Blaming your parents

[onecoolmama]

At what age do you stop doing this and take responsibility for your own actions?


For me I was 17-18..but I would think by 23 everyone is past that.

What age do you think?

 

[Hillbeans]

Not to sound holier than thou, I never blamed my parents for anything and never would.

Now my husband's siblings blame their parents for everything, when in fact they're all just lazy.

 

[Pop Daddy]

Its mommys faught I cant spell

 

[edcrbnsoul]

I blame Kild

 

[onecoolmama]

Now that is a much more acceptable answer to me than..look how I was raised

 

[bjgrazi]

I got one better, my soon to be ex blames his brother for everything wrong in his life.

 

[browneyes]

I think I was about 5 years old.

 

[Robinrs]

I blame my parents for making me the hard working God loving child and animal loving person I am today and I will ALWAYS blame them for that!!

 

[HollyJoy]

I never blamed my parents for anything either. They always taught me to own up to my mistakes and learn from them.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Let's just say I will do things differently.

 

[minmate]

In response to OP, no, I don't think everyone is past this by 23. I know people who aren't.

As for me, I, like PinWizard, am trying to do certain things differently in my parenting. Some things my parents did, I hope I can replicate too, though.

I would say most people that want to make conscious choices about their parenting style will inevitably look back on their own childhood for examples of what they like and didn't like about it.

 

[CEDmom]

My brothers and I were taught about consequences at a very young age. I think it's one reason we have never blamed our parents for things. We were also taught that their love was unconditional no matter how badly we messed up. Boy did we mess up at times.

Do we do things differently then they did? Some things, of course. Do we think they may not have handled certain things in the best manner? Of course, hindsight is wonderful. Do we think that under the circumstances they did the best job they could and always had our best interest at heart? Most definitely!!

 

[Saffron]

Like Robin, the only things I blame my parents for, especially my mom, helping me be an open minded, animal loving, open hearted, forgiving person and I'll continue to to that forever.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

My sister is 31 and still blames our parents for her lack of backbone.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Heck, I still blame them now!!

 

[dingydiz]

I think in some cases children feel it necessary to blame their parents for the way they turned out. As a young child 1-5, a parent has the ability to help or hurt a child in how they decide to raise the child and what examples to set for he or she.

There does come a time in every persons life when they have to stop blaming the world for their wrong actions and start looking in the mirror and taking the responsibility for their own actions.

Let me just say I don't blame my parents for anything. I was lucky enough to be raised by two loving parents who did and gave me everything they could. My mother went without so many times so we could have all we needed and wanted.

My father worked all his life and still does so that even now in my thirties he can still afford to help me and my brothers and sisters whenever we need anything.

I was raised in a christian home and I thank God everyday my parents were so strict. I did not get pregnant at 15, I dress and act like a lady and I respect other people. We were raised to be different from most people and the things that the world finds acceptable, we walk away from.

In essence, I blame my parents for every good thing that has ever happened in my life. I have a masters degree in Child Psychology, I have a husband, a beautiful home and one four year old son. My family and I are a member of a non-denominational church and God blesses our lives everyday.