Anyone with non-disney spouses?

[ImarriedGrumpy]

My DH grew up in California and went to DL with his family 2 or 3 times in his youth - his response was "eh." He doesn't like crowds of people or "forced fun", and he's known to friends and family as "The Grinch", "Grumpy boy", "The Curmudgeon", and "The Critic".

He's really a sentimental softie in spots, and wants me to be happy, and so VERY relucantly agreed to a trip to WDW this year with my former roommate & her DH (we leave in 18 days!!! Woo Hoo!!!). He's never been to WDW, so I have hopes of getting a little more enthusiasm out of him when he gets to Epcot and we eat at all the great restaraunts. He loves ethnic food and exploring different cultures, so we'll see if we can't win him over...

I certainly have dreams of bringing our future (hoped for) children to WDW...and I hope DH will join us. If not, DMIL would love to come with me & the kid(s), or my dad would join us...

 

[THESCHULTZFIVE]

MY DH likes to go, has fun, but dosen't wanna talk about it or plan or anything. I would never go w/o him and he wouldn't want me to. He would just rather I do all the planning and stuff so he can just sit back and enjoy the vacation. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that he never went as a child? I don't know, but since I like things to planned and go the way I like them to, I'm fine with things the way they are.

 

[ncbyrne]

My DH loves WDW as much as I do. However, my DD has a DH who does NOT. Works out great for me. I get to go every year - one year with DH, the next with DD and DGDs. DD likes it when I come along on their vacation because she gets help with the kids. A win win situation. I hope my DSIL never wants to go to WDW....

 

[Dznefreek]

I love the parks and my wife would rather got to the resorts. I go to the parks every other weekend and we try to spend 4 days at a resort about 3 times a year.

 

[Lynn4Mel]

DH likes Disney, but wouldn't want to go ALL the time... he likes to space the trips out with 4-5 years in between. Sooooo.... I am now begining the process of planning a trip for next year with my sister in law,who by the way also is a Disney nut . I think he would be ok with me taking the DD's on my own in the future too, especially now that they are getting older. He can go racing, I can go playing!

 

[Rozzie]

MY DH likes to go, has fun, but dosen't wanna talk about it or plan or anything. I would never go w/o him and he wouldn't want me to. He would just rather I do all the planning and stuff so he can just sit back and enjoy the vacation. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that he never went as a child? I don't know, but since I like things to planned and go the way I like them to, I'm fine with things the way they are.

exact way with my DH. He might ask a question or two, but mainly I do all the planning, ressies, etc. He really enjoys himself when he's there, and says it is his favorite place to vacation...he really gets into the hidden mickey's. also gets up at 6am with me for early entry. But he doesn't quite understand the whole DIS thing....oh well! I don't know what I would do if he ever said he never wanted to go back, I would be so heartbroken!

 

[shatzjsl]

My DH has no desire to go to WDW. Fortunately, he is okay with DD and I going by ourselves. If he did go, the only things he would be interested in are golf and Richard Petty.

I should also add that he thinks that one of these days I am going to grow mouse ears and a tail!

 

[Debbie123]

OMG that sounds just like my husband!!! The last time we were there I was so happy to be at the MK that I started skipping holding my sons hand. I looked back and my husband was all aggrevated saying he is going back and he is NOT running through the park pushing people down to be first!!! He put my mood way down!

 

[Simba's Mom]

My DH has no desire to go to WDW. Fortunately, he is okay with DD and I going by ourselves. If he did go, the only things he would be interested in are golf and Richard Petty.

Golf and Richard Petty? My DH would ask-"You mean there ARE any other reasons?" We have a real good system-DH golfs every day (except when he's saved enough to do Richard Petty). Meanwhile, I go to the theme parks. Afternoon/evening we meet up-see Illuminations, go back to MK together, have a Kitchen Sink at B&C, maybe just lie around the pool. Although we don't spend every minute together, we both love going to WDW, this works for us.

 

[nluvwithmickey]

Well DH absolutely loves WDW.....once we get there. The magic gets a hold on him and he starts talking about the next trip while we are still on vacation.


However.....once we get back and reality sets in, it's another story. I, on the other hand want to start planning the minute we get back. I just don't want a reluctant spouse to come along.

We are a one income family and we scrimp and save all year for this one week vacation. DH thinks it's hard to be 11 1/2 months on a very tight budget for one week of fun. He'd rather remodel the kitchen, or fix the yard....UGH!

He loves WDW and understands that eventually the kids will not be able to come along because of summer jobs, so he wants to take advantage of these times now, and remodel later.

I was lucky enough to have a small inheritance from my mother so I helped out alot for the upcoming trip. I'm glad I can share the expenses with him.

As a reward for working so hard for his family, I am treating him to a water mice rental during our trip. He's gonna love it.

 

[nrsldy]

My Dh goes because I like to go. My grown children like to go but now I have DGC that love to go with Nana. So if DH wants to stay home and watch the dogs so be it! We are off to see the mouse

 

[luv2nascar]

trade your spouse in and meet someone new in wdw

 

[mrsgus06]

My hubby does not like the parks at all! However, he does love to camp. He lets me plan the trips (length of our stays and any ps that we may want) and he will 1.) Pull the camper down there for us 2.) Pay for the vacation 3.) Go to the ps because he loves to eat 4.) stay under the awning of our camper, in his reclining chair, with the fan blowing on him. I find that this works well for us. I don't mind taking the kids with me to the parks but the only problem I have is the 3yo does not like to ride any rides so I have to sit at the exit of the rides waiting for the other 4 to come out. Thank goodness Ft. Wilderness is in Disney or I would never get him down there with us!

 

[babybunrab]

DH would never go--but he doesn't mind if DS and I do. I figure, could be worse!

 

[Brook106]

We went to WDW- CBR- 10 years ago with our 2 1/2 year DS. I loved it, loved it, loved it! My husband went once and that was enough for him. We had a character breafkfast at GF and I said that would be my dream. I was able to twist his arm again to include Disneyland on a California trip. DS-6, DD-2 1/2. Again, I loved it, loved it, loved it! DH- once was enough. I thought that would be it for us. DD is now 8 and has never been to WDW and doesn't remember Disneyland. DS-is 12 and only remembers California. So... we are making one more trip. WDW in 8 days!!!!!!!!!! I'm so excited! DH spoke to his boss who said that you have to stay at the GF concierge. So my dream will come true!!!! This really might be it for us- so I want to really do it up right! Who knows- maybe I'll twist his arm in another 10 years!

 

[Disneynutbsv]

Oh yes, I have a non disney spouse. I usually go with the kids w/o him. He's the type of person that will take the brochure, cross each thing and make sure we don't do it twice. (yes, he's done that before ).

So that is why I go by myself with the kids. He'll go down once in a great while (like once in 1994, 1998, 2000, and 2003). I like to go every year! If I don't I have serious withdrawals. I keep hoping it will grow on him. But, it won't happen. I am asking though for out 15th anniversary that we go down and stay at Disney (never done that).

 

[mommytutu]

Appearently, he is non-Disney and actually right now I'll say he's "ANTI-Disney" . Who knew?!?! I had never been to Disney (I know deprived childhood) and he had been a few times and when we were planning our vacation he was soooo excited. He had talked for years about going on a Disney vacation as soon as we could afford it, so I thought "WOW, Disney must really be great. He loves and cherishes those family vaction from his childhood". We went and even threw in some time at Kennedy Space Center and the Cocoa Beach and we had a FABULOUS time. When we were back home 6 months I started going through Disney withdrawls and now I want to go back so bad I can't stand it. I'm wanting to go back in Oct 2006, that would be two years from our last visit. Disney every other year is more then ok with me. I would love to go every year, but dh is more of an every 5 years type person. And he's actually really tacky about it. Last night, for example, I mentioned Disney (and I only mention Disney every once in awhile) and his response "The baby won't even be in Kindergarten. What are you stupid!" and then he goes on about she won't be able to ride any rides and I reminded him of how much she did when she was 18 months and I'm sure at 3.5 she could do that and maybe even more. He's just rude about it. And, yes, he did apologize later.

I think one reason I'm so attached to Disney is that at the age of 27 that was my first kid friendly vacation EVER. Growing up my parents only took me and my sister on two vacations and those were both gambling vacations. Not much for a 10 year old to do in a casino...now, as a 16 year old with a fake ID there was a lot I could do...but then again, not very "family-ish" (ok, so me and my dad did do some bonding over the $0.25 slots ). I'm catching up on "lost" time and I want to make sure my kids always get kid-friendly vacations.

We're hoping our financial situation will now allow us to vacation each year and I think dh and I could take turns picking vacations. DH hinks it's something we should both agree on 100% (or he won't go ) and appearently his vote counts more then mine. I agreed to go skiing with him even though I really don't care to. We're still working on this area. You'd think after 10 years of marriage it might have worked itself out.

 

[jodistar]

Wow! Being a Disney lover is one of my top requirements for a potential spouse! All others need not apply!

You took the words out of my mouth......My poor fiance though - He loves Disney but not as much as me...Our last trip he threatened to get those leases that people put their children (I know they're not named that but that's what they look like to me - I apologize ahead of time if that comes off the wrong way) because I was going so much faster than him - that's okay put me on one - I'll just drag you along

 

[cobbler]

My hubby doesn't like it as much as I do but that is ok. I read him the title of this thread and his response, "Do I have a choice"?

He said there are nuts and there are nuts and we are the nuts. Yeah he's a bit strange but I like him anyway.

 

[Catrin]

I have a Non-Disney Spouse too.....

The last time we went (2003 for a no-kids weekend), he declared "I am DONE with Disney!". He says he has a decent time when he is there, but it is getting boring.
This is from the man that wants to cruise every year!

So.... I have decided to take each of my kids.... when they end fourth grade. This will give them a special "mom and me" weekend - and I will get my fix every few years.

I know this sounds crazy, but I always wished he was one of those Hubby's who went with the flow, wore the matching Tshirts, and loved Disney as much as I ... but no, he is quite different.

(We did get engaged at Pleasure Island - April Fools Day 1991, So I guess I will keep him!)
Catrin