As God as my witness.I'll never be sick at Disney World again~~~wrapping things up...

[eandesmom]

Cherie I'm so sorry!! One big thing with alcoholics is that you have to realize that it is not YOUR problem. No matter how much it hurts. No matter how much you think he didn't hear you, I promise you he did. I went through the same thing with my dad for a good portion of my life...minus the pills. Once I finally put my foot down, it hurt really bad but eventually he came around. When HE finally decided to get help things started to turn around. It was rocky but it did get better.

He might get worse before he gets better, but you can't save him no matter how hard you try. It is not your addiction, it is his. Sorry you are going through this. I know first hand how bad it sucks!!

It is impossible to help someone that doesn't want to be helped. Winkers, I really admire your strength... sending good vibes to you

I couldn't agree with everyone more. Walking away is the hardest thing you will ever do. You can't fix him. He has to decide he wants it and you can't help him want it. He has to acknowledge he has a problem and he's not there yet. Rock bottom is a scary place and what we on the outside might perceive as rock bottom, may not be it. I don't know if you've looked at Al-anon but even some of their materials to have at home for reading can be helpful.

I know all too well the hurt, the guilt, the weight. The trap of trying to fix others, to be their strength, because you can't fix the person you really want to. The risk of losing yourself in all that caretaking.

Recognizing you are enabling and making the choice you are making is the best thing you can do for him. And for you. You have to take care of you and be the best you you can be for the rest of your family (even those with magical bags of crap).

You are an amazing, strong woman and you are doing the right thing. I am so sorry you are going through this. I will never forget, at my darkest hour going through something similar. My girlfriends put together a support basket for me. It included things just for me that have helped me though many a moment since. But the card they chose really stuck.

"One loyal friend is worth ten thousand acquaintances"

I would not have survived without mine, I hope we can all be here for you.

 

[punkin413]

Dawn, our families are alot alike aren't they!

as for pink eye....yuck! I've had it a few times and it's gross. The
first time I had it I was 10 and woke up with my eyes totally crusted over. I started screaming because I couldn't see.

it seems they are! how funny is it that we are the most sane people in our families? that's actually kinda scary!

i've only had pink eye once and i was 29 years old when i had it!!! it was so nasty. i woke up one morning and couldn't open my eye, just like you. i went to the doctor and she was like....um, that's pink eye. of course there's really no cure but time, but she gave me a great method of relief. she told me to get some saline eye drops and keep them in the fridge. they felt so good in my irritated eye! the worst part was that once it was gone in one eye, it spread to the other one!

 

[winkers]

You took the bait, my friend.


...

I'm like a fish to a worm.

I"One loyal friend is worth ten thousand acquaintances"

I would not have survived without mine, I hope we can all be here for you.

:

thank you cynthia!
that is a great quote! and so true!

! the worst part was that once it was gone in one eye, it spread to the other one!

I had it in both at the same time...I think I've had it 4 times.

 

[winkers]

By the time we made it to Casey's for our traditional hotdog, I was calmed down enough to speak to MIL. I don't know why, but she just seems to be clueless to the things she says.

The only thing that makes it tolerable is I know she doesn't do it intentionaly. I'd hate to hear what she'd say if she meant to be insulting.

The best way to describe her is she never grew past a 6 yr old emotionaly or socially. I've learned to ignore it for the most part. Obviously, I'm still working on that.

We all love Casey's but i hate how it's set up. Finding a place to sit is like an exercise in frustration.
I scope out the tables trying to find at least 2, becaue they're so small, without looking like a vulture about to descend on a carcus.

Ethan and I managed to snag 2 tables and enough chairs for us all....then we had to protect them while we waited for everyone else and the food.

The rest of the gang and food arrived and we all dug into it. Towards the end of the meal Bailie and Ethan didn't want anymore of their fries and were in the process of giving them to Evan and Hunter when MIL over hears this and announces that SHE wants them and takes them.

Seriously? I thought I had another toddler for a moment. Sadly, this isn't the first time something like this has happened. She doesn't share with anyone but she expects everyone else to give her everything. But, I knew that I was about to snapp so I just let it go. In the grand scheme of things it wasn't that big of a deal but all those little things were piling up.

Evan looked like he was about to say something so I tried to distract him. It's hard to teach kids to respect someone when they make it so difficult.

I was trying to get everyone to finish up so we could make it to Philharmagic when MIL annoyed the heck out of me for the 100th time that morning. At Casey's the drinks you get with the meal are HUGE....like super big gulp big. None of us came close to finishing them so we threw the rest out.

But no....not super cheap woman. She nearly threw a hissy fit when d.Jay told her to just throw the rest of her pop away. You'd think her cup was filled with liquid gold instead of sprite. So, while the rest of us stood and watched she attempted to fill her nearly empty orange juice bottle and several old watter bottles that she pulled out of the MBOC.
These bottles were then put back into the MBOC where they stayed untill after we got home!

We made it into philharmagic and I got myself as far away from her as possible before I blew a fuse.

Afterwards we stopped for another potty break.

I was still about ready to strangle MIL so I sat on a bench to decompress while the rest of them road the people mover. Tomorrow land was getting really crowded so i had alot of people watching. Among these were people snacking on turkey legs.

This just makes me want to puke anytime I see them. I don't like to eat chicken off the bone and if I have to I won't get anywhere near the bone. Just seeing all the veins and gunk...

We went to the Laugh Factory, where I was spotlighted as the lady who has no idea where she is.
We rode Stitch's pathetic escape.....disney can do so much better than that. but the kids like it, so we do it.

We strolled through the hoardes of people in Fantasyland on our way out of the park. I don't think I've ever seen it that busy before. I had visions of ditching MIL in the crowds and making a great escape of my own...but I'm too nice.


We ran into...

I asked her to turn MIL into a pumpkin but it didn't work.

up next....arranged marriages...

 

[glennbo123]

I got nervous when I read the title that you had "lost it". I mean, I would totally understand, but the onlookers at the time probably wouldn't.

Towards the end of the meal Bailie and Ethan didn't want anymore of their fries and were in the process of giving them to Evan and Hunter when MIL over hears this and announces that SHE wants them and takes them.

Huh?

These bottles were then put back into the MBOC where they stayed untill after we got home!

Do you mean "back-to-the-hotel-room-home", or "home-home"? (I'm afraid I know the answer.)

We made it into philharmagic and I got myself as far away from her as possible before I blew a fuse.

You tell yourself, "go to your happy place", but you're already there for cryin' out loud!!! Now what?

Breathe, breathe......in through the nose, out through the mouth.

Among these were people snacking on turkey legs.

This just makes me want to puke anytime I see them. I don't like to eat chicken off the bone and if I have to I won't get anywhere near the bone. Just seeing all the veins and gunk...

I've read this on other threads. Fortunately, I don't have this issue. Mmmm.

We went to the Laugh Factory, where I was spotlighted as the lady who has no idea where she is.

This is a great show. That's cool you were spotlighted. Imagine the jokes they could have made about MIL!

 

[winkers]

I got nervous when I read the title that you had "lost it". I mean, I would totally understand, but the onlookers at the time probably wouldn't.

I would have starred in someone elses tr as the crazy lady going postal witha hot dog...


Do you mean "back-to-the-hotel-room-home", or "home-home"? (I'm afraid I know the answer.)
home-home....knowing her, she probably still has them.



This is a great show. That's cool you were spotlighted. Imagine the jokes they could have made about MIL!

it's good that they didn't because I would have stood up and cheered .

 

[All7OfUs]

I adore Phil.!! So love it!

I always have to put my finger through the ring!! and flinch at the flute.

 

[winkers]

I adore Phil.!! So love it!

I always have to put my finger through the ring!! and flinch at the flute.

it's my favorite of the 3d movies...and it's what made Hunter fall in love with Donald.

 

[punkin413]

We all love Casey's but i hate how it's set up. Finding a place to sit is like an exercise in frustration.

ray loves casey's too but it's such a hassle eating there because of the seating, especially considering the fact that i refuse to sit outside because of the duck problem. i've only done it once and i ended up having to snag an extra chair to put my feet in so i don't freak out and then i feel bad for using up an extra chair!

These bottles were then put back into the MBOC where they stayed untill after we got home!

i bet that warm, flat sprite tasted good, too!

This just makes me want to puke anytime I see them. I don't like to eat chicken off the bone and if I have to I won't get anywhere near the bone. Just seeing all the veins and gunk...

i'm with ya. i can't deal with cartilage and veins and bones. yack!!!! i'm southern and i don't eat fried chicken - that's like sacreligious around here.

We went to the Laugh Factory, where I was spotlighted as the lady who has no idea where she is.

awesome!

 

[Sleepingbooty]

Oh my gosh, I made it! (Picture me huffing and puffing across the finish line after reading for a week straight!) You've made me laugh so much on other people's threads that I finally had to read yours to see what you are all about. What a crazy trip you are having! Your family sounds like so much fun, MIL included (well, we all need someone around to complain about, right?), I'm loving reading all about your 'adventures'!

 

[praisehisname]

So, while the rest of us stood and watched she attempted to fill her nearly empty orange juice bottle and several old watter bottles that she pulled out of the MBOC.
These bottles were then put back into the MBOC where they stayed untill after we got home!

Can't wait for the next update--the title sounds great!

 

[Tribilín]

So, while the rest of us stood and watched she attempted to fill her nearly empty orange juice bottle and several old watter bottles that she pulled out of the MBOC.
These bottles were then put back into the MBOC where they stayed untill after we got home!

Yuck! I mean, that's gross!

Among these were people snacking on turkey legs.
This just makes me want to puke anytime I see them. I don't like to eat chicken off the bone and if I have to I won't get anywhere near the bone. Just seeing all the veins and gunk...

Turkey legs? Yum! Poor winkers, I know what is to have an aversion to some food (mostly seafood for me) but turkey legs are heavenly tasty.

I asked her to turn MIL into a pumpkin but it didn't work.

Silly winkers! You need to ask to transform something into a useful item completely different from the original!

 

[DisneyJo]

I'm so sorry about your Dad Cherie but your kids have to come first

I can just see your MIL filling up those bottles, I bet she was thinking that she was glad she'd kept those empties as she knew they'd come in handy eventually

 

[jordanyosh]

Did you have a hot dog or corn dog nuggets?

MIL-really what can you do? I mean the woman lives with you. My grandma lived with us for several years. My mom said her MIL living with us was God's way of teaching my mom patience, forgiveness and love. My mom's a saint.

How did your family respond when you got spotlighted?

 

[JenAusty]

I am really sorry about everything that you are dealing with. I can sort of relate to your situation because not even a year ago my DH's parents got a divorce. But they didn't just get a divorce, one day his dad got upset- they were arguing and and just disappeared for like 3 days. The only way that they found him is because they called his work- and they said he was working. Long story short- basically he was cheating on her and just had enough because they fought all the time and left. He left 3 young kids to DH's mom who is a train wreck. At first I felt really bad for her, and couldn't imagine dealing with that. She doesn't have a job, she lost her house, now they live in this trailer, she is only a secretary for her church and doesn't make a lot of money. She practically raises the kids on her own. ONLY, she doesn't do much to raise them. At first, she was taking anxiety and depression meds.. and then she decided to overdose on them- and she constantly takes double and was always drugged up. She lost tons of weight and went from size 10 to size 1-3 in pants. she doesn't eat good.. and now she doesn't take much pills cause she says she doesn't want to live like that but now she drinks all the time. So she's always drinking, drugged up, or sleeping. Which she sleeps alll the time. DH will call in the middle of the day and she will be sleeping and say "Is it morning?" And its the afternoon- and he always says "what are the kids doing?". It's like as time goes by she gets a little better- but while shes wasitng her life away- her kids are raising themselves and also dealing with this. It's really hard to deal with- so I understand. My aspect is mostly feeling sad for the kids but I hope that things get better. I will keep you in my heart.

As for the TR update- MIL is probably one of those elderly people who feels that since shes old- people should cater to her all the time- even over the kids I guess. hehe I like the picture with the fairy god mother.. its great. i haven't seen her in a while. I've also never ate at Casey's. The BIG pop thing is great- my DH would love that. We are wasters as well I suppose. hehe

 

[vamassey1]

I was way behind and I'm finally caught up.

I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time with your father. Drawing the line is the right thing to do for him and for you.

On your mother-in-law, I think they make meds that she should be taking. I'm thinking the ones Jack Nicholason's character was taking in "As Good as it Gets". You really are a saint for dealing with her.

 

[MAGICFOR2]

Cherie, I'm sorry for what you're dealing with. It is so hard to make those decisions, but you did the right thing for your family, and for you. I hope your father realizes what he's doing and shapes up. Hugs and prayers for you.

 

[pooh'smate]

Winkers I am so with you on the chicken on the bone.

Your mil sounds like my friends grandmother who lived with her while they were growing up. I would go over to visit and she used to say the meanest stuff not only to my friends mom but also to us kids. They finally had to put her in a home because she tried to burn the house down because she didn't want to live there anymore.

 

[Charleston Princess]

But no....not super cheap woman. She nearly threw a hissy fit when d.Jay told her to just throw the rest of her pop away. You'd think her cup was filled with liquid gold instead of sprite. So, while the rest of us stood and watched she attempted to fill her nearly empty orange juice bottle and several old watter bottles that she pulled out of the MBOC.
These bottles were then put back into the MBOC where they stayed untill after we got home!

Wow. I think I am speechless.

I asked her to turn MIL into a pumpkin but it didn't work.

 

[Blueyed Girl]

Oh Man!!! She kept the sprite in her MBOC?? I can't believe she kept it all the way until home. You and D.Jay were not lying when you said how big that bag is!