Are you 100% out

vaDisneyGuy · Feb 23, 2009

So my friends know and most of my co-workers know I am gay. I feel a lot of guilt over not being 100% out and not being out to my family. So I just wanted to know if anyone else feels the same. Is this normal?

Tony-NJ · Feb 23, 2009

I'm sure each situation is different. I never actually "came out" to my Family - but everyone knows - and they all know Chris. I've been working at the same company for 14 years and everyone knows - and I think all of them have met Chris - we also are friends with some of the folks at work too. Even at our shore house - everyone knows us on our block's beach - so I guess we are 100% out.

PeterPan09 · Feb 23, 2009

I never officially came out to most people either. I would imagine that the most likely response if I did would be "well, DUH, that's not news".

bubie2.5 · Feb 23, 2009

Everyone in my family knows. Cousins, aunts and uncles... EVERYONE.
I've never actually "told" any of my friends, but they know. I live with my partner and even we don't do any kind of PDA, every time we talk about life, family and future, it's always me and my partner.

OrlandoMike · Feb 23, 2009

100% at work and home....

rpmdfw · Feb 23, 2009

Well, considering that all of the family, and most of the co-workers got invited to our "Big Fat Gay Disney Wedding", I'm going to say that they all know.

Funny story. We were at the supermarket on Friday and forgot to get an item, so I ran to get it while Scott waited with our shopping cart at the front of the store. Since it was just one item, the bagger asked if I needed a bag. I said "no, just go ahead and put it in one of the bags over there in our cart". She asked "is he your roommate?" :rotfl:

I replied "No, he's my partner."

"Oh, what business are you in?" :eek:

At which point I said. "No, I mean he's my BOYFRIEND" while the checker laughed and handed my my change.

So, yeah. I'm 100% out. Even to our grocery store. :rotfl2:

OrlandoMike · Feb 23, 2009

Phone rings...

"Is Shrek there?"

"No sorry."

"How about Mrs. Shrek?"

"Speaking"

Long pause..................... :rotfl2:

rpmdfw · Feb 23, 2009

OrlandoMike said:
Phone rings...

"Is Shrek there?"

"No sorry."

"How about Mrs. Shrek?"

"Speaking"

Long pause.....................

hematite153 · Feb 23, 2009

Yes...and no.

I'm married and I tell everyone about that. So, everybody knows that I'm not straight. But, everyone assumes that I must therefore be a lesbian and it's often not worth explaining that I'm actually bi. I certainly don't hide it, but, I also don't disrupt conversation to correct people.

We also have this weird experience in the US (mostly at wdw, but, I think it's just a US thing and we spend most of our time in the US at wdw) of people calling my DW my mother. Although it has now come up a bunch of times, we still get shocked by it every time it happens and our reactions tend to be too slow to "come out."

hematite153 · Feb 23, 2009

OrlandoMike said:
Phone rings...

"Is Shrek there?"

"No sorry."

"How about Mrs. Shrek?"

"Speaking"

Long pause.....................

Yeah, I like doing that one too. Except in my case, it's more of a:

"There is no Mr XXX, but, you can speak with me if you want."

"Well, is Mrs XXX there?"

"No, but, you can speak with me if you want."

"Who are you?"

"Mrs XXX is my wife."

...

Uncle Remus · Feb 23, 2009

OUT for a reeeeeal loooooong time. :lmao:

rosiep · Feb 23, 2009

Ok..I'll weigh in:

Most everyone who knows me knows I am Bi. Even my kids and my husband. Since I'm monogamous it's sort of a non issue...but I never hide my attraction to women.

Timrobb · Feb 23, 2009

15 years "out" and "about"

Jeff90 · Feb 23, 2009

Oh yes, 100% percent here. Jon is also...... :banana:

Timon-n-Pumbaa Fan · Feb 23, 2009

With the exception of the people that my job serves, I am 100% out. I would love to be 100% out, but that is just one workplace that doesn't really give me that flexibility. I have been 100% out in previous jobs, but not this one. Not that many people would look at me and think that I was straight.

I work with kids in a fairly conservative area, so it's just easier not to make any statements that have to be explained. In the event where something comes up that has to be explained, depending on who it is that is standing in front of me, I never lie, but I may not be brutally honest either. Corey is my best friend, so saying that is who I live with is not a lie and it's not something that makes a parent cringe either. It's a balancing act of honesty, tact, and self preservation.

Goofyluver · Feb 23, 2009

To those that know me.

Tony-NJ · Feb 23, 2009

OrlandoMike said:
100% at work and home....

What about Max?? Give Max my love will ya?

jenn&nelsonrego · Feb 23, 2009

rosiep said:
Ok..I'll weigh in:

Most everyone who knows me knows I am Bi. Even my kids and my husband. Since I'm monogamous it's sort of a non issue...but I never hide my attraction to women.

Only my husband knows that about me.... But since I have never explored my attraction, I don't think I can be called Bi... it doesn't matter to me anyway...

It is just something that keeps things juicy between the DH and me...

DVC~OKW~96 · Feb 23, 2009

No, I don't think so.

One sister makes sure everyone "knows." The brother ignores it. The other sister too... :shrug:

Parents? Mine: Mother completely ignores it, but makes sure my wife knows that she considers her a daughter and loves her. Father? Ignores it because if he didn't he'd never speak to me/us again. :shrug: Not so sure he loves ME, let alone my wife. :teeth:

But if he were pressed he'd probably say he loves HER. :teeth:

Her Parents: Both completely accepting, but never speak of it. Siblings on her side, same. Acceptance, but no conversation. :shrug:

Work? If the coworkers are alert and astute, yep they know. Otherwise, nope. A few in my former place of business knew because of conversations they had with me...otherwise ... who knows? I have a rainbow Mickey on my briefcase now. ::yes::

Neighbors? Most of them think we are sisters. Not sure how that came to be, but it's the general consensus. :shrug:

Huh. Until I put it down here, didn't fully realize how complicated this issue is in our lives.

zeitzeuge · Feb 23, 2009

I'm pretty much out to everyone. Haven't hidden it for years now. My family all know, but I never officially came out to them. One by one I told some here and there and the others figured it out or heard it through family gossip. I did have guilt for a number of years, but as far as I'm concerned every person is different and you come out if or when you want. No one should tell you otherwise. Do it on your own timeline.

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