As the Ticker Turns~The next chapter of the Resort Changers Saga...*RC trips pg.238

[chimo2u]

Hello to my sweet RCer Family good to see you all busy enjoying the weekend and some nicer weather. I've had a hard weekend one of my childhood BFFs had a major medical situation....she suffers from depression and bipolar and she got overly depressed on Mar 3, was found semi-concious from an overdose and ended up in the hospital most of March. she went home for a few days after discharge, and some scarring was happening where they had put a trach tube. She was supposed to go into the operating room for a quick thirty min surgery to re insert a new trach tube, but sadly had a heart attack on the table and is now in the ICU on life support, showing no signs of brain activity.....they will be doing an MIR on Mon to confirm their suspicions, but it is not looking like a good prognosis. It is looking like no recovery is hopeful.

I feel awful. Due to her mental ilness, I found it hard to talk to her a lot lately, I had to take her in bouts, she would make up fantasy life and talk about it as if it was real, because she so wanted a normal life like Me, for example with kids and hubby, but her mental illness prevented that. My son innocently asked tonight, "don't you wish you'd picked up the phone more when she called?" and that sent me into a flood of tears.....because I did sometimes ignore her calls because I could only handle so much of the fantasy and lies ( I know she wasn't being malicious by it....but they where lies, and it still was a mental drain supporting her as much as I could.) For example, she played up that she had twins who shed given up for adoption.....she used to talk to me about elaborate stories of taking her boy/girl to Disney world and visitation with the twins, their school lives, etc.....such real sounding stories, facts always straight and stated with such a feeling of truth to them unfortunately, when her EX contacted me to tell me about her hospitalization last week, I asked him ("and how are your kids holding up?") he told me.....they never had kids, it was my friends fantasy world and made up stories coming out. It made me feel like a lot of our friendship was a big lie.....but I couldn't really hold it against her because it was her mental illness and her dream for her life that fueled these stories.

The stress of the relationship made me have to take a step back sometimes, because supporting her through all that was hard and emotionally draining....so when Andrew asked me about how I felt about not picking up the phone sometimes, well......it hit a chord and made me feel like .....gee, I hope I didn't contribute to her depression/ suicide attempt...... I just had to step back sometimes, because it was so much drama. I really tried to be there for her as much as I could, emotionally...she lived a couple provinces away, so I couldn't just visit her.....contact was via FB and phone. I feel sad knowing her life is most likely ending so tragically. She just turned 45 on April 10.

I will know more on early next week as to what the outcome will be, but Dr's are saying it's not looking good
Thank you for listening......I just needed to share, I've been pretty teary tonight. thanks for letting me share.....
~ Marie

 

[jennyjinx3]

Hello to my sweet RCer Family good to see you all busy enjoying the weekend and some nicer weather. I've had a hard weekend one of my childhood BFFs had a major medical situation....she suffers from depression and bipolar and she got overly depressed on Mar 3, was found semi-concious from an overdose and ended up in the hospital most of March. she went home for a few days after discharge, and some scarring was happening where they had put a trach tube. She was supposed to go into the operating room for a quick thirty min surgery to re insert a new trach tube, but sadly had a heart attack on the table and is now in the ICU on life support, showing no signs of brain activity.....they will be doing an MIR on Mon to confirm their suspicions, but it is not looking like a good prognosis. It is looking like no recovery is hopeful.

I feel awful. Due to her mental ilness, I found it hard to talk to her a lot lately, I had to take her in bouts, she would make up fantasy life and talk about it as if it was real, because she so wanted a normal life like Me, for example with kids and hubby, but her mental illness prevented that. My son innocently asked tonight, "don't you wish you'd picked up the phone more when she called?" and that sent me into a flood of tears.....because I did sometimes ignore her calls because I could only handle so much of the fantasy and lies ( I know she wasn't being malicious by it....but they where lies, and it still was a mental drain supporting her as much as I could.) For example, she played up that she had twins who shed given up for adoption.....she used to talk to me about elaborate stories of taking her boy/girl to Disney world and visitation with the twins, their school lives, etc.....such real sounding stories, facts always straight and stated with such a feeling of truth to them unfortunately, when her EX contacted me to tell me about her hospitalization last week, I asked him ("and how are your kids holding up?") he told me.....they never had kids, it was my friends fantasy world and made up stories coming out. It made me feel like a lot of our friendship was a big lie.....but I couldn't really hold it against her because it was her mental illness and her dream for her life that fueled these stories.

The stress of the relationship made me have to take a step back sometimes, because supporting her through all that was hard and emotionally draining....so when Andrew asked me about how I felt about not picking up the phone sometimes, well......it hit a chord and made me feel like .....gee, I hope I didn't contribute to her depression/ suicide attempt...... I just had to step back sometimes, because it was so much drama. I really tried to be there for her as much as I could, emotionally...she lived a couple provinces away, so I couldn't just visit her.....contact was via FB and phone. I feel sad knowing her life is most likely ending so tragically. She just turned 45 on April 10.

I will know more on early next week as to what the outcome will be, but Dr's are saying it's not looking good
Thank you for listening......I just needed to share, I've been pretty teary tonight. thanks for letting me share.....
~ Marie

Oh my...what a lot to deal with! Please know that children say things without thinking sometimes, and I am sure in no way did your DS mean to hurt you!! It sounds like you tried to be a friend to her in the best way you could be. Don't be so hard on yourself...I just met you but I care!

 

[chimo2u]

Oh my...what a lot to deal with! Please know that children say things without thinking sometimes, and I am sure in no way did your DS mean to hurt you!! It sounds like you tried to be a friend to her in the best way you could be. Don't be so hard on yourself...I just met you but I care!

Thank you Jenny that means a lot....actually after he said it and I cried, he was so sorry....he said Mom, I didn't mean it how it sounded, you used to pick up the phone a lot and you where always there for her. He said it came out wrong and he only meant did I regret not picking up more? He gave me a big hug and kiss, so I know he didn't mean to hurt me .... It just was the perfect question, in a sad way because it made me wonder.....should I have picked up more? Was the one time I didn't, the time she needed me?
my hubby said it's not my fault, I know it's not and I gave the best I could to her....it just hits home so hard knowing I was talking to her such a little time ago, and now she can never talk to me again.....it makes you realize how fragile life truly is.

 

[jennyjinx3]

Thank you Jenny that means a lot....actually after he said it and I cried, he was so sorry....he said Mom, I didn't mean it how it sounded, you used to pick up the phone a lot and you where always there for her. He said it came out wrong and he only meant did I regret not picking up more? He gave me a big hug and kiss, so I know he didn't mean to hurt me .... It just was the perfect question, in a sad way because it made me wonder.....should I have picked up more? Was the one time I didn't, the time she needed me?
my hubby said it's not my fault, I know it's not and I gave the best I could to her....it just hits home so hard knowing I was talking to her such a little time ago, and now she can never talk to me again.....it makes you realize how fragile life truly is.

It is so true, you just never know one day to the next. Tragedy and sadness can visit any of us at any time. It is hard to always remember that on a day to day basis isn't it?? And don't we all do that sometime, not pick up the phone? I know I have done it, and not even for your very good reasons. Sorry you are going through this.

Jen

 

[disneydreamin247]

Kook sorry...no pic today. Was a heck of a lazy day with the rain and all. Also my back went out last weekend and this rain isn't helping so I rested most of the day. Just think, you get to meet Princess Fancy Pants in person in August!

Linda that's right! I'd be honored for my kids to have all you wonderful ladies as family.

Marie Please don't feel like a bad person. You are a wonderful person. When you have a family and a job, it's sometimes hard to find time to keep in touch with others and especially so when it's mentally and emotionally draining. It's a sad and tragic situation, but nothing you could have changed.

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Chimo: Hugs to you! Very sorry to hear about your friend, and her situation You are an amazing person and friend--just remember that!

Linda: Hopefully DL October 20-25--that's the plan at least! Have fun!! I miss it there so much!!

I hope everyone had a great weekend!! The change is coming this week. It's happening on Thursday (payday) and I am super excited!! I'm going to drop my POR River View to Garden View, then Poly CL GV, then YC CL GV. So I'll do the Riverside Rumba , the Castle Castle Castle dance , and the Stormalong Stomp I'm soooooooo ready. We went to Walmart to pick up some last minute stuff tonight, I got the suitcases out (and unpacked ), and I made MixBooks of our wedding pictures for Mother's Day. It's been over a week of being sick from my prescriptions, but I think I'm almost adjusted to the new one. It has my sleep a little nuts, makes me a little dizzy at times, but the plus is that it's suppressing my appetite and I've lost 4 lbs already. I need to lose 60, so it's a start. I'll be back in the morning when I get to work! Night night!

 

[Grumpy Grandma]

Marie please don't feel bad you did everything that you were able to do. My god daughter's husband recently took his own life and we have spent many hours wondering how we could have helped him and why didn't we see it coming. We all felt a lot of guilt but in the end there really wasn't anything we could have done for him. Just know that you were a good friend and did the best that you could do and that is all anyone can do.

 

[amandaw]

Marie: I'm so very sorry to hear about your friend. I'm sure you were the best possible friend you could be to her. And I'm sure your son didn't mean to hurt you with his question. I'm sure it seemed like a very innocent question to him. Thoughts & prayers are with you, your friend & her family.

 

[Mousemommy1]

Marie ~ I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I know that it is very difficult to keep up with people, especially if it takes a lot of effort to deal with the person. You are a good, kind person.

 

[sjs314]

Marie sending prayers for a miracle

 

[MAGIC...itis!]

Marie: My prayers will be said for you both, and for your families, too. Please try to not to beat yourself up. I know from experience that just by you being there for many years for your friend has done more for your friend than you can ever imagine. We have a PSA TV commercial from the AdCouncil here that reflects this same sentiment as well. Take good care.

 

[MAGIC...itis!]

I'm going to drop my POR River View to Garden View, then Poly CL GV, then YC CL GV. So I'll do the Riverside Rumba , the Castle Castle Castle dance , and the Stormalong Stomp I'm soooooooo ready.

Luv, I am glad you are feeling better. I hope you don't mind but I am still jumping into your suitcase with this change! Sounds Great!!!!

 

[chimo2u]

Chimo: Hugs to you! Very sorry to hear about your friend, and her situation You are an amazing person and friend--just remember that!

Linda: Hopefully DL October 20-25--that's the plan at least! Have fun!! I miss it there so much!!

I hope everyone had a great weekend!! The change is coming this week. It's happening on Thursday (payday) and I am super excited!! I'm going to drop my POR River View to Garden View, then Poly CL GV, then YC CL GV. So I'll do the Riverside Rumba , the Castle Castle Castle dance , and the Stormalong Stomp I'm soooooooo ready. We went to Walmart to pick up some last minute stuff tonight, I got the suitcases out (and unpacked ), and I made MixBooks of our wedding pictures for Mother's Day. It's been over a week of being sick from my prescriptions, but I think I'm almost adjusted to the new one. It has my sleep a little nuts, makes me a little dizzy at times, but the plus is that it's suppressing my appetite and I've lost 4 lbs already. I need to lose 60, so it's a start. I'll be back in the morning when I get to work! Night night!

Marie please don't feel bad you did everything that you were able to do. My god daughter's husband recently took his own life and we have spent many hours wondering how we could have helped him and why didn't we see it coming. We all felt a lot of guilt but in the end there really wasn't anything we could have done for him. Just know that you were a good friend and did the best that you could do and that is all anyone can do.

Marie: I'm so very sorry to hear about your friend. I'm sure you were the best possible friend you could be to her. And I'm sure your son didn't mean to hurt you with his question. I'm sure it seemed like a very innocent question to him. Thoughts & prayers are with you, your friend & her family.

Marie ~ I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I know that it is very difficult to keep up with people, especially if it takes a lot of effort to deal with the person. You are a good, kind person.

Marie sending prayers for a miracle

Marie: My prayers will be said for you both, and for your families, too. Please try to not to beat yourself up. I know from experience that just by you being there for many years for your friend has done more for your friend than you can ever imagine. We have a PSA TV commercial from the AdCouncil here that reflects this same sentiment as well. Take good care.

Thank you my friends you are all right, I did the best I could in this situation. It is in Gods hands now. Tragic and sad, it brings home how we need to embrace each day because you never know about tomorrow.

Now onto my happy place that makes me smile I am happy for your change, Deena....it sounds amazing! And you'll get to experience three different resorts, how fun! Glad you could slip Poly GV CL in there, I will definitely be looking forward to your review

Quite a few POLY peeps came back from very-happy and satisfied trips last week! Reading of their satisfaction and POLY love made me feel even better about my upcoming stay! I am very excited for The POLY!

I have had some good news in this week too....my oldest son (Josh) who graduated HS last May, -- has been struggling with what to do with his life
( academics never came easy to him, he struggled with a learning disability and school was hard work) -- he got a call from our major stadium personnel ( where all the hockey/ concerts, etc are held) and was told if he takes this security course (a 2 wk course with a exam at the end) he would be offered an interview for a security position! His first day was yesterday from 10-6 and he came home HAPPY and excited because he enjoyed it! I am so happy for him to see some spark for something besides sleeping until 2 pm and video games! I know how hard it is to find your way in the world, and I feel for my boy....I am hopeful this is a stepping stone for him for a job and the start of his journey to discover what he wants to do with his life. I was so happy just to see him happy about something and enjoying something! Fingers crossed it leads to good things for him

Happy Monday my friends, it's election day in Alberta, so I guess I better get out of bed and head to the polls oh what fun

~Marie

 

[hstrickland]

Hi Everyone!

Finally subbing after 32 pages Hope everyone is doing great. I'll try to 'semi' catch up later this afternoon. On Spring Break at the beach in FL. Hopefully I'll be able to get some DisBoard time in this week

Heather

 

[pas130]

Marie I want to say I am VERY sorry about your friend I also have a friend fighting for his life in ICU from a sudden heart attack, we don't know if he will regain consciousness, so I will pray for your friend as well, and that you find peace my friend. There is nothing you could've done. I pray she finds her peace as well...as she sounds like she was very sick for a long time. Mental illness is not eaily treated...I see it so often, it is so sad.

BUT....CONGRATS to your DS!!!!


A very solemn morning....I will try to catch up here....it looks like there is just one change...can that be right???

OK here it goes....

junglecruiser sarah Thank you!!! I got the 2nd postcard after a horrible tragic day at work I needed it!!! and I am OK..just more tests..feeling pretty good these days Even with the dark sky...GF is stunning as always

pigletto You are very welcome!

sheila It's all good!!! As long as I am OK, it's worth it, right ???

pixarmom OF COURSE I will say yes to RPC upgrade SL rocks too...

jenny Congrats on the new-to-you van! And I was working to this weekend...Saturday was beautiful....then we got our much needed rainstorms...

dani I will wait impatiently for the pics

canadianpaco Welcome!!!!! LOVE AKL!!!!

i_heart_the_mouse AMAZING upgrades I am impressed, and did I mention I like your changes???

Kook Miss you too!!!! I'll see you on the WL thread shortly...not too much rest, but working days means I can tuck the kiddos in and spent some quiet time with DH...that is nice...that said...back to evenings/nights tonight

grumpy grandma Linda, SWEET!!! Thank you for adopting me!!! I now have family in Cali....a reason to visit DL!!!! I like it!!! Sorry your daughter doesn't speak to you much....my oldest son wants nothing to do with any of us....it's hard, but I don't miss his drama...just wsh him the best

deena With all these side effects...are you at least having some pain relief???? Are you still POR/Poly CL/YC CL??? Hope you are well today

mousemommy No changes???? just checking....

I suppose padawans is packing

heather Welcome back!!!

Hello to all I missed!!! I refuse to list all my friends as I will totally forget someone and feel guilty all day

 

[Mousemommy1]

Marie I want to say I am VERY sorry about your friend I also have a friend fighting for his life in ICU from a sudden heart attack, we don't know if he will regain consciousness, so I will pray for your friend as well, and that you find peace my friend. There is nothing you could've done. I pray she finds her peace as well...as she sounds like she was very sick for a long time. Mental illness is not eaily treated...I see it so often, it is so sad.

BUT....CONGRATS to your DS!!!!


A very solemn morning....I will try to catch up here....it looks like there is just one change...can that be right???

OK here it goes....

junglecruiser sarah Thank you!!! I got the 2nd postcard after a horrible tragic day at work I needed it!!! and I am OK..just more tests..feeling pretty good these days Even with the dark sky...GF is stunning as always

pigletto You are very welcome!

sheila It's all good!!! As long as I am OK, it's worth it, right ???

pixarmom OF COURSE I will say yes to RPC upgrade SL rocks too...

jenny Congrats on the new-to-you van! And I was working to this weekend...Saturday was beautiful....then we got our much needed rainstorms...

dani I will wait impatiently for the pics

canadianpaco Welcome!!!!! LOVE AKL!!!!

i_heart_the_mouse AMAZING upgrades I am impressed, and did I mention I like your changes???

Kook Miss you too!!!! I'll see you on the WL thread shortly...not too much rest, but working days means I can tuck the kiddos in and spent some quiet time with DH...that is nice...that said...back to evenings/nights tonight

grumpy grandma Linda, SWEET!!! Thank you for adopting me!!! I now have family in Cali....a reason to visit DL!!!! I like it!!! Sorry your daughter doesn't speak to you much....my oldest son wants nothing to do with any of us....it's hard, but I don't miss his drama...just wsh him the best

deena With all these side effects...are you at least having some pain relief???? Are you still POR/Poly CL/YC CL??? Hope you are well today

mousemommy No changes???? just checking....

I suppose padawans is packing

heather Welcome back!!!

Hello to all I missed!!! I refuse to list all my friends as I will totally forget someone and feel guilty all day

Glad you're back on board!!! Hope your weekend didn't wear you out too much!!!

No changes yet...but still contemplating CL...do you get to keep the robes or not??? I know it's a stupid question, but I was wondering...

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Luv, I am glad you are feeling better. I hope you don't mind but I am still jumping into your suitcase with this change! Sounds Great!!!!

Thanks I'm really excited about our changes. Feel free to tag along

Now onto my happy place that makes me smile I am happy for your change, Deena....it sounds amazing! And you'll get to experience three different resorts, how fun! Glad you could slip Poly GV CL in there, I will definitely be looking forward to your review

Quite a few POLY peeps came back from very-happy and satisfied trips last week! Reading of their satisfaction and POLY love made me feel even better about my upcoming stay! I am very excited for The POLY!

I have had some good news in this week too....my oldest son (Josh) who graduated HS last May, -- has been struggling with what to do with his life
( academics never came easy to him, he struggled with a learning disability and school was hard work) -- he got a call from our major stadium personnel ( where all the hockey/ concerts, etc are held) and was told if he takes this security course (a 2 wk course with a exam at the end) he would be offered an interview for a security position! His first day was yesterday from 10-6 and he came home HAPPY and excited because he enjoyed it! I am so happy for him to see some spark for something besides sleeping until 2 pm and video games! I know how hard it is to find your way in the world, and I feel for my boy....I am hopeful this is a stepping stone for him for a job and the start of his journey to discover what he wants to do with his life. I was so happy just to see him happy about something and enjoying something! Fingers crossed it leads to good things for him

Happy Monday my friends, it's election day in Alberta, so I guess I better get out of bed and head to the polls oh what fun

~Marie

I'm happy for you and DS--when you see a spark from someone who is less than motivated... it's a real sign of hope!! I've been reading good Poly reviews lately too! I'm really excited to try it out. Things come full circle right?? Remember when I had the Poly Honeymoon Suite booked I'm very curious to see what the DIS fave resort is all about!! Hope you're feeling stronger today... sending prayers your way

deena With all these side effects...are you at least having some pain relief???? Are you still POR/Poly CL/YC CL??? Hope you are well today

Well it has helped the pain a bit. I'm supposed to take 1 or 2, 4x per day. I take 1 twice per day. I guess it would help the pain more if I took 2--but it's an improvement and I may work my way up. A friend of mine said that it took her about 7-10 days to get thru the side effects and that it's really helped her. So I'm willing to give it a shot.

I have my 3 way split all set. Last night I said I was going to wait till payday to make the change (so I would at least have a few $$ in my account until Thursday), but I got itchy this morning and went ahead with it. Passion was a great CM and got thru the madness quickly (17 minutes). Super efficient, and didn't seem to mind that I am crazy. She had to:

1: Book Poly w/ AP discount
2. Drop a day off of POR
3. Change from River View to Garden View
4. Transfer $$ from POR to Poly
5. Drop a day from YC
6. Transfer $$ from YC to Poly
7. Take a Visa payment
8. Go over everything one more time

It was rather painless and I left her good survey results!! I did online check in at POR today So I think everything is all set. My resorts will be Paid in Full on Friday, which is nice to not have to worry about that when we arrive! The change will affect our excess spending money a bit--but we are really happy to check out different places. I can officially say that I'm going to WDW next week

Happy Monday RC'ers!!

 

[pas130]

Glad you're back on board!!! Hope your weekend didn't wear you out too much!!!
.

Thanks candace....and areyou contemplating CL at WL or GF

Well it has helped the pain a bit. I'm supposed to take 1 or 2, 4x per day. I take 1 twice per day. I guess it would help the pain more if I took 2--but it's an improvement and I may work my way up. A friend of mine said that it took her about 7-10 days to get thru the side effects and that it's really helped her. So I'm willing to give it a shot.

I have my 3 way split all set. Last night I said I was going to wait till payday to make the change (so I would at least have a few $$ in my account until Thursday), but I got itchy this morning and went ahead with it. Passion was a great CM and got thru the madness quickly (17 minutes). Super efficient, and didn't seem to mind that I am crazy. She had to:

1: Book Poly w/ AP discount
2. Drop a day off of POR
3. Change from River View to Garden View
4. Transfer $$ from POR to Poly
5. Drop a day from YC
6. Transfer $$ from YC to Poly
7. Take a Visa payment
8. Go over everything one more time

It was rather painless and I left her good survey results!! I did online check in at POR today So I think everything is all set. My resorts will be Paid in Full on Friday, which is nice to not have to worry about that when we arrive! The change will affect our excess spending money a bit--but we are really happy to check out different places. I can officially say that I'm going to WDW next week

Happy Monday RC'ers!!

YEAH FOR ONLINE CHECKIN So glad you had a good CM, today I may be changing back to end of Sept.....not sure...August may be a little too early to go back $$$ wise

 

[Mousemommy1]

Thanks candace....and areyou contemplating CL at WL or GF



YEAH FOR ONLINE CHECKIN So glad you had a good CM, today I may be changing back to end of Sept.....not sure...August may be a little too early to go back $$$ wise

you saw me over there, did ya???
I was just asking questions, honest! I do not see myself forking over money to stay there right now, with all of the construction and monorail issues, etc...but, it is DD7's dream resort...so I was looking towards the future...

And, as for CL at WL, DH and I just don't see the value in it for our family, but we are going to keep tabs on our OOP for breakfasts, and other food this time around while on the DDP, and we are going to analyze CL vs. DDP for our next trip with DFIL.

Right now, I believe we have the best trip ever planned, although I had to change an ADR today, I moved Chef Mickey's to our last day of the trip...I originally had it as our last Poly day before moving to BC.

 

[sjs314]

Marie I am very happy to hear that your son may have found his nitch in the world.

Nothing to report here on booking anything although while DH has been looking at cars , I have been looking at Nov dates for a trip as that would work out better money wise and weather wise . I am hoping when the current FD offer is due to end on May 18th Disney might extend it to fall

Deena your resort changes sound exciting

to everyone else!