Bagged Lunches

[RUDisney]

I make my DS a lunch to take to school most days. He decided this year that a lunch box (soft sided one like an adult would take to work) was too much work for him to bring home. So, we're using brown bags.

So, my creative Mommy gene comes out, and I started drawing something under his name each day to denote the season. Now, I'm not much of an artist, but I can draw simple things. Plus, inside his bag, his sandwiches have been in themed baggies. I find those at The Christmas Tree Shop.

He'll be 16 next month and he comes home all the time telling me how embarassing it is when his friends see his lunch bags. Never once has he asked me to stop, though.

I think he likes the attention, but he also likes that his friends know that his mother makes his lunch for him and that I think enough of him to try to make it special.

Today's bag had kisses drawn on it. His name was written in blue. The kisses were pink.

 

[Hannathy]

I think it is you who likes the attention.

I can't believe you would be doing this to a 16 yr old boy. That is just plain cruel, rude and insensitive. I guess you can't take a hint.



I also hope this post was a joke, although it isn't Aprils Fools yet.

 

[hulagirl87]

yikes! My nephew is 15 and if my sister was doing that to him he would be mortified!!!

If he's telling you that he is embarrassed that means you should stop. No more pink kisses!!!!

 

[RUDisney]

I think it is you who likes the attention.

I can't believe you would be doing this to a 16 yr old boy. That is just plain cruel, rude and insensitive. I guess you can't take a hint.



I also hope this post was a joke, although it isn't Aprils Fools yet.

If he thought it was cruel, rude and insensitive, he'd ask me to stop, or he'd switch bags before school. He's done neither of the sort. If he asked me to stop, I'd stop.

 

[agnes!]

He should make his own lunches. Problem solved.

agnes!

 

[Hannathy]

If he thought it was cruel, rude and insensitive, he'd ask me to stop, or he'd switch bags before school. He's done neither of the sort. If he asked me to stop, I'd stop.

He is telling you it is embarrassing! How much more info do you need? Do you try to embarrass your children? If you do that is just cruel.

For goodness sake let him grow up and get a hobby.

 

[Fantasmic23]

He should make his own lunches. Problem solved.

agnes!

 

[FormrCastMbr]

I think 16 is way too old for Mom drawing on lunch...it is cute when its for younger kids but as soon as they hit middle school (or even younger), I would think its a little strange...IMO.

 

[vicb]

When my kids hit 9th grade (freshman in HS) they both started doing their own laundry and making their own lunches.

 

[tiggersbombed2]

Are you sure he likes it? Ask him. If he does, hey, go for it. But really...he's going to want a girlfriend some day, right? I don't think girls go for guys who carry pink kissed mommy lunches with holiday themed baggies.

 

[luvsJack]

He should make his own lunches. Problem solved.

agnes!

I must of missed something. I didn't read that there WAS a problem. She was just saying that she draws on the kid's lunch bag.

He is telling you it is embarrassing! How much more info do you need? Do you try to embarrass your children? If you do that is just cruel.

For goodness sake let him grow up and get a hobby.

Over dramatize much? Cruel? Really?




You know, sometimes teens really are not quite as mortified that everyone knows they have a mom as some seem to think. And they will say something is embarrassing but really not want you to stop. I am pretty sure the kid could get his point across if he did, never knew a teen that couldn't .

Its kind of like me dancing in the car. DD says its embarrassing but its more like a running joke with us. Just something to make us both laugh waiting in the car line at school.

 

[SC Minnie]

DD makes her on lunch but every so often I will slip a little note in it and a Hershey Kiss.

 

[cathyce2]

If he thought it was cruel, rude and insensitive, he'd ask me to stop, or he'd switch bags before school. He's done neither of the sort. If he asked me to stop, I'd stop.

Sounds like he is more considerate of your feelings than you are of his! He told he was embarassed. It's time to stop! If you absolutely must do something "special" perhaps a small note, with or without artwork, in his bag which he could read privately would be a good compromise.

 

[Magpie]

If he thought it was cruel, rude and insensitive, he'd ask me to stop, or he'd switch bags before school. He's done neither of the sort. If he asked me to stop, I'd stop.

This!

You know better than anyone else how far you can go in teasing your kids. If you are confident that your son will really tell you to stop, and that he's actually enjoying it even if he says he isn't, then by all means carry right on making cute lunches. Maybe he's getting positive attention from the girls in his class.

My 13yo son carries on about it being "embarrassing" when girls run up to pat or tug at his curly hair, but it's obvious he's enjoying himself at the same time. He gets all pink and smiley when he's talking about it.

"I hate it!" he says with half a smile.

"Really, you HATE being chased by girls."

"They're awful! I tell them to stop, but they don't." (Yeah, I can just see this. "Don't. Stop.")

"Then why don't you cut your hair?"

"Maybe I will!" But he never does.

 

[Hannathy]

Over dramatize much? Cruel? Really?

No I don't think it is over dramatized.

IMO when someone does something to another person to embarrass them purposefully it is cruel.

the Young man and he is a young man not a little child has said it is embarrassing and she continues to do it then it is on purpose to embarrass him and is cruel.

 

[agnes!]

He should make his own lunches. Problem solved.

agnes!

I must of missed something. I didn't read that there WAS a problem. She was just saying that she draws on the kid's lunch bag. ...

The OP said: "He'll be 16 next month and he comes home all the time telling me how embarassing it is when his friends see his lunch bags. Never once has he asked me to stop, though."

My point is that he is complaining all the time about how his mother makes his lunch then maybe *he* should pack it himself so everything can be done to his specifications. He packs it himself, he can't complain about what is or is not included on or in the lunch-bag.

agnes!

 

[Magpie]

Are you sure he likes it? Ask him. If he does, hey, go for it. But really...he's going to want a girlfriend some day, right? I don't think girls go for guys who carry pink kissed mommy lunches with holiday themed baggies.

Actually, when I was a girl I knew a guy who wore a hand-knitted teddy-bear hat with matching mitts (on a string!) that his mommy had made for him. I thought he was *incredibly* cute and I would have dated him in a heartbeat. He could also dance like... OMG. Sex on a stick.

My friends and I had pictures of mostly-naked men in short-shorts holding kittens and babies and stuff like that plastered all over our bedrooms.

As long as the boy is otherwise a manly sort (tall, athletic, good looking, great dancer, whatever), girls will find a his mommy lunches adorable. In fact, they'll probably be impressed by his obvious self-confidence.

 

[bgirldeb]

 

[tar heel]

Since you posted this, I assume you want our opinions... I think his telling you he's embarrassed is a plain signal for you to stop. I suspect his friends think it's funny, too -- and not in a good way.

At least he's not in middle school. If he were, you might as well put a sign that says "kick me" on his back.

My 16-year-old would think I'd lost my mind if I did this.

 

[mas5]

Lets give this mom a break...how judgemental can you be...suggest she's cruel, suggest she should stop making her kid lunch. Wow. I make 5 lunches a day two of them are for college students. Why do I do it? I love them, they work, go to school, have homework, keep their rooms clean, are good kids who appreciate my efforts. Oh yah, and one of them (the eldest) loves the Winnie the pooh lunch box purchased at age 17 at WDW..actually is strong minded enough to take the ribbing from friends and ask them what their issue is. After five kids I can assure you that if the OP's son was really embarrsassed mom would know without doubt. Lighten up people it is a bagged lunch.