Are We Bad Parents For Going

[mvav269]

Our family just returned from our 1st family trip to WDW. Our 2 DD's, 12 and 9, had fun but weren't very impressed. My husband and I will be married 20 years next year and we are thinking of taking an adults only trip next summer and staying at the GF or YBC. Are we bad parents for doing this?

 

[ButterflyJen]

Why would you think you're a bad parent for wanting some adult time? Especially for your 20th anniversary AND especially if your DDs weren't all that thrilled in the first place.

I say, go and have a great anniversary trip. Just the two of you.

 

[meandtheguys2]

Rule # 1, don't ever ask if you are a bad parent on the DIS. Surely someone will say you are!

Have a lovely anniversary trip!

 

[Mister Incredible]

I hope not, because if you are bad parents, my wife and I are bad parents. We leave tomorrow for a trip without the kids. It's a short trip (thurs-Sun) but I can't wait!

 

[Alicnwondrln]

no disney isnt just for kids
go and have fun

 

[mvav269]

Thanks to everyone for making me feel better. Now I can start to plan for next year!

 

[lulugirl]

YES, you are awful, someone call the authorities!!!!
I'm kidding of course! I think it's a wonderful idea. 20yrs is worthy of a really special celebration.
Enjoy!

 

[VanniGirl]

Have a wonderful anniversary trip - without your children!!

 

[GoofyDad869]

That's what we're going to do for our 20th anniversary too!

But, that'll be in 2010... Just this morning I was telling our son (11) about our plans for it and he was like "Dad, that's sooooo wrong". So I said, dude - you'll be 16/17 and your sister will be 11/12 - don't you think we'll have earned that time off for good behavior by then?

 

[christinadei]

We just did. I didn't feel bad a bit. Okay, that's a lie, I did feel a little bad and missed my DS, but he was fine with it (as long as I brought him a few requested souvineers) and we had a great time. Epcot was so nice, we were able to take our time seeing the countries. It was also so nice to not have to stop at ANY of the characters! We had a great time, and I'm sure you will too. Go for it!

 

[kpk89]

Have a blast!!! No you're not bad.

We went a year ago, just for the weekend (for our 10th anniv and to sign up for DVC) and left the kids with my sister. Here's the conversation with my 4 yr. old just a week or two ago:

P: Mommy, remember a longlong time ago when you and Daddy went to Disney and we got to stay at Auntie Karen's?

Me: Yeeeess, why?

P: Can we do that again sometime?

Me: You mean, you want Daddy and I to go to Disney and leave you at Auntie's?

P: YES!!! That was so fun!


Lucky, lucky me. For the record, the kids didn't know until well after the trip that we were actually at Disney -- we told them Florida and left it at that.

 

[Drizzo67]

No, you're not a bad parent. You are a smart parent. Anniversaries are the times to celebrate you and your husband joining together. The kids are just the cream cheese on the bagel. You can always plan a family trip again for another time. Maybe you and your DH going without the kids will make the kids want to go even more next time. Go...Enjoy...you've earned it.

 

[SheDaisy0088]

Nope, you are not a bad parent. We have talked about taking a adults only weekend next year to celebrate our 10th anniversary. The only problem is that I know I would miss my son more than he would miss us.


We did take an adults only trip 5 years ago. Just hubby and me. Needless to say I think I made hubby more miserable worrying and talking about missing my son. He swore then and there that he wouldn't take me alone until our DS said he didn't want to go to Disney anymore!! LOL!!

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

No way! I wish we could get away for a while together..to ANYWHERE! lol

ALONE.

Have a great time. And try not to call home every few hours...enjoy yourself!! You guys deserve it, I am sure!

 

[Nancyg56]

Bad parent??? No way! Go celebrate your anniversary and have a wonderful time!

 

[Camping Griswalds]

Our family just returned from our 1st family trip to WDW. Our 2 DD's, 12 and 9, had fun but weren't very impressed. My husband and I will be married 20 years next year and we are thinking of taking an adults only trip next summer and staying at the GF or YBC. Are we bad parents for doing this?

YES!!!!!

YOU ARE HORRIBLE PARENTS AND SHOULD GO TO PARENT JAIL!!1

tHE ONLY WAY TO REDEEM YOURSELF WOULD BE TO TAKE ME AS YOUR CHILD!!

By the way I'm 36 and potty trained

 

[NJOYURLIFE]

You are not bad parents and you should have a wonderful anniversary celebration!

 

[DISLOVE]

Our family just returned from our 1st family trip to WDW. Our 2 DD's, 12 and 9, had fun but weren't very impressed. My husband and I will be married 20 years next year and we are thinking of taking an adults only trip next summer and staying at the GF or YBC. Are we bad parents for doing this?

You shouldn't even let your subconscious think that! You deserve an adults vacation and should go for an entire week! You deserve to take time to enjoy each other and the romance of Walt Disney World!!!!!

Enjoy and congrats on 19 years going strong!

 

[bdcp]

Bad parents are the ones who neglect or abuse their children. You're showing them what marriage is about. Your children need to always know that you are individuals too. They may whine about it, but guess what, kids whine about a lot of things. You need time away as a couple because when they're grown, you need to have that relationship that doesn't include children. My 2 DS are 19 and 21, away at college and we took at least one weekend trip a year when they were growing up without them. In the end, your marriage is what you'll have left after your kids are grown. My DH and I are going to WDW in Nov and on a cruise after it alone. We've been happily married 24 years. We could have scheduled it when they were on a break, but we decided this was for us and we'll take them some other time, probably when they have their own families.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

Our family just returned from our 1st family trip to WDW. Our 2 DD's, 12 and 9, had fun but weren't very impressed. My husband and I will be married 20 years next year and we are thinking of taking an adults only trip next summer and staying at the GF or YBC. Are we bad parents for doing this?

I personally would not leave younger children to go to WDW with dh, BUT, at that age? You bet your bottom I would, LOL! ESPECIALLY if they did not really enjoy it so much the first time. Go and have fun!!!!