"Bad Teacher" barks up the wrong tree!!!

[aaarcher86]

I am not saying I disagree with all medication, I disagree with the over medicating that is taking place. My youngest brother needs his meds, my nephew gets them because he was not doing as well as my sister wanted him too. That is when I think it is wrong.

I can agree with that.

 

[mjkacmom]

I am in college, with three kids. DD5 is the oldest and the only one currently in school. It appears to me DD3 has some form of ADHD, I would never force her to take meds. If in high school she asks for them we may explore our options. You and I may look at success as two completely different things. Success to me is happiness not money, prestige, or accomplishments. One of my kids may be happy being a a doctor, another may be happy being a janitor. If being a janitor makes them happy I consider it success..

I do not force ds to take medication - he is thrilled it's available to him. As a bright kid, his friends are all bright kids, who do well in school. He was MISERABLE in 6th grade, getting C's on his report card. He loves school (honors Chemistry being his favorite subject this year), and can't wait to go to college (every single member of DH's family, and mine, has at least a 4 year degree, most have post graduate degrees). This is what makes our family happy. None would be happy being a janitor, because all of the kids are very book-smart.

I get that college isn't for everyone, but when you come from white collar stock (great with math, bad with tools), it's for you. I can't imagine what future careers MY kids would have without college - school is what they are good at.

ETA - I'm certified in special education, and pretty familiar with these medications.

 

[Lorelei Lee]

Some times the teacher is right, and sometimes the teacher is wrong. In the OPs case, I think the teacher was in the right. If all projects are displayed, would the OP had a problem with her child's project NOT being displayed? Probably.

I would have addressed the bad grade with my kid first, then the teacher. Only then I would have sat down with the principal if I truly felt my child was being singled out, or that the teacher had a problem. OP will now have the reputation as "THAT PARENT", and that can reflect onto her child.

It wasn't displaying the projects, it was displaying the grades. NONE of the grades, good or bad, should have been displayed.

 

[Lorelei Lee]

I've been away from the Dis, but would really like to know how DRUGS and MENTAL ILLNESS became part of this thread?

Seems a little to me from reading the OP!!

Because this is the DIS, where we always windup on a tangent.

 

["Cinder" Ella's Mom]

My 10 yr old 5th grader was publicly humiliated by his teacher. While preparing the classroom for Open House, the teacher was putting the class projects with the grade on their desks to display. My son saw her putting his out on his desk and he said to her "Please don't put that on my desk because I got a bad grade". He got a 44. Her response was "Nope its going right on your desk for your parents to see". What she should have said was, "It's going on your desk for your parents and anyone else who feels inclined to look at it to see how horrible you did"! My son was so upset and ashamed of his grade but yet she completely disregarded his feelings and put it there anyway. When he told me he didn't want to go to Open House I couldn't understand why, and that is when he told me. Believe me, I was on a mission when I got to the school because I couldn't imagine a teacher doing that to him or anyone. Boy was I shocked when I got to the room and saw for myself what she had done. I marched straight to the Principle and demanded my son be removed from her classroom the next morning. What a nasty person........ Thanks for listening!

Back to our OP. I agree that the problem is of course in displaying grades at an Open House, which is odd at the very least, but also that fact that this student asked her not to display his. What could her motivation be other than to embarrass the student? What teacher actually thinks that is a good tactic, one that will encourage a child to try harder? If teacher wanted the parents to see the project, all she had to do was send it home for a signature. My students read a novel called Ironman by Chris Crutcher. The main character is mocked and humiliated by his teacher. Our discussions about this in class were shocking. So many kids felt disrespected by teachers over the years and to them, respect is the most important aspect of a teacher/student relationship. None felt motivated to work harder to impress an adult who made them feel small.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

My father is a Vietnam veteran. If he is the epitome of a "real man", this world is in a heck of a lot of trouble.

Oh and at 66 years old, my father is still a momma's boy.

I am a vietnam vet.

and it sounds like you have some sort of problem with your father being a veteran.

but thats the problem a lot of people have with those of us, that fought in an unpopular war.

and I would guess that the world is a lot better off because of those of us that served in a non-pc war. including your father.

thank a veteran for the life you live.

 

[North of Mouse]

I am a vietnam vet.

and it sounds like you have some sort of problem with your father being a veteran.

but thats the problem a lot of people have with those of us, that fought in an unpopular war.

and I would guess that the world is a lot better off because of those of us that served in a non-pc war. including your father.

thank a veteran for the life you live.

Sorry,

My DH also! Unfortunately, not much thanks for you guys when you came home.

 

[declansdad]

I don't have one link for it it's a long list middle daughter is in second year of college and just started phy classes. Anyways being nerd that she is she started looking in to school shooting and mental illness with drugs. The information she was showing me was eye opening.

Did you know that around 6.4 million children are "reported" to be ADHD with around 2/3 of those on meds that's around 10 percent of kids in school system.

So what that tells me is 10 percent of population of children ages 5 to 17 have ADHD and that number has got to be bigger with kids not getting reported.

That is shocking and alarming.

Or it is over diagnosed and and easy answer for some parents.

 

[Art 1]

Or it is over diagnosed and and easy answer for some parents.

Almost seems as if some parents like the attention of their child having this too. Just seems that way.

 

[msjprincess]

I am a vietnam vet.

and it sounds like you have some sort of problem with your father being a veteran.

but thats the problem a lot of people have with those of us, that fought in an unpopular war.

and I would guess that the world is a lot better off because of those of us that served in a non-pc war. including your father.

thank a veteran for the life you live.

That's what you got from that post?

 

[AC7179]

As a teacher, displaying the projects would have been nonnegotiable, but the grades would not be visible. Parents would be able to tell by looking whose were strong and whose were weak.

 

[Talking Hands]

The only time I request my child be removed to another classroom was when my youngest was sexually molested by another student. I wanted them separated because the other mother felt that her son needed no correction and what he was doing was normal.

 

[declansdad]

The only time I request my child be removed to another classroom was when my youngest was sexually molested by another student. I wanted them separated because the other mother felt that her son needed no correction and what he was doing was normal.

Wouldn't that be a criminal matter?

 

[JanaDee]

I am a vietnam vet.

and it sounds like you have some sort of problem with your father being a veteran.

but thats the problem a lot of people have with those of us, that fought in an unpopular war.

and I would guess that the world is a lot better off because of those of us that served in a non-pc war. including your father.

thank a veteran for the life you live.

*whoosh*

Yeah, that was the sound of my point going right over your head.

 

[aaarcher86]

The only time I request my child be removed to another classroom was when my youngest was sexually molested by another student. I wanted them separated because the other mother felt that her son needed no correction and what he was doing was normal.

That mother would have gotten an *** whoopin from yours truly if that had been me. She got off easy.

 

[smitch425]

The only time I request my child be removed to another classroom was when my youngest was sexually molested by another student. I wanted them separated because the other mother felt that her son needed no correction and what he was doing was normal.

How awful! I can't imagine how horrifying that would be. On a related (yet obviously no where near as serious) note, when DS was in kindergarten I got a call from the school nurse. She said that DS had a "bathroom accident" and I needed to bring him a change of clothes. I got to school and he had peed his pants. I said "What the heck happened to you?" He said, "(classmate's name) was looking the through the crack of the door, and I didn't want him to see my bottom, so I didn't pull my pants down very much." I told the nurse what happened, and the teacher made a "privacy please" announcement the next day. DS figured the lesser of the two embarrassments was to risk wetting himself than to show his bum to a friend. He's so funny.

 

[arminnie]

So you have ditched the teacher.

Going forward you child is either developmentally slow or lazy - what are you going to do about that?

 

[alex9179]

I am a vietnam vet.

and it sounds like you have some sort of problem with your father being a veteran.

but thats the problem a lot of people have with those of us, that fought in an unpopular war.

and I would guess that the world is a lot better off because of those of us that served in a non-pc war. including your father.

thank a veteran for the life you live.

Being a veteran and being a stand-up person are mutually exclusive. One can be both, but one can be either.

My sister was in the Army. The number of married men who propositioned her was ridiculous. And, she made excuses for their behavior because "they are sacrificing themselves for you". Uh huh. Being in the military and being a good guy are not the same thing. Good guys can be military, and so can jerks.

 

[luvsJack]

So you have ditched the teacher.

Going forward you child is either developmentally slow or lazy - what are you going to do about that?

One low grade makes her son neither. How do you reach that conclusion?

 

[mhsjax]

One low grade makes her son neither. How do you reach that conclusion?

I know. My son got a 30 on his first Honors physics test. He was mortified. he studied for it. Well fast forward to the first report card, he jot an "A" with a comment form the teacher. "outstanding academic performance" I guess that blows that posters theory right out of the water. The thing that people assume here are just MIND BLOWING.