Are you always asked to bring a dish or dessert

[huey duey & luey]

I also have a pool and end up hosting most of the summer parties. My friend and I just cohosted a summer bbq (at my house) and we split the cost of things, and other guests brought appetizers, salads and desserts.
I am often asked to bring a dessert because I love to bake, I sometimes even get specific requests. When not asked I will usually bring along wine and flowers, and sometimes a dessert. I dont like to assume what someone has planned on the menu.AS far aspaying for a meal thats crazy. Even when we order takeout with friends the person whose house it is usually picks up the tab.
Tara

 

[luv2nascar]

asked sometimes mostly by mother in law but I always ask
and bring something even if they don't want anything

 

[princess pooh]

Hi lmk

Asking people to bring a dish to a BBQ isn't cheap and I doubt your friends are cursing you. BBQs can get expensive, especially for 100 people . If I were you I would I'd ask people to bring the booze too.

I just remembered that a friend of mine throws a potluck dinner once a month to bring all her single friends together. One couple that met at her party got married last weekend!

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

I have a sister who is a real mooch. Has always been thus. She came to visit me for a week, of course we paid for everything. When she left I told her that we would be in her area in a months time. She said she would love to entertain us but had no money. I gave her several free coupons so she could make a spghetti dinner.

When we arrived she met us at the door and told me that she had used the coupons and would we go get some food. Since she had also invited our father and some other people it ended up costing us almost $200 for our dinner that night. I have never went to her house to eat again. I can't afford it. LOL

Slightly Goofy, but not totally crazy

 

[DisKim]

I'm not usually asked to bring anything, but I always offer. Even if the person says not to bring anything, I always do anyway. My mother never went anywhere empty-handed. I guess it rubbed off on me.

 

[mzmickey]

Usually just a lurker living vicariously through those of you who get to visit DW often....but I couldn't pass this one up.

I have no problem bringing something to any party my dh and I are invited to......usually. But for my nieces birthday parties, we are expected to bring a present and something to eat. Perhaps I am the only one who thinks this is odd (although, most of my friends do as well) that someone would throw a party for their child and expect the guests to furnish the food. They usually cook burgers or dogs, but we are expected to bring the salad, horses ovaries, side dishes, bread, pop, or other things.

Sometimes we have a heads up on this, other times we don't. The one year, they called as we were walking out the door to ask if we could stop and pick up something to drink (beer). They could not do it, had been planning to, but suzi had started to open her presents and they didn't want to miss it. When we got there, the presents weren't even touched.

I don't know, in my family, when you threw a party where you were expecting guests to bring gifts, then you did not ask them to bring anything else.

Now for a backyard barbecue, I love to take stuff along, that way you get to taste some really great things! But when I host the party, I really prefer to do it all myself.

 

[huey duey & luey]

If I am having a party not get together I wouldnt expect to bring a dish and same if I am invited to a party.
Tara