Maybeamomagain?
Earning My Ears
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- Apr 14, 2011
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I am considering moving to a bigger place so that I can be a foster mother to 3 children I know in my community. I already have one son who is 12, so we'd be a temporary family of 5. The other children are an 8 year old girl, a 6 year old boy, and a 3 year old boy.
The house I looked at today had a living room, dining room, kitchen, bathrooms and 5 "other" rooms. Upstairs there are 3 "regular" bedrooms. On the ground floor there's a sunroom type room with a closet and 3 walls with windows, it's big enough to be a bedroom too. There's also a finished room in the basement that's a good size, with those tiny up high windows.
My goals would be as follows: I get my own room, my son gets his own room (suddenly having 3 little sibs is adjustment enough), the girl gets her own room (because she's the only one), the two little boys share, and there's a room for toys/playing. Which of these would you choose.
Choice 1: Kids in the 3 upstairs bedrooms (biggest:little boys, middle: son, smallest: girl), I sleep in the "sunroom", basement playroom. Potential downside: if the toddler wakes up at night, there's a flight of slippery stairs if he comes to find me.
Choice 2: Me and the foster kids in the 3 upstairs bedrooms (biggest: little boys, middle: me, smallest: girl), my son gets the "sunroom", basement playroom. Potential downside: not sure how safe I feel with a child on the first floor, could someone climb in the window?
Choice 3: Everyone sleeps upstairs, 3 boys together in the biggest room, but my son gets the basement room as "his", where he can hang out with friends, play games. I'd make him come upstairs to sleep because I worry about a fire. Sunroom becomes the playroom. I like the idea of having the playroom on the first floor where I can see/here the little ones.
The house I looked at today had a living room, dining room, kitchen, bathrooms and 5 "other" rooms. Upstairs there are 3 "regular" bedrooms. On the ground floor there's a sunroom type room with a closet and 3 walls with windows, it's big enough to be a bedroom too. There's also a finished room in the basement that's a good size, with those tiny up high windows.
My goals would be as follows: I get my own room, my son gets his own room (suddenly having 3 little sibs is adjustment enough), the girl gets her own room (because she's the only one), the two little boys share, and there's a room for toys/playing. Which of these would you choose.
Choice 1: Kids in the 3 upstairs bedrooms (biggest:little boys, middle: son, smallest: girl), I sleep in the "sunroom", basement playroom. Potential downside: if the toddler wakes up at night, there's a flight of slippery stairs if he comes to find me.
Choice 2: Me and the foster kids in the 3 upstairs bedrooms (biggest: little boys, middle: me, smallest: girl), my son gets the "sunroom", basement playroom. Potential downside: not sure how safe I feel with a child on the first floor, could someone climb in the window?
Choice 3: Everyone sleeps upstairs, 3 boys together in the biggest room, but my son gets the basement room as "his", where he can hang out with friends, play games. I'd make him come upstairs to sleep because I worry about a fire. Sunroom becomes the playroom. I like the idea of having the playroom on the first floor where I can see/here the little ones.
