Apparently no longer working outside the home makes me lazy?

[Gabes_mommy]

Honestly I thought staying at home was much harder work than my job. Enjoy your freedom.

 

[cats7494]

I think that there are just people in this world, particularly women (which is sad) who just aren't happy unless they're trying to bring someone else down for their life choices which aren't any of their business anyway.

I agree with this statement 100%!
Good for you and your husband! Obviously this makes your family happy and it works for you guys! I know it is easy to say this - but who cares about the opinions of jealous people?

Keep it up Mommy, Domestic Goddess, Homemaker, etc.

 

[Disney Doll]

Sounds like she's being overly critical, but I really hate the "just jealous" card being played whenever anyone says something disagreeable.

Believe it or not, there are plenty of women who don't want to stay home and aren't "jealous" of those who do.

Well, if she wasn't jealous, why else would she feel the need to comment on something that in no way affects her?

OP, I'm wioth you! If staying home doesn't oput your family in any finacial dire straits and your home, life and family's lives run more smoothly for it and you feel fulfilled being at home, go for it!

Heck, I'm, jealous! I look forward to the day when I don't have to work! I really could picture myself keeping very busy "making" a home...I'd have the time to do all the things that I don't have the time to do now. Clear out junk, organize better and so forth.

 

[mumom95]

OP, I agree with the people who said she is jealous.

People that are happy with their choices in life don't go around making mean comments to people that are making other choices.

Try and not let it bother you. Just be grateful that you are able to have the life that makes your family happy. Not all women (or men) have that option. I sometimes forget how lucky I am to have the choices I have, and it helps me appreciate it more when I stop and remember not everyone has the luxury of choice.

 

[DisneyMomx7]

Of course - don't all of the stay at home moms (me included) lay around watching soaps and eating bon bons?

I've had a few people make remarks of why am I still at home since the kids are in school full time now?

Of course DH and I made this decision and it works best for us.

I think the people that say this are not satisfied with their own choices and are jealous. The friends who work outside the home and are happy with their choice never feel the need to put down SAHMs!

 

[iwrbnd]

Honestly I thought staying at home was much harder work than my job. Enjoy your freedom.

Me too!I stayed home for 15 years and I still remember my first staff meeting with food. I thought "Oh my goodness, I'm getting paid to eat with adults!!!"

 

[m&m's mom]

I work, but do it from home, so I have a foot in both worlds.
I do miss the catered meeting and lunches but as I would have to drive to the office to get them- I voluntarily pass.
My kids are in school full time and I am off work by the time they get home but, I am doing the same things I did when I worked at the ofice full time.
There is very, very little that I do not do when I worked in the office or at home.
I still have laundry, shopping, meal preparation, sports, aniamls to the vet, blah, blah, blah that I have always had. The absence of the communte time I was spending is now more time for me to get those things done.
Everyone of us have the physical work at home: laundry, cleaning, yard work, house maintenance and some of us add a job to that as well.

OP- No one should be put down for whatever works for their family. It's all about choices.

 

[Gigi22]

Goodness! I suppose since I am retired, I must fall into the "lazy" category too! The OP's SIL must have so much to do, since she is so unstinting of her opinions when they haven't been asked for. Tell the SIL to take a long walk off a short dock, and take her opinions with her.

 

[Aristomommy]

I would never think a person is lazy because they don't work outside the home. I have the opposite situation. My career in the medical field is extremely flexible. During times when DH has been laid off, I would pick up extra shifts and work 6 or even 7 days a week if I chose to. Right now we are saving mode, so I work more while kids are at school.

My SIL recently quit her job and is now a SAHM. She is putting me down with her comments "you need to stop working so much", "are you workign again today?" when my work interferes with her plans. She complains about how tired she is, busy she is, the weight she has lost since quitting which I think is rude.

I would never put another person down because of their work situation if it works for their family. People can be rude regardless of their work situation...

 

[Redpepperflakes14]

That darn Peggy Bundy ruined it for us all!

Seriously though, just to tick off the 'If you're not working you must be a lazy slacker,' people, just call yourself a 'Person of Leisure' like I do

Really, really seriously though, I wouldn't mind a new job, but right now, it's just not in the cards in this economy and with my skillset, so I feel blessed that I can be a stay at home wife/student for a little while. It's nobody's business but your own. They have no idea what it's like at your house anyway.

 

[bumbershoot]

That darn Peggy Bundy ruined it for us all!

Totally forgot about that character. I think I'm going to dust off my tall shoes and start wearing tight belts. I dont have the shiny tight pants, but my "uniform" does tend to be yoga-type pants, so does that count?

 

[zumbergc]

Maybe what the person envisions a SAHM is, isn't what really happens in your house. Sometimes people make judgements, about what life is staying at home with or without kids. Honestly, its between you and dh. If he and the immediate family benefit, thats all you need to think about. Your doing something which is best for the family.

If someone hasn't been in a different position than always having to work, they can't wrap their mind around it. So they come to the conclusions, you don't work "outside the home", so your lazy. Although you mention she can't keep a job, she probably doesn't want to work, but due to her situation she needs to work. Plus, there are those nasty people out there, that will find anything wrong and put it down. Like if you did work, you would here, you need to spend more time with the kids, and family. You can't win with those people.