Appropriate dress?

[Tommy_B]

Some people like that. And some people like the food and service and spending time with their family, friends and could care less about the ambiance.

So I should not care if my party is ill mannered in a restaurant if it ruins the ambiance for others, as long as MY party is enjoying themselves?

I think we are pinpointing why the world is in the state it is in. People used to care about community and standards. We are down to "it's all about me".

 

[bpadair32]

Let me help you.

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/breeding

:the way a person was taught in childhood to behave : good manners that come from being raised correctly

And what you were inside a theme park has no bearing on your manners. Good manners would generally include not being judgmental of others and not looking down your nose at other people.

Situation has a lot to do with it. Nice restaurant in everyday life - non-dressy tank tops are inappropriate. Theme park - different story.

 

[Tommy_B]

You're at a theme park. You are going to wear things to keep you cool and comfortable. If you want to make sure people don't interfere with your "ambiance" don't eat at a theme park.

Mmmm, so a nice shirt and dressier shorts won't keep you cool. Why wear a shirt at all?

If you are not willing to dress a bit nicer for a nice restaurant, don't eat in a Signature restaurant.

 

[bpadair32]

So I should not care if my party is ill mannered in a restaurant if it ruins the ambiance for others, as long as MY party is enjoying themselves?

I think we are pinpointing why the world is in the state it is in. People used to care about community and standards. We are down to "it's all about me".

We are not talking about someone being rude, yelling, running, being drunk, etc. We are talking about the clothing that someone has on, the only way that can affect your experience is if you chose to let it and therefore make it *all about you*.

 

[bpadair32]

Mmmm, so a nice shirt and dressier shorts won't keep you cool. Why wear a shirt at all?

If you are not willing to dress a bit nicer for a nice restaurant, don't eat in a Signature restaurant.

No actually a nicer shirt and dress shorts won't keep you as cool as athletic wear that is moisture wicking.

 

[Tommy_B]

Situation has a lot to do with it. Nice restaurant in everyday life - non-dressy tank tops are inappropriate. Theme park - different story.

Sorry, but that sounds terribly judgmental to me.

 

[bpadair32]

Mmmm, so a nice shirt and dressier shorts won't keep you cool. Why wear a shirt at all?

If you are not willing to dress a bit nicer for a nice restaurant, don't eat in a Signature restaurant.

I will dress nicer for a nice restaurant, if it is at one of the resorts. If it is in a park, the situation would say that my park attire is appropriate.

 

[bpadair32]

Sorry, but that sounds terribly judgmental to me.

/sarcasm I guess?

 

[Tommy_B]

/sarcasm I guess?

Yes, because what you are saying is you do have standards, they just differ from mine. But when I express my standards, I am being judgmental, but when you express yours, it is just common sense.

 

[Veronique]

Why would I be kidding? When people are paying a lot of money for a nice restaurant they like a certain ambiance.

You derailed the topic on which I offered my opinion by attacking my opinion and me. We didn't need your opinion of my opinion. The OP can make their own judgment based on what everyone says.

The OP question is this : "Is it entirely inappropriate for me to wear that in there or is it normal?"

The objective, rational, fact-based answer is that it is normal. Some people change, some wear efficient "park attire". It IS entirely normal.

You posted a judgemental opinion, based on your own taste, not the actual situation in the parks, and I and others are calling you on it. If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen (but I guess you never go there cause that is such a commoners place or something... what are maid for, amiright? - sorry I cannot get over the serious use of "breeding")

 

[MakiraMarlena]

Park attire is absolutely fine for the Brown Derby. You will rarely see anyone in there wearing anything else. I wouldn't go in a swimsuit but regular park clothing, I have and I will in the future (no dresses. Shorts or jeans, and tee shirts.) There does appear to be something of a distinction between signature restaurants inside parks and signature restaurants outside parks, no matter what the "official" line is. However, the resort restaurants won't say anything if you're there in park clothing.

Where they say "no tank tops" they mean for men, not women...but I don't think the in-park ones will say anything about men. I see men in the Derby with tank tops on. That's a little rarer outside the parks.

 

[Tommy_B]

The objective, rational, fact-based answer is that it is normal. Some people change, some wear efficient "park attire". It IS entirely normal.

Fact based? I am starting to think you don't understand the meaning of many words you use.

 

[Tommy_B]

Park attire is absolutely fine for the Brown Derby. You will rarely see anyone in there wearing anything else. I wouldn't go in a swimsuit but regular park clothing, I have and I will in the future.

And there is the nub of the issue. You wouldn't go in a swim suit, but many people think a swim suit is normal park attire so you can't simply say "park attire" unless everyone has the same understanding of what is appropriate park attire.

 

[bpadair32]

Yes, because what you are saying is you do have standards, they just differ from mine. But when I express my standards, I am being judgmental, but when you express yours, it is just common sense.

No, there is a difference between being judgmental and having standards. Having standards means that there are things that I will/won't do. I hold myself to those standards, I hold my children to those standards, and in business related situations, I hold my employees to those standards.

I do NOT hold the rest of the world to my standards. That is where it becomes being judgmental. Outside of the park I would not wear a tank top to a nice restaurant, I would not let my son wear one either. However, I would not be appalled at someone or look down on their "breeding" if they did.

 

[bpadair32]

And there is the nub of the issue. You wouldn't go in a swim suit, but many people think a swim suit is normal park attire so you can't simply say "park attire" unless everyone has the same understanding of what is appropriate park attire.

Only in the waterparks. Swimsuits are not allowed in the park, and therefore not park attire.

 

[MakiraMarlena]

Well, it's getting a bit nitpicky...I can't say I've ever seen anybody in the Derby (and I go a lot) wearing a swimsuit. Shorts and tee shirts, the vast majority of diners in the derby wear those. Have I ever seen anybody "dressed up" in there (and by "dressed up" I mean wearing something that I might see at work, so maybe "business casual") like I might see at California Grill or Narcoosees...no I haven't.

That's just how it is, so I don't think the OP has anything to worry about regarding the Derby.

 

[Veronique]

Fact based? I am starting to think you don't understand the meaning of many words you use.

"Fact-based" in the sense that people in the Derby wear those kind of clothes all the time, like many have said, so in that sense, it is an "established", observable "fact".

 

[Tommy_B]

Only in the waterparks. Swimsuits are not allowed in the park, and therefore not park attire.

That may be true for women, but not men. You see lots of men wearing board shorts and trunks in the parks, just not Speedo briefs.

 

[bpadair32]

That may be true for women, but not men. You see lots of men wearing board shorts and trunks in the parks, just not Speedo briefs.

Board shorts are shorts, not just a swimsuit, and therefore would fall under "shorts".

 

[Julylady]

I would second the suggestion of bringing a sweater or light coverup.