Not sure if you've done "the math", but it will only cost you $20 more per night to have the Basic DP vs the QS Plan for your family. If you are staying 5 nights you will pretty much spend that on 2TS dinners.
Seriously consider the Basic Plan then go with some of the recommendations and you and DH might want to select a non character meal too:
H&V Playhouse Disney character meal
Crystal Palace
Coral Reef
Chef Mickey's
Donald's Safari
1900 Park Fare
The Plaza might also work for you, light meal, but really good food and right on Main Street so, location, location, location. For example if you and DH split the Rib and Chicken platter for either lunch or dinner, the burger or salad meal at the Plaza might be a nice balance.
Seriously consider the Basic Plan then go with some of the recommendations and you and DH might want to select a non character meal too:
H&V Playhouse Disney character meal
Crystal Palace
Coral Reef
Chef Mickey's
Donald's Safari
1900 Park Fare
The Plaza might also work for you, light meal, but really good food and right on Main Street so, location, location, location. For example if you and DH split the Rib and Chicken platter for either lunch or dinner, the burger or salad meal at the Plaza might be a nice balance.