Bad Bridesmaids!

[Violet Crayon]

I was a bridesmaid at 19 for my friends (the same age). The wedding would have been fine if it was not scheduled the weekend after going back to college. The first issue was transportation, DBF took time off of work to bring me down to college and gas money was involved as usual. My mom didn't want to get me for the wedding, but ended up doing it, and DBF had to bring me back (more time off of work). Other friends were not sure they would make it (or didn't make it) because of the semester starting. While DBF was originally taking me down to college the groom decided that was the weekend to rent tuxes after DBF had been pressing to do it earlier (before his classes started), so he had to bail out on their fitting and go at the last minute, on his own. We got a ton of lip about that, that we were ruining the wedding. Sure, my entire university ruined the wedding because I had to be into the dorms and starting class. The second biggest issue was obviously money, I dropped $1000 on text books and art supplies that first week, and tuition money for the first semester. When I bailed out on spa treatment and manicures my friends were clearly upset. Then they failed to tell me we were going to have matching up-dos until a few hours before the wedding, I had curled the ends of my hair because it was very choppy/layered and short. All of the other girls had long hair that they twisted up and clipped with flowers. They decided I could use the clip to hold strands of my hair back (half my hair was falling out of the attempted style). September is not a good wedding month if the majority of your guests/party are dealing with back to school schedules and costs.

 

[scrump]

I've been a bridesmaid twice, and enjoyed both experiences, but would not like to do it ever again. Both were for out of state weddings, so the costs of the airfare, hotel, dress, shoes, gift, etc, were astronomical for me. Even for a more local wedding, I just feel that I'd prefer to participate as a guest, rather than as a member of the bridal party.

 

[PaulaSB12]

I was MOH for my sister, the other bridesmaid was her soon to be sister in law. As she had red hair I got to wear a cornflower blue dress a colour I don't like. My sister got married on carnival day and the start of the wedding meant that we had to be escorted through the parade route just before the parade! The only bit I really didn't like was the pictures I never like having my picture taken and even now haven't looked at them.

 

[kellyg403]

I have been the bridesmaid in a few weddings, but the only one that stands out as being pure torture was my youngest sisters wedding. She was definitely the bride from heck, but we all knew it was going to be like that since she is normally a serious drama queen. We weren't asked anything, she told us when to show up, what we were wearing, where we were to get our dresses altered etc etc. OK with me and my other sister, it was her wedding. Till the day before the wedding when we showed up to the place she chose to alter our dresses. My one sister and I are completely different body styles, I am a pear shape, she is apple. She is more endowed by about 4 sizes and shorter by about 6 inches. The stupid lady altered our dresses completely wrong, so in the end she had to wear my dress, I had to wear hers. Mine was too big and hers was so small in the bustline she spent the day in a bra 2 sizes too small to squish everything in. The receiving line was pure torture, I felt like everyone could look down the front of my dress because of the gap and she was thinking everyone was looking at how much she owned since it was coming out the top. The dresses were a not so great color of teal, all taffeta and ruffles. It was a nightmare.

A couple years ago she was talking about her wedding and in the way she always does mentioned that if she had to do all over again she wouldn't have us in her wedding because we were too much trouble. My other sis and I just looked at each other, we never said a word or complained about what she wanted since it was her day but we know what WE went through on her account. We decided if she did ever do it over we would just tell her she has no taste and we don't want to be in it.

That was the worst dress ever.
Kelly

 

[SDFgirl]

I've been a bridesmaid once, and it was okay. It was mostly tiring! I didn't mind the expense, because the bride is a dear friend.

I wouldn't be surprised if I never had to do it again - my SIL is very non-traditional, as is the girl my brother is most likely going to marry. I picture them both having non-traditional weddings.

My two remaining single friends have been bridesmaids soooo many times that they both say they're not having any bridesmaids at their weddings.

For instance my Maid of Honor has been a bridesmaid in 17 weddings! She's just one of those people who everyone loves. When she gets married, she can't possibly have all those people in her wedding, so she's just not having them at all (thank goodness!!)