Bad Childhood Good Life-PARENTING

[miss missy]

Yes Dr Laura's book. Never thought I would read something like this. I am not a huge fan, although most of what she says on her show I agree with. But I love this book. The thing is, it is not only for people that had a bad childhood, I see so much in their about parenting in general... as in what NOT to do to screw up our kids. It covers minor annoyances to big things. Anyone else read it? I got it because my Mom keeps bailing out her adult children and I wanted to get why she does that. Once you understand the weakness, it makes sense.

Just thought I'de share.

 

[shortbun]

I've heard her on the radio. I could not, would not, read her book. She's mean and I don't trust her.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I love, love, love Dr. Laura. Yes I read that book and finishing Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.

I know alot of people hate her. She is tough and is all about kids.

As far as her new book, it really, really helped me release all the blame I put on myself as a child. She was the first person to say your parents did wrong and you were just a kid. Everything is clear now.
Instead of "complaining"...I fix it and move on.
That is where my tag came from..."Just stay out of the mud", Dr. Laura.

I am 100% happy now.

I just want to say that we are probably the only ones who like her here or her advice.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

She is a hypocrite. Her son was in daycare while she worked on her career but will give working moms a shredding about leaving their kids. Even though she has said he wasn't in daycare but "playschool" come on!. She is mean.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

She is a hypocrite. Her son was in daycare while she worked on her career but will give working moms a shredding about leaving their kids. Even though she has said he wasn't in daycare but "playschool" come on!. She is mean.

What does that matter? You are missing the point. The point of Dr. Laura is to help yourself if you are having trouble.

Perhaps you had a great childhood which lead to a wonderful life???
Well I didn't. Lot's of crap in my childhood and life to sort out.

 

[ElizaB39]

Her son was in "daycare" two hours a day. Her daycare objections are the 9-10 hours per day that many many people experience. I don't agree with everything, but much of what she says makes sense, is smart, and is learned from her mistakes. She is not perfect and does not claim to be. I like a lot of what she says, and I would not define her as "mean"; opinionated and mouthy, yes.

 

[shortbun]

I love, love, love Dr. Laura. Yes I read that book and finishing Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.

I know alot of people hate her. She is tough and is all about kids.

As far as her new book, it really, really helped me release all the blame I put on myself as a child. She was the first person to say your parents did wrong and you were just a kid. Everything is clear now.
Instead of "complaining"...I fix it and move on.

First, glad you are happy!!!
Second, this inner child healing and moving on thing has been around since the 60's. Dr. Laura is not exactly an original thinker. The 12 step groups have been doing it for a long time. They charge you NOTHING for their wisdom. She charges you a lot! Even she might suggest you NOT spend the money and go for the same thing that is free, eh?
Third, she's mean. Mean as dirt. Can't imagine she was a gentle mother. Nothing about her seems gentle or kind to me.
Last, she's a paid entertainer, why would you believe a word she says? Kinda like depending on musicians for your political beliefs, don't ya think?

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I haven't read the book and figured that I didn't need to since my childhood was ok. Then I heard her say that it helps a person understand people who had rough childhoods. My DH had a crappy childhood. Not abuse, but a mother who was depressed and a dad who was had a severe mental breakdown when my DH was in his early teens, and I think my DH could learn something from reading the book. IF he will read the book.

 

[SpecialK]

First, glad you are happy!!!
Second, this inner child healing and moving on thing has been around since the 60's. Dr. Laura is not exactly an original thinker. The 12 step groups have been doing it for a long time. They charge you NOTHING for their wisdom. She charges you a lot! Even she might suggest you NOT spend the money and go for the same thing that is free, eh?
Third, she's mean. Mean as dirt. Can't imagine she was a gentle mother. Nothing about her seems gentle or kind to me.
Last, she's a paid entertainer, why would you believe a word she says? Kinda like depending on musicians for your political beliefs, don't ya think?

ITA - I think "Dr." Laura is a charleton.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

What does that matter? You are missing the point. The point of Dr. Laura is to help yourself if you are having trouble.

Perhaps you had a great childhood which lead to a wonderful life???
Well I didn't. Lot's of crap in my childhood and life to sort out.

Come on the wonderful fairytale childhood doesn't exist. My point was is she doesn't practice what she preaches.

If she was honest and explained her mistakes and what she learned from them maybe I would value her opinions more. Instead she takes a my way or highway approach to her advice. Her delivery is mean spirited and that is what makes "great radio". She wouldn't be as popular if she didn't come off the way she does. It is all schtick.

 

[goodeats]

I just love listening to her show. I don't 100% agree with all her advice, but for the most part it's right on the money. I love when she's mean to the idiots who call in with stupid problems that are their own fault! I mean, come on, you call Dr. Laura and you tell her you're shacking up with your bf and then wonder why he's not proposing? Of course she's going to call you out. I love it!

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

Her son was in "daycare" two hours a day. Her daycare objections are the 9-10 hours per day that many many people experience. I don't agree with everything, but much of what she says makes sense, is smart, and is learned from her mistakes. She is not perfect and does not claim to be. I like a lot of what she says, and I would not define her as "mean"; opinionated and mouthy, yes.

She was forced to admit her mistakes after other brought them out. She has never put herself in anothers shoes or has empathy for her callers.

She is so judgemental meanwhile her life is not as organized as her advice recommends.

Technically her son was out of her care much longer than that. She worked insanely long hours to get where she is and of course her son "suffered" if you judge it by her standard. Her husband was not a SAHD so that is why she is a hypocrite IMO. It is ok for her to do but then freaks on people who want to be successful.

Mind you I was a SAHM mom for 5 years and now work part time once a week while my son is in school so I do truely believe in SAH parenting. BUT I also acknowledge that the way I do things isn't the way EVERYONE should do it.

Dr. Laura on the other hand will not accept any wiggle rom on her POVs and that is too judgemental IMO.

 

[goofygirl]

Here's some of her "great" parental advice from the past- if you have an autistic child, just DUMP THEM and move on and go party!!



A mother calls Dr. Laura for an answer to one question, "Should I go to my father's birthday party?" Her "moral dilemma" was that her husband did not think they should go anywhere they could not take their child with autism.

Her answer is, "Yes." "Buy yourself a nice dress, and have a nice time at dinner tomorrow night, maybe one of the few nice times you've had at dinner in 8 years. And that's fair." Her answer was also "There's nowhere you can take this kid. There is no place." Then incredibly, Dr. Laura recommends that mother should just put her kid in an institution so she can spend more time with the rest of the family.


Source:
http://www.wrightslaw.com/advoc/ltrs/FEAT_Dr_Laura_99_0730.html

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

Here's some of her "great" parental advice from the past- if you have an autistic child, just DUMP THEM and move on and go party!!



A mother calls Dr. Laura for an answer to one question, "Should I go to my father's birthday party?" Her "moral dilemma" was that her husband did not think they should go anywhere they could not take their child with autism.

Her answer is, "Yes." "Buy yourself a nice dress, and have a nice time at dinner tomorrow night, maybe one of the few nice times you've had at dinner in 8 years. And that's fair." Her answer was also "There's nowhere you can take this kid. There is no place." Then incredibly, Dr. Laura recommends that mother should just put her kid in an institution so she can spend more time with the rest of the family.


Source:
http://www.wrightslaw.com/advoc/ltrs/FEAT_Dr_Laura_99_0730.html

What a wonderful woman to base how to live your life off of. There was a caller a long time ago (I think I was pregnant) so had to be 6 years ago that I stopped listening to her. But the child was always benched at a sporting situation (I cannot remember the sport) but Laura aSchlessinger went off on how their child shouldn't be in sports if they stink. It was brutal. The mother was calling in on how to deal with the coach and it turned into Laura bashing the sons ability to be on the team. B R U T A L!

 

[ElizaB39]

Well, she is a piece of work isn't she? Doesn't mean I agree or disagree with everything and I certainly don't base my life on hers!

 

[PrincessKitty1]

She is an awful person. Listening to her radio show is like rubbernecking a train wreck--it's hard to tear yourself away when you're anticipating what vicious thing she will say next.

I think the ultimate was when a woman who had been mugged and raped and got pregnant as a result called in. Friends/relatives thought she should get an abortion but the caller was anti-abortion and planned to have the baby and keep it. Dr. Laura ripped into her and her tone was one of complete disgust. She was unbelievably nasty.

I doubt "Dr" Laura writes her own books. For anybody who doesn't already know, by the way, her doctorate is in physiology, NOT psychology.

 

[phamton]

I'm not a fan of Dr. Laura but after reading the entire transcript, I see there is more to the story. Her other children were with the grandparents possibly permanently because she couldn't take care of her other children with her severely autistic child. The woman herself was on the verge of a breakdown. Read the whole transcript. It wasn't "institutilize your son so you can go party." http://www.wrightslaw.com/advoc/ltrs/FEAT_Dr_Laura_99_0730.html

I don't think I could ever do that but I do have a dear friend that did have to institutioanlize a child. He was profoundly ********, blind, and deaf. He didn't appear to know her or anyone. She put him in a hospital type setting when he was 9 years old after he became combative. She had 3 other children that essentially had no mother for 9 years. It was a choice she made and not one I would ever hope to have to do.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

Well, she is a piece of work isn't she? Doesn't mean I agree or disagree with everything and I certainly don't base my life on hers!

The sad thing is by calling herself DR. in a call in advice program she implies she is a Doc of Psyche and people do take her advice literally.

She is around because she is entertaining. Some people get pleasure in hearing others problems. What could be more titilating than hearing a caller with an issue having that issue thrown back into their face. It is mean and sad. I still cannot believe people call in.

She is no better than Jerry Springer and at least he says his stuff is staged. He does the show for entertainment value not under the cloak of self help.

 

[cardaway]

She is no better than Jerry Springer and at least he says his stuff is staged. He does the show for entertainment value not under the cloak of self help.

True. People don't think about how the calls are carefully screened and hand picked so she can go on one of her female dog like rants.

She's a complete joke. People would get more better advice from the homeless person downtown. At least their experiences would be genuine rather than the re-written history Laura has made for herself over the years.

But at least she'll likely never touch on the topic of nude photos and the women who pose for them.

 

[3DisneyNUTS]

I'm not a fan of Dr. Laura but after reading the entire transcript, I see there is more to the story. Her other children were with the grandparents possibly permanently because she couldn't take care of her other children with her severely autistic child. The woman herself was on the verge of a breakdown. Read the whole transcript. It wasn't "institutilize your son so you can go party." http://www.wrightslaw.com/advoc/ltrs/FEAT_Dr_Laura_99_0730.html

I don't think I could ever do that but I do have a dear friend that did have to institutioanlize a child. He was profoundly ********, blind, and deaf. He didn't appear to know her or anyone. She put him in a hospital type setting when he was 9 years old after he became combative. She had 3 other children that essentially had no mother for 9 years. It was a choice she made and not one I would ever hope to have to do.

The thing is that this caller called in about bringing the child to the party not to get lectured into institutionalizing her child.

As being told that I "needed a life' by doctors who suggested I "give up my son or find a home" when my son wasn't even 24 hours old I know the feeling of hearing that. Sometimes life doesn't take turns we expect or think we can handle but that is the way it is. And by Laura saying that the other children will be productive while the other can't be fixed therefore should be institutionalized is disgusting. If she was truely educated in the field she could have directed the mom to respite and had a plan worked out where the entire family could benefit without having to dump the autistic child.

I mean if you want to play devils advocate and reverse Lauras arguement then you don't have to worry about the typical children since they can just get over their childhood and be fine. The mom would then need to stay with the child who couldn't help themselves.

Lauras major problem is there is no balance at all in her advice it is always extremes. But that is what makes it more sensational!