Asking for some opinions.

[DisneyMom81]

Take your own advice.

Wow, that was really rude, and rather uncalled for.
My suggestion is, next time you want honest opinions, make sure you can handle it if the responce isn't what you wanted. It stinks when people don't agree with you, but it happens from time to time. You offered up information, people heard it, and had a reaction. As I said earlier, you can't control what others say or think, just what you say and do. Its good advice.

hope you feel better soon, and your family forgives you.

 

[Stitchfans]

I think something to keep in mind is that Facebook is, essentially, a public forum. Just as you posted your opinion on the joke, someone else then posted their opinion on your opinion. If you don't want to hear the comments from others, then you shouldn't post anything on someone else's Facebook page. I've replied to many status updates, comments, etc. and often gotten comments from people I've never met nor heard of (though they've always been people who found what I said amusing or were agreeing with me as I keep the "I don't like this" stuff to myself).

Again. Thank you for our comment. Also again, I already agreed to this. I agreed that I overreacted, and yes from now on I will be very careful what I post on anyone's facebook page, either that of as many has said ignore it.
But also as many has said and I agreed to, it wasn't necessarily the comment that started the argument with my SIL. All agreed with and all over with.

Thank you everyone for your opinions on how you felt about the joke.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

Ahhh the classic "If you don't agree with me I'm going to paint the other person as being as evil as Hitler so you will be on my side" thread.

I'm indifferent about the joke. You way overreacted.

There was a Kanye joke about Hitler too.

Hey yo Hitler - Mussilini was a way better dictator that you.

 

[Stitchfans]

Wow, that was really rude, and rather uncalled for.
My suggestion is, next time you want honest opinions, make sure you can handle it if the responce isn't what you wanted. It stinks when people don't agree with you, but it happens from time to time. You offered up information, people heard it, and had a reaction. As I said earlier, you can't control what others say or think, just what you say and do. Its good advice.

hope you feel better soon, and your family forgives you.

Yes, and you have been nothing but kind. Thank you for all your comments. I am sure my family does not feel they have to forgive me. All is well with me and my family. Just not me and my SIL which is not uncommon since she has steps on everyone's toes, not just mine many times over.

 

[DVC Sadie]

Well aware. I am not trying to control any one. Where did you get that? If anything my SIL is the control freak. She tries to dictate to everyone what she wants so on.
Her way or no way.


You are correct. Again , I admit I over reacted. I was wrong. So I'm not perfect. Sorry.

No one is perfect and there is no reason to apologize, at least not to me.


I was just trying to give a bit of advice for when your feelings do get hurt or you do get angry in regards to either FB or even the DIsboards, thats all. The bit of advice I was giving I have found works well for me and has worked for others.

 

[rie'smom]

My first thought was that is was disrespectful to Patrick Swayze, with him just passing away and all. Funerals and death IMO is time of sorrow not joking around about stuff like that.

Yes I agree. I have been ignoring many stupid things she had been posting. REALLY stupid things, but this one kind of just hit me wrong. IMO since all I said was that I didn't really find it funny I figured no big deal I disagreed with her and friends so what. Lets move on. but when her friend made that comment I got angry. Yeh, chances are I did over react, but like I said I was foolish enough to let many years of her nonsense and all bottle up and collect and let it out right then.

PLEASE tell me how to do this! I've been trying to figure it out for weeks now. I have some people that just post on and on and on and on and I really don't care that much about what they're doing. I'd love to be able to filter them out, so to speak.

This is not about the joke IMO as much as it is about the underlying tension between you and your SIL. That said, getting into a disagreement over something so trivial makes you look petty. Those people may not realize the background with both of you.
I think the joke was lame but I would not have commented.

OT- I don't get when people get bent out of shape when a celebrity dies. It saddens me for their families but that's it. These are strangers, not family or friends.

 

[justhat]

Again. Thank you for our comment. Also again, I already agreed to this. I agreed that I overreacted, and yes from now on I will be very careful what I post on anyone's facebook page, either that of as many has said ignore it.
But also as many has said and I agreed to, it wasn't necessarily the comment that started the argument with my SIL. All agreed with and all over with.

Thank you everyone for your opinions on how you felt about the joke.

I wasn't really talking about the argument with your SIL. I get that and realize it wasn't over the joke, in fact the joke likely annoyed you more than it otherwise would have simply cause your SIL posted it since she's not #1 on your friend list. I know things said by people who annoy me irritate me way more than if someone I like says the same thing.

I was more referring to your shock that your SIL's friend replied to you and said 'lighten up' or whatever. The fact that she doesn't know you means nothing when you post something on a mutual friend's page. That is what I meant by be prepared for comments, nothing to do with your SIL.

 

[imabrat]

I think the joke was utterly distasteful and not funny at all. It's been what, 3 days since Patrick Swayze died? It's too soon for a joke like that. If they'd remade the joke with another celebrity instead of Patrick I'd think it was a bit funny, but it's too soon for a "Patrick Swayze Death" joke.

That said, I do think you over-reacted and I'm glad you could admit that. To me, it sounds like the joke was the straw that broke the camel's back. I would just put her on block or ignore her from now on. She's not worth all of your frustation.

 

[Arielle22]

I thought the joke was funny. I also thought the Farrah Fawcett/Michael Jackson joke that went around after they died was funny.

 

[Stitchfans]

I think the joke was utterly distasteful and not funny at all. It's been what, 3 days since Patrick Swayze died? It's too soon for a joke like that. If they'd remade the joke with another celebrity instead of Patrick I'd think it was a bit funny, but it's too soon for a "Patrick Swayze Death" joke.

That said, I do think you over-reacted and I'm glad you could admit that. To me, it sounds like the joke was the straw that broke the camel's back. I would just put her on block or ignore her from now on. She's not worth all of your frustation.

Thank you. You are 100% correct. Didn't think of it myself until now. I guess it was the straw that broke the camel's back. Deep down I guess I was fishing and hoping for something, and she gave it to me. You are right, she isn't worth it.

 

[edandcolleen1995]

I guess what has me confused is how the OP said she wanted opinions.

They were given (not shocking that people did not agree) and then gets all worked up about it.

Lets not be so naive. If you ask anyone (boards, home, work etc) their opinion it is not a suprise to have them disagree with you.

And in the end, if a vast majority of people do not agree with you, maybe, just maybe you might be wrong..

Just something the OP might think about...

 

[sbell111]

I thought the joke was junny. It was not disrespectful of Patrick Swayze in any way.

 

[BirdLegsRed]

Haven't read all the replies, but I think its kinda funny. In poor taste perhaps, but then again I have an odd sense of humor anyway.

 

[vettechick99]

I don't think its that haha-funny, but I don't find it offensive either. Definitely not worth fighting over.

 

[darlak]

It gallows humor, but I did find it amusing. As someone else said, not ha-ha funny, but amusing.

 

[ozarkmom]

I don't find it offensive at all. It goes along with all the other Kanye interruption jokes I heard yesterday. I'm in the lighten up camp.