Body Descriptions

[Green Tea]

In my mind I see a few extra pounds woman as someone who is a little chunky but trying to lose. Big and Beautiful is a large woman who is very happy being large and curvy and is not interested in losing any weight.

 

[tink20]

To the OP: a little off topic

If you are serious about dating one of these guys, you better find out about their teeth. My sister, went on a couple of dates (she met online) and their teeth were horrible . Do they have a teeth catagory? She finally found a great guy (but it was from eHarmony, and not the free site she was on first) Good Luck!

 

[MoneyNeverSleeps]

To the OP: a little off topic

If you are serious about dating one of these guys, you better find out about their teeth. My sister, went on a couple of dates (she met online) and their teeth were horrible . Do they have a teeth catagory? She finally found a great guy (but it was from eHarmony, and not the free site she was on first) Good Luck!

Yup bad teeth = bad breath which is not good, not good at all.

 

[AshleyW]

To you, you mean. I wonder.. what do you (collectively) call a slim person with small breasts and doesn't wear makeup or do her hair everyday?

I would call that person thin. It has nothing to do with hair and makeup. Rosie O'Donnell has a square figure... That is stocky. You're reading way too much into all of this.

 

[MoneyNeverSleeps]

I would call that person thin. It has nothing to do with hair and makeup. Rosie O'Donnell has a square figure... That is stocky. You're reading way too much into all of this.

I agree. I don't know why people are getting so bent out of shape about this.

 

[onelilspark]

When I was doing dating sites, I classified myself as average. No one looking at me would seriously call me fat (unless they were just being mean or it was myself looking in the mirror!) nor would *most* people call me thin or skinny. Technically I dance with the "normal/overweight" border, but I wear a size 8/10...if I marked myself down as "a few extra pounds" it would then convey that I have a poor self image-because I don't look like "a few extra pounds," and I don't have a poor self image. Maybe some days, but that's generally about once a month when I wear my "fat jeans" and down a tub of ice cream

More than anything, I think it's important to be honest with yourself when you look in the mirror. Despite what you *think* you see looking back at you, what do people actually see?


Edit: and to answer the actual question... I saw a lot of men with the "a few extra pounds" tag, so I think it's just because most men aren't going to declare themselves "big & beautiful!" Plus, when a woman says "a few extra pounds" it sounds like you're about to get into a relationship where the woman is constantly on a diet or has issues with her weight. Whereas when a man says it, it sounds more matter of fact.

Oh...and one more thing (then I promise! I'm done!) I met my fiancé through OKCupid, so it's totally possible to meet a normal person online! And I never had a problem with any guy I went on a date with from an online site having poor teeth...

 

[kimmar067]

Before you jump all over her, I would say the same thing she did. I think of 'full figured' or 'big and beautiful' as being heavy but still having a feminine form. The PP used Camryn Manheim as an example:

She's a bigger lady, but still has some defined curves. Whereas Rosie O'Donnell has kind of a square figure, which is what I would consider 'stocky'.

....wow, she looks awesome!

 

[AlohaPolynesian]

As someone who's plus size and usually resorts to online dating (I'm quite shy offline and also work an insane schedule and don't like the bar scene), I HATE those descriptions. I noticed that 90% of the men who showed up in my matches would screen anyone who wasn't "slender, athletic/toned, average". Anyway, I tend to visualize them in terms of actresses.

Slender - Angelina Jolie (very thin, but not so thin you can see bones)
About Average - Hilary Duff, Jennifer Garner, Courtney Cox
Athletic/Toned - Hilary Swank
Heavyset - Probably size 18-20
A few extra pounds - Borderline overweight
Big and Beautiful - Me! teeth Seriously, best description I can think of is Camryn Manheim
Full figured - Same as big and beautiful.
Curvy - Scarlett Johansson, Jessica Alba in her Dark Angel Days
Stocky - Rosie O'Donnell
Others - Nicole Richie, before she gained some weight and actually looked healthy

I also notice that the men who screen their results like that are overweight or non-athletic, so it aggravates me that they think they can get away with having a double standard.

 

[MoneyNeverSleeps]

I also notice that the men who screen their results like that are overweight or non-athletic, so it aggravates me that they think they can get away with having a double standard.

Sorry to burst your bubble but a lot of overweight and non-athletic women also screen out the big dudes and think they can get Mr. GQ. It goes both ways.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

To you, you mean. I wonder.. what do you (collectively) call a slim person with small breasts and doesn't wear makeup or do her hair everyday?

I'd call them a slim person. As someone here said makeup or messy hair has nothing to do with body type. Rosie is square and not tall so she's stocky. She has small breasts and no defined waistline so she's not full figured or curvy. I'm not insulting her. Her body is what it is.

 

[ChrisFL]

Would you prefer these choices instead?


Gaunt
Skinny
Average
Junk in the Trunk
Fat
Obese
Scale broken

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

Would you prefer these choices instead?


Gaunt
Skinny
Average
Junk in the Trunk
Fat
Obese
Scale broken

No these aren't good choices. lol

I'd go with

gaunt
skinny
slim
average
athletic slim
athletic muscular
curvy/hourglass
full figured (big breasts, big middle, big bottom)
stocky (square,flat top and bottom with no curves, and big-boned looking)
chubby
fat (belly sticks out farther than their breasts but doesn't hang)
obese

 

[NHdisneylover]

To you, you mean. I wonder.. what do you (collectively) call a slim person with small breasts and doesn't wear makeup or do her hair everyday?

Truly I think make-up and hair have NOTHING to do with it (and I only wear make up when I am going out or on vacation or whatnot--but not for day to day stuff).
From the words on the list I would call the person you describe "slender." Willowy would be a better term but it is not an option. It is the small boned version of stocky. To me, "stocky" is thick bone structure and no (or few) curves. Weight (beyond a larger bone structure weighing a bot more in general) has nothing to do with it. People can be stocky without being overweight.

I am surprised to see that several posters things "curvy" means overweight in some way. That would have never crossed my mind. Geeze, I sometimes describe my daughter as curvy. She is 5'8", has a size 4 waist, D cups and wide hips. She has CURVES but she is not even close to being overweight.

 

[MoneyNeverSleeps]

I think this thread is getting silly.

 

[FireDancer]

I am surprised to see that several posters things "curvy" means overweight in some way. That would have never crossed my mind. Geeze, I sometimes describe my daughter as curvy. She is 5'8", has a size 4 waist, D cups and wide hips. She has CURVES but she is not even close to being overweight.

I think curvy should mean what you are describing but it has been hijacked to try and make certain body types sound more glamorous. Curvy sounds better then frumpy when in reality many times the person really is describing the same thing. It is kind of in the middle of a little over weight and fat. Comedian Patrice O'Neal does a pretty funny bit on the difference between someone that is fat-skinny and skinny-fat.

I would put it in the same category as the word Diva. Somehow it has morphed into almost any female singer, especially if they are difficult and over weight, when in reality is is only for celebrated opera singers.

 

[MoneyNeverSleeps]

I think curvy should mean what you are describing but it has been hijacked to try and make certain body types sound more glamorous. Curvy sounds better then frumpy when in reality many times the person really is describing the same thing. It is kind of in the middle of a little over weight at fat. Comedian Patrice O'Neal does a pretty funny bit on the difference between someone that is fat-skinny and skinny-fat. It is pretty good.

I would put it in the same category as the word Diva. Somehow it has morphed into almost any female singer, especially if they are difficult and over weight, when in reality is is only for celebrated opera singers.

Spot on analysis as usual fire.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Okay--but then how DOES one describe actually curvy people--if "curvy" is now a euphemism for overweight? IS there a term left that hasn't been hijacked?

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

Okay--but then how DOES one describe actually curvy people--if "curvy" is now a euphemism for overweight? IS there a term left that hasn't been hijacked?

To me, curvy means hourglass figure. I never thought it means fat at all. But I guess fat women can still have an hourglass figure.

 

[MoneyNeverSleeps]

Okay--but then how DOES one describe actually curvy people--if "curvy" is now a euphemism for overweight? IS there a term left that hasn't been hijacked?

A term I've heard tossed about is "Thick in all the right places."

 

[NHdisneylover]

A term I've heard tossed about is "Thick in all the right places."

Of course, my 13 year old would really much prefer not to be quite so thick up top--poor kid, clothes designed for her age are not designed for her body

Oh when did things get so complicated.

Oh, and Mrs. Darcy--sorry I thought I had quoted you too but it did not come up. I agree that curvy means curvy--but does not say anything about weight one way or the other--just that the waist IS smaller than the breasts and hips and you get that hour glass shape. I was just seeing discretions that seemed to link curvy with overweight and that threw me.