awkward situation: no shoes at baby shower

I cannot think of anyone we know that wears shoes in their house. Even the guy that inspects our furnace and AC takes his shoes off (not sure why he doesn’t just wear those bootie cover things) If someone was to leave their shoes on in my house, I’d probably just roll with it but it has actually never come up.
This is why I commented about all the people stating "shoes off" houses need to warn others before inviting them over. Most "shoes off" people assume that everyone else does the same, so they would have no idea that there's anything to "warn" guests about.

I'm pretty surprised that this post has 6 pages of replies already. I read the first two and didn't see this mentioned. I have plantar fasciitis and wear shoes from the time I wake up in the morning til I get back in bed. Even in pajamas, I have my Reeboks on. Hardwood flooring is the worst for PF. No way could I walk around barefoot for a couple hours on hardwood floors.
If you lived in an area where shoes off was the norm, you would be in the habit of having a pair of "house shoes" or slippers with arch support on you that you could change into. Or you would apologize as you came into the house that you have a condition and can't remove your shoes and the host would most likely tell you it's no problem and let you leave them on.

I think it is interesting that folks don't want their floors dirty but don't think about NAKED feet with who knows what going on with them walking all over their carpet, shedding, leaving germs .. where they and their kids walk, sit and play. I am a person that doesn't like feet, especially other people's feet. Now if they have on socks it's all good but what if they are sockless? 🤢
I think this is why this is a regional practice. I grew up in a "shoes off" region, but I don't really recall ever seeing people walking around in bare feet (especially in someone else's home). People always had socks on because they were wearing them with their shoes (and a lot of people would even bring extra socks with non-slip or little slippers in their purse).

Living in the South, we wear flip flops or sandals all the time. I don't even go barefoot in my own home, so I would never expect someone to remove their shoes to walk around barefoot in mine.

And do people wash their feet before bed ? Check out Some flip-flop wearers feet after a day in a park!!
Yes, people who wear flip flops or sandals wash their feet before bed. I would never dream of getting into bed without. When I travel, we bring baby wipes to wipe feet off in case we are not able to bathe before bed. Even when we've travelled to Africa and not had the ability to shower where we were staying, my husband and I cleaned our feet every night before bed.
 
Another Minnesotan here. Definitely shoes off, and we don't have to ask. Everyone here does it. If someone (other than elderly) wore shoes in the house, we would think it extremely rude. Bare feet would be awkward as well. We all wear socks in the winter. I guess we don't do formal house parties, where shoes are "part" of our outfits. Sometimes we'll bring slippers with us, when visiting others. We also wipe our dogs feet when they come inside, if it's snowy or wet out (they're trained to hold up their paws). We have wood floors in all common areas, if that matters.
 
I am glad that is not a thing here- people leave shoes on when they go into a house. I would hate having to take mine off at peoples houses and don't want anyone walking around mine with their shoes off.
 
I am glad that is not a thing here- people leave shoes on when they go into a house. I would hate having to take mine off at peoples houses and don't want anyone walking around mine with their shoes off.

Even wet snowy winter boots?
 

Even wet snowy winter boots?

You know not all places have snow or even frequent rain, right?

You keep bringing this up like it's a given.

Where I live, its sunny and dry like 350 days of the year. There is nothing to "track in." Shoes are generally clean on the bottoms. Worst case, they have some dust/dirt on them from walking around on pavement or sidewalks where it hasn't rained for months on end. A quick wipe on a doormat takes care of that.
 
You know not all places have snow or even frequent rain, right?

You keep bringing this up like it's a given.

Where I live, its sunny and dry like 350 days of the year. There is nothing to "track in." Shoes are generally clean on the bottoms. Worst case, they have some dust/dirt on them from walking around on pavement or sidewalks where it hasn't rained for months on end. A quick wipe on a doormat takes care of that.

Exactly! That's why posters who keep insisting it's weird to not wear shoes in the house have to realize it's often climate dependent. I was being facetious in my reply.

Totally agree with you. If I lived in Florida I probably would just wear flip flops year round.
 
I like shoes off at the door but I'm not a stickler for it. I have a large rug, a boot tray and a chair in my entryway and most kid visitors automatically take off their shoes as soon as they enter. Some grownups do, some don't. Our parents are getting older and have some mobility issues and replacement joints, so they are steadier when they where shoes inside. For parties, I mop before the party but save the scrub the floors on my hands and knees for after the party when the floors are much dirtier.

I always wonder if the truly shoes off in the house families take them on and off each time while bringing in the groceries in the winter.

Shoes on/off bringing in groceries. I just keep slipons at the door,

There’s 4 feet of snow out there. People aren’t wandering to other houses in flip flops.
Unless you carry extra shoes with you would be walking in the house with wet clunky boots.
Which granted us a thing. Use to carry dress shoes to bars and such so I can see it doing so for a party.

not limited to Canadians. I’m sure North Dakota and Minnesota with similar climates would be the same,

Minnesotan and...yep...no shoes. At all.

Any party we go to, planning your socks to be matching or clean is more important then the shoes. The shoes are left behind at the doors, the socks (or slippers) are what are on display.

I think my tag on here (if that is still a thing) harks back to the OG time this was asked, back in the dark ages. Any fancy party I have been to, yep, shoes off and nylon-feet, etc. were on display. It's why you paint your toes before a fancy event.. ;)
 
Exactly! That's why posters who keep insisting it's weird to not wear shoes in the house have to realize it's often climate dependent. I was being facetious in my reply.

Totally agree with you. If I lived in Florida I probably would just wear flip flops year round.
But would you wear the same flip flops inside and outside?
 
But would you wear the same flip flops inside and outside?

I'm sure this is not the norm, but until very recently I never did. I always had a pair of flip flops that were essentially my "summer slippers" that I would wear inside the house. I would just slip out of one and into the other every time I went in or out of the house. Like some others I find it gross to walk around barefoot inside and I also now have issues with plantar fasciitis and heel spurs so I usually need to have something on my feet
 
When I had my ankle/foot surgery, the surgeon told me to never go barefoot. If I know I'm going to someone's house who is a shoes off person, I take my slippers. In fact, one of my shoes-off friends, who is Hawaiian, bought me the slippers I take with me. I only wear those slippers at shoes off houses.

Now we ask people to NOT take their shoes off when they come in. Our dog will steal them and hide them.
Former broken and fixed ankle human here-granted I was young when I broke mine but it’s rare I go without something in my feet in my house let alone anyone else’s.
And lmao my dog doesn’t really have a thing for shoes…..unless it’s slippers….for some reason those are a no. Her big thing is when we go to wash the towels as we are separating everything she rolls around in them
 
I will not remove my shoes in someone else’s home. As a child, my family was at another family’s home. The adults were playing cards and all the kids were playing in stocking feet. I stepped on a knitting needle that was embedded in their shag carpeting and it went 2 inches up into my foot. So, there’s no way in hell you’ll ever get me to remove my shoes in someone else’s house.
 
The only place I have ever been asked to remove my shoes is Tokyo. Anyone insisting on this in their houses should do what the trampoline parks do and keep a supply of socks available to hand out to visitors who may have callouses or bunions or just tend to get cold feet.
 
Anyone insisting on this in their houses should do what the trampoline parks do and keep a supply of socks available to hand out to visitors
Martha Stewart has been recommending this for years. She has a basket of slippers specifically for guests. She also claims "no one will mind", but obviously she did not consult the Disboards first.
 
I had no idea wearing shoes inside your home or somebody elses was an actual thing. I hate socks, so never wear them, but always have a pair in my purse or glove box just incase i stop at somebodies house.
 
I honestly think it's going to go like this. If the CM is able to give the discount to blue card holders without the QR code they will. You will get a CM here and there that will care that the card is expired, but most won't. If the system is set up to need it in order to apply discount well then the lines are going to be very slow. Owners on these boards are well educated in how their membership works and pretty much Disney's every move. Others... not so much. They probably don't even know their blue card is expired. My blue card friend would know nothing of this if I hadn't talked to her, and her mother who is the main person on the contract still likely knows zero about it. DVC is just not good at communicating with their members, even their direct ones, and by not good I mean well they're terrible.
I thought this was an awkward situation. Invited to a baby shower. I'm rather old-school and I get dressed up to go special events. My family and I were in cute shoes and when we arrived the hostess asked us to remove our shoes. (If I had known I would've brought slippers I have really bad foot circulation and get cold feet instantly!) I sorta felt odd that she did that and really didn't want to go barefoot! I know a lot of people have shoes-off homes, but do you forewarn your guests? Or do you provide slippers?
I don’t allow shoes in my home never have never will. I have had this for so long it actually wouldn’t occur to me to warn anyone. I actually don’t know anyone who allows outdoor shoes in the home so for me the shoes off is normal I’d actually be surprised by anything else
 
We don't ask people to remove their shoes. If they don't offer I assume they have foot issues and leave it alone. I don't have company over that much so I just clean the floors after they leave. In my opinion the people who require shoes off in the house are better house keepers. They probably clean their floors daily. I don't do that but wish I did.

Shoes in the house bothered me more when my girls were babies and crawling around the floor.
 












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