Birthday parties and class invites ?

[irene_dsc]

Hey! I get to see you outside of my TR!

Welcome to the Family Board! I don't post here all that often, but every so often. And since both of our TR's are soon to be closed, it's nice to see you somewhere else!

 

[DVCLiz]

Here's what I did -

Preschool - I invited the whole class. Almost everyone came and brought a gift. Those parties were "off site"!!

Early elementary school (K and first grade) - I invited the whole class. They didn't have any friends who weren't also in school with my daughters, so we invited the whole class.

After first grade, we invited all the girls in the class, as well as any special friends who weren't at our school.

In later elementary school, we began to limit to my daughter's group of friends, making sure that any "lone rangers" not associated with a group were included. It was easy enough to leave out a whole group if they had already had their parties and not invited my daughter, but I was especially sensitive to the few girls who hadn't found their group yet. There were two classes per grade, so a maximum of 40 girls - we probably had between 15 and 20 invited, and a dozen or so who actually came.

Now, in middle school, it's limited to the few best pals.

 

[disykat]

Hey!


I can understand your frustration, but as a parent of two boys that have been invited to MANY parties this year all I can say is if you don't hear from us, we're not coming. Sometimes the boys were given invitations that didn't even have their name on it (so I'm assuming the parent sent in invitations for everyone and the teacher was to hand them out). I have a thing about hating to call people, especially if I don't even know you (I just get nervous about it). If there was an email address on there, I'd be first in line to let you know my son wouldn't be making it.

I did call and RSVP one time. The parent had actually sent in a reminder for the kids to RSVP and because of that, I called. She actually seemed surprised when I told her he wouldn't be coming. It was like she was expecting RSVP's only from those that would be attending

I consider myself to be good at RSVPing, but I've also skipped RSVPing when there's not even a name on the envelope and it appears the invitations were handed out randomly. I don't consider that a real invitation and just ignore it. If my child can't even tell me who the party was for (other than "some kid on the bus"), why should I call some random stranger who doesn't even know my son was given an invitation?

I also ignored a preschool invitation once. It came 3 days before the party, was from a child in the other class, and my child had never even heard of her.

I've also had the experience of calling an RSVP number to decline and having them be confused about why I was calling.