being approached by the opposite gender

[WDWtraveler27]

I pity the people that think thata rguing on the internet will solve anything

 

[DramaQueen]

I pity the people that think thata rguing on the internet will solve anything

who's arguing

 

[Kit Kat]

I was about to say the same thing.

 

[imabrat]

I just never understood the whole race thing. People are People. Treat them as you would want to be treated.

Yeah, but I think Allie meant it as in she's just not attracted to most black guys. That's not racist at all, I think. Maybe it's because I'm the same way? Yeah, there are cute black guys, but as a whole I'm not really attracted to them. I think Dev Patel is gorgeous but I'm not really into Indian dudes as a whole. Attraction is a major foundation of relationships and if you're not physically attracted to someone, that relationship isn't going to work.


However, that's not to say I'd never go out with anyone who's black/Indian/whatever. I'm always open to whatever, I don't care if you're yellow, black, brown, green, or polka-dotted. If I'm attracted to you, I don't care what you are. People are people, we all want to be treated the same.

 

[PurpleDucky]

random people don't flirt with me unless they're old (lol sonya)
oh, but there was this one time during the summer when i was at work. some like.. 16 year old and family ordered food and took like 20 minutes because their order was so huge. they gave me a 5$ tip. and after they ate the boy was like "can i have some napkins" and i gave him a big stack. 15 minutes later his little sister came up and gave me a napkin and said "this is from my brother" it said "give me a call sometime" and his number, and a 2$ tip hahah. he didn't leave the area code though
but like, i'm a real flirt, so even if i don't like the guy (like i do this with my guy friends) i flirt. it's a really bad habit, and it might give them the wrong idea =/

 

[PurpleDucky]

What was the reason behind specifying race? Does his race somehow change your perception of who he is?

lol. why are you getting on her about that? calm the hell down, girl.
you seem to always be looking for an argument.

 

[Kit Kat]

Yeah, but I think Allie meant it as in she's just not attracted to most black guys. That's not racist at all, I think. Maybe it's because I'm the same way? Yeah, there are cute black guys, but as a whole I'm not really attracted to them. I think Dev Patel is gorgeous but I'm not really into Indian dudes as a whole. Attraction is a major foundation of relationships and if you're not physically attracted to someone, that relationship isn't going to work.


However, that's not to say I'd never go out with anyone who's black/Indian/whatever. I'm always open to whatever, I don't care if you're yellow, black, brown, green, or polka-dotted. If I'm attracted to you, I don't care what you are. People are people, we all want to be treated the same.

That is fine . You can be attracted to whomever you want to be and you are correct that physical appearance is the first and one of the major turn ons or offs of being attracted to someone, but I certainly would not just narrow it down to that.

 

[I Am What I Am]

That is fine . You can be attracted to whomever you want to be and you are correct that physical appearance is the first and one of the major turn ons or offs of being attracted to someone, but I certainly would not just narrow it down to that.

I don't know about you but I personally wouldn't be in the relationship if I wasn't attracted physically. There are other factors of course, personality, manners, sense of humor ect ect. But that physical attraction is what gets me to notice them in the first place.

 

[pigletgirl]

I don't know about you but I personally wouldn't be in the relationship if I wasn't attracted physically. There are other factors of course, personality, manners, sense of humor ect ect. But that physical attraction is what gets me to notice them in the first place.

Ditto!

 

[Kit Kat]

It is the first line of being attracted to someone, but let's say you meet this guy and he is just so hot and you are really attracted to him. Then you go out and see that he is a real jerk. Would you still stay with him? This shows that other things are really important to. That is all I am saying.


You can also look at it like this: Say there is this guy who may not be the best looking out there , but he treats you really great. Would you not even give him the time of day?


I can tell you I would choose choice #2.

 

[pigletgirl]

Well, a guy who isn't the best looking becomes more physically attractive the more you get to know him, and eventually falling in love. But he has to have to total package.

Now, whats hot for you, may not be the same for me.

 

[Kit Kat]

Well, a guy who isn't the best looking becomes more physically attractive the more you get to know him, and eventually falling in love. But he has to have to total package.

Now, whats hot for you, may not be the same for me.

I agree with you, but you have to give him that chance first to get to know him.

And you are right. Everyone's taste is totally different.

 

[I Am What I Am]

It is the first line of being attracted to someone, but let's say you meet this guy and he is just so hot and you are really attracted to him. Then you go out and see that he is a real jerk. Would you still stay with him? This shows that other things are really important to. That is all I am saying.


You can also look at it like this: Say there is this guy who may not be the best looking out there , but he treats you really great. Would you not even give him the time of day?


I can tell you I would choose choice #2.

I'd dump #1. I don't put up with anything from anybody.

As for number 2,I'd get to know him as a friend (as I would anyone) and who knows? Maybe I would become attracted. Maybe not. If nothing happened romantically, I'd have a great friend. If something did, I'd have a great boyfriend.

 

[BabyPiglet]

It is the first line of being attracted to someone, but let's say you meet this guy and he is just so hot and you are really attracted to him. Then you go out and see that he is a real jerk. Would you still stay with him? This shows that other things are really important to. That is all I am saying.


You can also look at it like this: Say there is this guy who may not be the best looking out there , but he treats you really great. Would you not even give him the time of day?


I can tell you I would choose choice #2.

Attraction doesn't include JUST physical attraction. I might not think he has the best looking whatever, but I might be attracted to his personality.

 

[Kit Kat]

I think a true attraction comes from ones love of everything about the person. A good mix of that person's qualities.

 

[m!ssemmx0]

I've been getting hit on nonstop by this kid on my bus. It makes me really uncomfortable, but I just ignore it.

 

[life of the party]

i don't think allysonn was being racist. your always looking to pick a fight, just chill .


back on topic:

i'm a flirt.
if it's someone i like , i might get nervous . but probably not .
i like boys . alot .
i flirt . alot .

 

[Kit Kat]

i don't think allysonn was being racist. your always looking to pick a fight, just chill .


back on topic:

i'm a flirt.
if it's someone i like , i might get nervous . but probably not .
i like boys . alot .
i flirt . alot .

Nothing wrong with that.

 

[Disney Dork]

It's not the face that matters, but the expressions on it. Otherwise, everyone would be nothing more than a mask or manikin....and that would be quite scary, to be perfectly honest with you. O___O

Personalities/the person INSIDE the body is what matters the most to me. In some cases, yes, that can come out in their appearance, but when it comes to things they have no control over (such as skin color, body type, etc.) I really don't care. I try my best to get to know who people really are, and try to not judge so much on their looks in that aspect. And...really? I'm not going to judge someone on their 10 dollar shirt that will, one day, more than likely end up in a dump somewhere. That's just silly.

And also...you guys have to remember....what is the guy going to look like when he's 85? Is he still going to be the Mr. Tall, Dark and Handsome that he is now? No...I don't think so. Not unless he can afford to under-go several plastic surgeries.


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But anyway! Back on topic! =D

How do I react when random guys randomly come up and start talking to me? I get very, very awkward. I am extremely shy and not flirtatious AT ALL. And seriously, if they really wanted to start a conversation with me, I'd probably start rambling about something really random. Just because I'm cool like that. ;>___>

Those who are actually patient enough to KEEP talking to me until I finally get past that shyness stage (and don't end up being complete boneheads)are beyond amazing. I may not like it very much for a while, but eventually I get used to it and start acting more myself so...yeah. Go me! >___<

Also, it sometimes takes me a little while to trust guys, so there's no way I'd start flirting with a complete stranger even if I WASN'T the bundle of shy that I am. I've not really had a 'boyfriend' before, but I've been stalked by the creepiest guy ever, caught between a couple fighting and having them attempt to tear me in half, I have been cursed at by my sister's ex because he didn't like the fact that I told my parents something that he didn't want them to know (but I told them anyway because I got a VERY bad feeling about him, which turned out to be a fairly accurate feeling in the end) and lord only knows how many people I've had to comfort through the lovely, dramatic break-ups. ;____;

Yeah...I'm not playing those games anymore. And if that makes me very...wary with some people, then I'm sorry. It's just the way it is.

 

[bananda]

i dont really flirt.
in the past, i have and it made everyone around me and the guy feel really awkward because we went a little over the top. lol.

guys dont really flirt with me either. or if they do, i dont really notice it lol