deleted? You are post #2 but I see no reference to hair in the OP's post. Maybe I need contacts?

Or you could read to post #7.

 

[BroadwayHermione5]

Has he considered one a day contacts?

I have blepharitis which is basically an inflammation of the eyelid and eyelashes due to the crusty things on your eyes. I have a special scrub and everything.

We discovered that weekly/monthly contacts even with cleaning them and using solution and switching from the regular contact containers to the old film canister looking ones did not help because I was essentially trapping the bacteria. Switching to one a days helped immensely.

I still wear my glasses and am happy when I wear either.


I also suggest prescription sunglasses for if he is at a pool or water park

 

[Dan Murphy]

What hair issue? Was a post altered or deleted? You are post #2 but I see no reference to hair in the OP's post. Maybe I need contacts?

Sam covers it here

https://www.disboards.com/threads/b...-only-one-can-wear-them.3905592/post-64521608

 

[leahgoogle]

I don't think it is reasonable to hold one child back because the other can't do a thing. If one son was asthmatic and couldn't play certain sports, would you say neither should be able to?

That's about the perfect age to start adjusting to contacts, IMO, so I wouldn't say no to the child who can wear them. It is easier to get used to putting them in/taking them out when young, I think, and disposables have made the care and upkeep much easier. I've been wearing contacts daily since 11 - my eye doctor usually held to 13 as a minimum age, back before disposables, but made an exception for me because my bad eyes were getting in the way of my sport - and they've gotten so much more user friendly over the last 30-odd years. Also, so much less of a commitment for a kid wanting to try them because you can buy a single box for each eye to see if your son really will wear them and take appropriate care of them before ordering a full year's supply.

I totally agree with this! Now with disposables, my daughters started wearing them when they turned 11 with no problems. I was 13, but they did not have disposables back then and the soft contacts were such a pain and irritated my eyes. I now wear dailies and it is so easy!

 

[goofyernmost]

Or you could read to post #7.

I'd have to care that much, but thanks for the advice.

 

[patiltina1990]

This is a really tricky situation to be in as a parent, and I don’t envy you as a parent of two myself. While only you know your children as well as you do, or the best way to handle the problem of pleasing them both, I can offer some advice as a Contact Lens Optician.

Prescribing contact lenses for children is not a decision you or your optician should take lightly. It’s a big step and requires a lot of maturity on their side, to keep up a healthy eye care routine.

13 is a good age to start considering contact lenses, if you feel that you can trust them to be responsible. I’ve had children as young as eight come in for contact lenses, but these cases have always been for a specific reason. For example, they need the lenses for sports commitments or they have a lifestyle type that makes it safer for them to wear contact lenses instead of glasses.

Remember, contact lenses are more expensive than glasses when you wear them all the time. But the freedom and the confidence they can give kids can make such a difference during the difficult time of being a teenager.

 

[mom2rtk]

Let the 13 YO wear contacts and use as life lesson for 11 YO. It stinks, yes, but it's life.

Exactly. This is a great life teaching opportunity. Life isn’t fair. That isn’t an excuse to be unfair to one of your children but that’s not the case here.

Sit down and have a talk with both of them about expectations. Tell the 13-year-old if he flaunts it to his brother you are putting him back in glasses. Tell the 11-year-old that you will check with another doctor or try again in a couple of years. But some people are never able to wear them.

My daughter started at age 12. She was highly motivated and did great.