Are you a MEAN MOM? Mine was and ...

Robinrs

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I must be because my son asked me if I WROTE THIS: :lmao:

Mean Moms
Someday when my children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will
tell them, as my Mean Mom told me: I loved you
enough . . . to ask where you were going, with whom,
and what time you would be home.

I loved you enough to be silent and let you
discover that your new best friend was a creep.
I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours
while you cleaned your room, a job that should have taken 15 minutes.
I loved you enough to let you see anger,
disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children must
learn that their parents aren't perfect.

I loved you enough to let you assume the
responsibility for your actions even when the
penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.

But most of all, I loved you enough . . . to say
NO when I knew you would hate me for it.

Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm
glad I won them, because in the end you won, too.
And someday when your children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them.

Was your Mom mean? I know mine was. We had the
meanest mother in the whole world! While other kids
ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal, eggs, and toast.
When others had a Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch, we had to eat sandwiches.
And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was
different from what other kids had, too.

Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all
times. You'd think we were convicts in a prison. She
had to know who our friends were, and what we were
doing with them. She insisted that if we said we
would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.

We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve
to break the Child Labor Laws by making us work. We
had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to
cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash
and all sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie
awake at night thinking of more things for us to do.

She always insisted on us telling the truth, the
whole truth, and nothing but the truth. By the time
we were teenagers, she could read our minds and had
eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really tough!

Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn
when they drove up. They had to come up to the door
so she could meet them. While everyone else could
date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until we were 16 .

Because of our mother we missed out on lots of
things other kids experienced. None of us have ever
been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's
property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all her fault.

Now that we have left home, we are all educated,
honest adults. We are doing our best to be mean
parents just like Mom was.

I think that is what's wrong with the world today.
It just doesn't have enough mean moms!


:thumbsup2
 
Oh yeah, I had a "mean mom" and dad too for that matter.

I couldn't date until my parents had met the potential guy. And not just meet him at the door either...he had to come over on a totally seperate occasion to sit down and have dinner with us first. Then, if he survived the grilling he received at the dinner table, he'd be able to take me out on a different occasion. :rolleyes:

I discovered really quick, that most guys weren't worth all that trouble!:rotfl:


Another example: I had to drop out of driver's ed because I got a C in one subject on my report card. I also had to quit my afterschool job due to that same C.

I'm surprised when i read stories of parents who have no control over their children. My parents had me right where they wanted me!:laughing:
 
I'm surprised when i read stories of parents who have no control over their children. My parents had me right where they wanted me!:laughing:

Mine, too! Whenever I think I'm being too tough on my son I remember my MEAN mom, the one who loved me enough to make me what I am today.

My Dad, on the other hand, was a pushover and a sweetheart. I think that's why my Mom had to be ULTRA mean! :rotfl2:
 
I definitely had a mean Mom and I am following in her footsteps - just ask my kids!:thumbsup2
 

I'm that kind of mean mom...sort of...but a pushover at the same time. My mother on the other hand...she was a really MEAN MOM! And, not the nice mean mom like in that sweet little poem!
 
My Mom fits that description, but I never considered her mean. My Mom always stressed to me that while I may not always agree with her decisions, she really was doing what she considered to be in my best interest. I believed her. It doesn't mean that I never got aggravated with her, but I definitely knew that I was loved. I hope my daughter feels the same way about me.
 
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Oh yeah, I'm a MEAN mom. And my DDs remind me of it everyday when their friends are allowed to do things I wouldn't even dream of letting my girls do. My eldest (10) tells me I'm "overparenting". I just chuckle and tell her not to be such a smart aleck. They'll thank me for this later.
 
I didn't have a mean mom, but I had the world's meanest dad. She was the pushover at our house. Now, I am a mean mom; I learned well from dad, I guess. Dad here is the pushover.
 
Yes and I am President of the MEAN MOMs club.. just ask my Kids..:lmao: I am the meanest MOM in the whole wide world.. and my kids are the ONLY ones in the whole wide world that have to do jobs at home before they can play or aren't allowed to have a MYSpace Account or play internet games, have to come home after school or practice and do homework, ..and can't get a drivers permit until they have the money to pay for their car insurance...I am a mean mean Mom..
 
I had a mean mom too! Thank goodness! I didn't realize it at the time, but it was the best thing that could have happened to me. Some of my friends who didn't have "mean moms" used to love to come to my house. I think they felt more secure and comforted by the structure. I didn't understand it until I was older. I am so thankful for the example that she set, I miss her still.:sad1:
 
I'm surprised when i read stories of parents who have no control over their children. My parents had me right where they wanted me!:laughing:

Same here.:rotfl2:

Even as a teen, I was amazed at the things my friends could get away.:sad2:
 
Yes indeed, I am absolutely a Mean Mom. :goodvibes

I remember reading this years ago in Ann Landers' column.....
 
Another Mean Mom here! When DS told me that I was mean, I told him that's right and it's my goal to be the Meanest Mom EVER! :goodvibes
 
Yep, I had a mean mom & dad (dad's a preacher), and I'm also a mean mom, and it is a title I wear proudly!!! If my kids say I'm a mean mom, I'm doing my job right!!!
 
As a matter of fact, at least once daily, I answer a question with "Because I'm a mean mom." :thumbsup2 That answer actually always stops my son in his tracks and makes him think, and he so far has always replied back "You are not mean, you love me." :love: Hopefully the exchange will always stay that way, but even if it doesn't, there are just some things a mom has to do, even if the child doesn't understand at the time.
 
I must be because my son asked me if I WROTE THIS: :lmao:


I think that is what's wrong with the world today.
It just doesn't have enough mean moms!


:thumbsup2

While I totally love that little essay, I have to disagree with that one line. I don't think there's anything wrong with the world today or kids today either. I think these kids are doing better than we give them credit for!:thumbsup2

That said, I strive to be that mean mom.

Aidensmom, what a sweet response from your son. :)
 
I guess I'n the oddball. I didn't have a mean mom (she wasn't lenient or strict, actually, but somewhere in the middle) and I'm not a mean mom either (ditto my mom). The lady across the street was a mean mom and her daughter ended up pregnant at 16. She never let that girl breathe and as a result, she rebelled. I think "mean" has a fine line........
 
I guess I'n the oddball. I didn't have a mean mom (she wasn't lenient or strict, actually, but somewhere in the middle) and I'm not a mean mom either (ditto my mom). The lady across the street was a mean mom and her daughter ended up pregnant at 16. She never let that girl breathe and as a result, she rebelled. I think "mean" has a fine line........

I totally agree. My mom crossed over into cruel.

But I think the word "mean" is really tongue in cheek for the way the kids feel about us when we have to say no to something. :) I've had DD tell me I'm mean, but then I'll say, "How sad, am I really mean?" and she'll think about it and say no. :rotfl:
 














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