Are first time moms this crazy??

[TnKrBeLlA012]

My sister had her first baby 4 months after me. She will be two in November. She gets so crazy over everything the child does. She has her crib in her room,she still sits in the backseat with her when she goes out with her husband. She will not let anyone watch her but my mom. She follows her ever place she goes in the house. There is not a minute in the day she is not on the babies back. She will not let anyone in the area around her daughter if she detects a sniffle or a funny sounding voice. She wipes the childs hands with wipes at least 10 times a day. When we went to Disney she had to sterlize my room before her daughter could come in to play with my daughter. She will give her husband explicit directions when he takes her outside.(He has to stay close to the house since she has know trust in him,she dosen't think he watches her good enough) Once he took her outside and she fell,he was yelled at for at least 10 minutes. I told her kids fall,get over it! She has her watching every Disney tape ever made. Not that it's bad but it's getting to be to much. She will say," look at how she loves disney",I think only because you programed her that way. I told her she needs help or better yet a job. She does not think there is a problem though. Is this normal behavior for a first time mom? I don't think so.

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

Anyone out there?????? I'm patiently waiting for some type of respose. Only 4 people have read this in the last 15 minutes. Not one response. I'm not feeling liked.

 

[SandrainNC]

She does seem to be going a little overboard on everything. I am considered overprotective by just about everybody I know (and I admit to it) and she sounds way way worse than me. The only thing in your post that even comes close is that my husband sprays lysol in the hotel rooms when we first get there.

Was your niece sick when she was very young or something that would make your sister a lot more protective of her? My son was a premie and had to stay at the hospital for 2 months. He was also sick early on with pneumonia and some other things and I think that has made me a little more protective than other people.

Sandra

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

[Was your niece sick when she was very young or something that would make your sister a lot more protective of her? My son was a premie and had to stay at the hospital for 2 months. He was also sick early on with pneumonia and some other things and I think that has made me a little more protective than other people.

Sandra [/B][/QUOTE] She had a c-section. The baby had to go on oxygen for a day. She was fine after that. You would have thought it was far worse. She even brings up how sick the baby was after she was born. We all just let her talk.

 

[SandrainNC]

LOL. You are too funny! Some people are just programmed that way I guess.

That is funny that she doesn't even realize that she is being that way though. I am very quick to admit it.

Sandra

 

[llij]

Is she planning on having more kids? Maybe she'll relax a little more with the second......

Gosh, not sure what to say....but good luck to you and I hope that as your niece gets older that your sister relaxes just a bit.

 

[JayCT]

Your sister is defintiely going WAY overboard and is going to turn her daughter into a complusive wreck if she doesn't lighten up. She could also lose her husband in the process. She definitely needs to get some other interests in her life. Show her the posts you get. Maybe if she sees what others say, she will realize what she is doing.

 

[cassie]

Your sister is way too over protective. In order to build up resistance to germs, we have to expose our selves to them in the first place. I don't think you will be able to change her mind on this over protectivness, but unfortunetly her child will suffer for it. It will bite her in the end. I feel sorry for her, as the poor kid will not grow up doing the normal things kids are allowed to do, and possibly the child will start to rebel.

 

[bumcat]

Is she going to put her in a bubble when school starts?
Oh yes I do believe she has some serious problems. I could see if she were still an infant, lots of moms go overboard but 2?
Hopefully like the op said she will relax maybe when the child is 30 or so, LOL.

 

[Disney Ella]

I think it's normal to be like that for the first couple of months, but after that most people relax when they realize that the kid can make it from one end of the house to the other without a tragedy happening. Your sister needs to lighten up. What is she going to do when her daughter goes to school and is out of her sight all day? Does she worry compulsively about other things or just about her daughter?

 

[Aurora63]

My sister was like that with her first child. I remember her going on and on one day about the benefits of sunscreen and how she had to slather it all over her son every day. And how sugar was the evil enemy. Oh, and of course the house was sterile, and the baby was in her arms 24/7. I think for her, it came down to her mother walking out on her. She wanted to be Supermom, the antithesis of her own mother.

Anyway, if your sister is normal otherwise, I'm sure she'll relax in time. Hope so, anyway. I know it's no fun to be around. Good luck.

 

[bumcat]

Maybe mention Michael Jackson to her as an example since he is freaky about germs. I feel so sorry for his kids.

 

[Beth76]

No, that is not normal behavior. I feel really sorry for your neice. She's really going to suffer because of this. Kids get sick, kids get hurt it's a normal part of growing up. You can't protect your kids from everything--and you shouldn't!!! Your sister has MAJOR control issues. I don't know what to tell you because I doubt this is something that you can change.