Are you judgmental

[handinpocket]

Eh, I slept with mine. It made nursing SO much easier for me, and meant the whole family slept better. No crying in the middle of the night!

Plus, we never had to waste our (rather limited) money on a crib. It was straight into a single bed when the kids were old enough to sleep on their own. (I had them sleeping together for a couple years, then we converted the single into a bunk bed. Around Grade 3/4, we lifted the house, built a basement and they got their own rooms.)

They seem to have turned out okay. My 19 year old moved out last year, and is sharing a place with a roommate, while attending university. My 21 year old is still at home, but she's also doing terrifically - just finished her third year of university, third year of interning in a biolab, and she just got back from a Chemistry conference in Toronto, where she was presenting a poster. Depending on where she chooses to do her Masters and Doctorate, she may be living with us for a few more years. I'm fine with that (and, more importantly, she seems happy, too)!

The thread asked what do you judge and that poster you quoted answered accordingly, no need to defend your actions, it won't change anyone's mind.

 

[Magpie]

Meanwhile, I never leave the house without looking in the mirror, 'cause my mama told me so.

My mama trained me to never leave the house without visiting the bathroom first.

 

[tzolkin]

But it doesn't matter to you. It doesn't affect your life in any way at all. Not sure why it upsets you.

It doesn't "upset" me. I just don't like it. It's not like I spend time (other than right now in this anonymous discussion) giving it any thought.

And, none of the things people are posting about secretly judging have any effect on their lives. I kind of thought that was the point of this thread-- things that you silently cringe a bit over, but you know you shouldn't. It's none of your business so you don't say anything and just treat the person with the same respect and dignity you would treat anyone.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

I'm only judgemental towards judgemental people.

 

[Magpie]

The thread asked what do you judge and that poster you quoted answered accordingly, no need to defend your actions, it won't change anyone's mind.

I think threads would be awfully boring (and short!) if all we could ever do was answer the question posted in the OP.

Should I take from what you wrote that you're judgmental towards people whose conversations wander off topic? "Hey, everyone! Stick to the original topic! Stop talking about other stuff! I mean it!"

 

[Wendy31]

I think everyone is judgmental to a certain extent, whether we'd admit it or not. We all have our own level of certain prejudices & tolerances & standards plus our previous experiences which lead us to judge others based on those things, I think.

Parents who let their kids run in front of others w/o saying "excuse me", people who wait until they get to the front of the line before deciding what they want to order, crass or crude behavior, people who don't say "thank you" when someone holds a door for them, people who don't acknowledge the cashier, parents who let their kids act like heathens in restaurants, the way some people dress (sloppy/unkempt, too tight or ill-fitting, wrong outfit for the occasion/venue, sagging pants, etc.), people who are hyper-critical or fussy & looking for things w/ which to be offended, Facebook drama... I admit, I judge a little. And there's probably all kinds of others things for I judge too! LOL!

Regarding the way people dress, I don't care one way or the other, but I think we do tend to make judgments based on someone's appearance. I think it's just an almost subconscious thing we tend to do. The same thing goes for tattoos. I don't mind a tattoo here & there (while some people do), but I'm not a personal fan of the full arm/leg tattoos - however, while it's not for me, I acknowledge that not everyone is like me. But, subconsciously, I think one does tend to make snap judgments - "Look at those tattoos. I bet he doesn't have an office job!" or "Look at those tattoos! I wonder what she does when she has to go somewhere formal?" And it's not that it's bad necessarily... it's just the kind of automatic thoughts that run through one's mind.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Judging is normal. Not all judging is bad. Some judging (or the reaction to judging) leads to positive change like adjustments in policies for the greater good.

Of course there are times when we judge on petty things too. It happens.

 

[TheDisneyNurse]

I'm a nurse. We aren't supposed to judge

I've got 8 tattoos, 4 of them visible while I'm at work. No one seems to mind! Though I did have these two cute old ladies in WDW tell me that I'm going to have a hard time finding a job lol. I can't get mad at things like that, it just never bothers me. I worked hard for my degree, my nursing license, and my chemotherapy certification. I really don't care if I get judged, honestly.

 

[rastahomie]

I tend to be judgmental towards people who like TV shows and music that I don't like. To me, a lot of music that you hear on the radio these days isn't actually music; rather, it's a product, manufactured in Nashville, and designed to be consumed. It lacks originality, heart, and soul.

Similarly, I simply cannot wrap my head around why people give a darn about what some weird family in Arkansas or some celebrity dilletante in L.A. are up to. And the absolute last thing I want to do is watch them on TV.

 

[jaminmd]

LOL - I am mid 40's so not the crypt keeper by any means ha ha!!!

They are just things I am judgy about ;-) They are kids and you are pregnant and put your child in their own crib, in their own room. You don't need to have a camera on them and you don't have to have an app on your phone that tells you when your child pooped, ate or slept.

They have apps for that?

 

[jaminmd]

I'm a nurse. We aren't supposed to judge

I've got 8 tattoos, 4 of them visible while I'm at work. No one seems to mind! Though I did have these two cute old ladies in WDW tell me that I'm going to have a hard time finding a job lol. I can't get mad at things like that, it just never bothers me. I worked hard for my degree, my nursing license, and my chemotherapy certification. I really don't care if I get judged, honestly.

Me, too, nearly 30 years. I had one tattoo, which I've since gone on to have removed. I got it when I was 16, so it was when tattoos were rebellious for women.

About five years ago, I opted for laser removal since it was on my wrist and I never liked it.

I always covered it for job interviews but let it hang out otherwise. I have a BSN, specialty certification and had a 4.0 in grad school, then dropped out mid-way.

I despise judgemental people. I find they're usually the ones with the most skeletons in their closets.

 

[jaminmd]

I'm only judgemental towards judgemental people.

Word.

 

[MamaBelle4]

To me, a lot of music that you hear on the radio these days isn't actually music; rather, it's a product, manufactured in Nashville, and designed to be consumed. It lacks originality, heart, and soul.

Like x 1,000. I "make" my kids listen to good music. When I'm in charge of the radio, we listen to Billy Joel, Kristofferson, Simon & Garfunkel, Peter Paul & Mary, Merle Haggard, Joan Jett, Pat Benatar.... I could go on. I like most music 1980s and before. Modern pop and modern country, I'll pass on every time.

When my 8 year old told me she loved Katy Perry, I threatened (jokingly) to kick her out of the car.

They have apps for that?

No joke, with my last kid, my pediatrician asked me how many soiled diapers and wet diapers she had daily. My answer was, uh, enough? But that does put a stress on a new mom to know the exact number so she has the "right" answer for the doctor.

 

[Magpie]

No joke, with my last kid, my pediatrician asked me how many soiled diapers and wet diapers she had daily. My answer was, uh, enough? But that does put a stress on a new mom to know the exact number so she has the "right" answer for the doctor.

My midwives gave me daily forms to fill in, recording the number and timing of soiled and wet diapers!

With my first, I filled in everything with way too much detail (right down to the colour and consistency of the child's poo).

With my second, I ignored all the forms and just held up the baby for them to see, saying, "Look at him! He's obviously fine."

I can definitely see how some parents would appreciate an app, versus having to fill out everything by hand.

 

[J'aime Paris]

Yup, I judge.
But I'm trying hard to "let it go" these days.
Still a work in progress...

 

[bdcp]

Everyone is. Some are just more vocal about it.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

I judge rule-breakers. Why do they think they're special? I work in a classroom that faces the parking lot at my school. Our staff has starting calling drop-off and pick-up "the show." It's both interesting and aggravating to watch. Every single day, several parents flagrantly break the rules. You are not allowed to park your car along the curb in the drop-off zone. There are signs every few feet that say "No parking" and "Do not leave your vehicle unattended." Lo and behold, someone parks on the curb and leaves their car to take their child in or retrieve them from their classroom. Someone tells the office. They make an announcement to "Move your car now! You are blocking traffic!" The person comes wandering out, acting clueless. Not only is it posted in the parking lot, I've seen it every single week in the school newsletter. It's especially bad at kindergarten pick-up. Sure, these kids are too young to come to the pick-up zone and find their parents' car. The parent wants to walk in and wait by their classroom until dismissal. There's a really good solution! Find a legal parking space and walk. There are parking spaces across the street. There are some on the street next to the school. There are plenty 1/2 a block away. Find one. Park your car legally. Walk. Get your steps in. So yeah, I judge.

 

[Disney Doll]

Of course I'm judgmental. Everyone is.

 

[MamaBelle4]

I judge rule-breakers. Why do they think they're special? I work in a classroom that faces the parking lot at my school. Our staff has starting calling drop-off and pick-up "the show." It's both interesting and aggravating to watch. Every single day, several parents flagrantly break the rules. You are not allowed to park your car along the curb in the drop-off zone. There are signs every few feet that say "No parking" and "Do not leave your vehicle unattended." Lo and behold, someone parks on the curb and leaves their car to take their child in or retrieve them from their classroom. Someone tells the office. They make an announcement to "Move your car now! You are blocking traffic!" The person comes wandering out, acting clueless. Not only is it posted in the parking lot, I've seen it every single week in the school newsletter. It's especially bad at kindergarten pick-up. Sure, these kids are too young to come to the pick-up zone and find their parents' car. The parent wants to walk in and wait by their classroom until dismissal. There's a really good solution! Find a legal parking space and walk. There are parking spaces across the street. There are some on the street next to the school. There are plenty 1/2 a block away. Find one. Park your car legally. Walk. Get your steps in. So yeah, I judge.

Dude, I get crazy in the school pick up line when people leave an elephant sized gap in front of them. PULL UP.

Or the ones who have to wait and watch their little one actually physically get in the building. There is a teacher right there doing that. MOVE ON.

Luckily there is plenty of parking and where the kids get dropped off, adults can't enter, so we don't have the issue with people parking. Just lollygagging.

 

[DaisyJ]

I tend to be judgmental towards people who like TV shows and music that I don't like. To me, a lot of music that you hear on the radio these days isn't actually music; rather, it's a product, manufactured in Nashville, and designed to be consumed. It lacks originality, heart, and soul.

Similarly, I simply cannot wrap my head around why people give a darn about what some weird family in Arkansas or some celebrity dilletante in L.A. are up to. And the absolute last thing I want to do is watch them on TV.

Yet you make your living writing gossip...