I found it, ABC 20/20. http://www.hulu.com/watch/135076/abc-2020-inside-the-bachelor-stories-behind-the-rose
I can't pull it up but maybe you all can. I can pull up the smaller segments I found in other places...
Melissa was her name...she said she absolutely knew what she had signed up for, but she still got hooked in. I'm sure they look for girls who have just been dumped like her and Nikki. The show sure is a study.
There's this about the 20/20 special.
ABC's promos for The Bachelor have a long history of insulting our intelligence. Remember the clip of Tenley Molzahn telling Jake Pavelka she's pregnant? (Which turned out to be a tossed-off joke?) So it's no shocker ABC's ad for its 20/20 special, Inside The Bachelor: Stories Behind The Rose, promised "the most shocking and memorable moments in Bachelor history" and "some never before seen Bachelor surprises."
Of course, I watched the show anyway! And I'm here to say: They delivered -- to an extent. Although we got no more dish on what really happened between Rozlyn Papa and the mysterious ABC producer who lost his job over her, I give creator and exec producer Mike Fleiss credit for confirming some long-suspected, behind-the-scenes details. Some interesting tidbits:
1. Why Jake picked Vienna Girardi: 20/20 cohost Chris Connelly explained, "Tenley just didn't seem to be able to unfasten Jake's seatbelt quite like Vienna Proof to some of a time-honored Bachelor love lesson: 'Lust conquers all.'"
2. There are two private, camera-free rooms in the mansion. Former season 4 contestant (and ABC special correspondent) Melissa Rycroft showed viewers one, the master bathroom, where she said "we would get ready together for dates and rose ceremonies," and revealed, "We were our own chefs, our own housekeepers, and our own makeup artists. Touring the bedrooms, we saw a shockingly small closet five women share. For two months, contestants are in "total isolation from the outside world. No laptops, no ipods, no tvs, no phones."
3. Host Chris Harrison used to think his scripted lines were stupid. "For a while I fought it," he said. "Everyone knows theres one rose. This is stupid. I dont want to say, This is your final rose tonight. But now I embrace it."
4. Season 1 Bachelorette Trista and Ryan Sutter's wedding cost nearly $4 million, and the couple pocketed a cool million on top. Six years later, they live a private life in Colorado, where he's a firefighter, and she's a stay-at-home mom to 2-year-old Max and 8-month-old Blakesley.
5. Good TV trumps all. After a season 1 clip, when a contestant's panic attack required an ambulance, Fleiss said, "We werent sure going into the series whether or not the women would really care, whether they would really compete for the love of one guy.... And once we started seeing girls hyperventilating and what not, we knew it was working." And on his seemingly heartless decision to let Rycroft get dumped on national TV, he said, "Were making a television show here thats watched by millions of viewers faithfully, and to deprive them of that moment would have been unfair."
6. But at least Fleiss admitted -- finally someone admitted! -- the contestants aren't all there to find romance. "We know that there are women and men not looking for love but angling for their big show-biz break," he said. "Whether or not someone is there for the right reasons, you really dont know until they start crying. If theyre crying about losing a guy, or happy to be in love with a guy, then you know that theyre actually sincere." Connelly's follow-up: "Of the 25 women you choose, how many of them have to be there for the right reasons for it to be a good show?" Answer: "About half."
7. Another revealing exchange came when Connelly asked, "Why do so few women just walk away?" He put this excellent query to a relationship therapist. "It's the group dynamic," replied the therapist. "People are all geared around 'how can I stay,' and 'how can I win?' So it seems very counterintuitive to think, 'How can I get out of here?'
The most intriguing answer to that question came from Rycroft. "This is gonna sound terrible, but I wasnt attracted to Jason [Mesnick]," she said. "If I were to meet him on the street and be single, I dont think that we would ever date. But put in the circumstances that we were, I thought he was the greatest thing to drop from heaven.'" Later, Season 6's Byron Velvick echoed: "I was in love [only] in so much as we were living in a fantasy world," he said of his Bachelor pick Mary Delgado. "The whole thing is surreal. The dates are surreal. Im seeing her in the absolute best light. Shes seeing me in the absolute best light." Their volatile (and allegedly violent) relationship ended disastrously.
8. The producers have changed their ideas about the key to the show. "The initial thought [was] that we had to have real love and a marriage," Fleiss said. "Now we know thats not necessarily true. Its really based on whether or not [the viewers] like the guy and hate the girls They dont need to hate all the girls, but we need our fair share of villains every season. And now were very careful in our casting...." He also copped to intentionally drawing out any negative drama. "If there's a conflict, we don't want people hugging it out in the first 15 minutes."
9. Ever wondered whether contestants are drinking heavily? "Champagne, tequila, beer, red wine, white wine," said Fleiss. "I dont think it plays any more of a role than it does in dating situations just in general." Estella Gardinier of season 4 joked about an average day: "Wake up. Go to the margarita machine. Take a nap. Go to the margarita machine. Say hi to the girls. Go to the margarita machine."
10. And the question we've all been dying to ask: Do the Bachelors have sex with the women? "There is sex," said Fleiss. "Theres not a ton of it. I think the average is, the guy will end up having sex with three women during the course of the show." But wait: when Connolly asked who had had the best batting average? "Thats my man Bob Guiney," Fleiss grinned. "I think he was five and a half."
"I heard they called me the Kissing Bandit," Guiney said. "Ultimately it was like you know just trying to figure out if you had a romantic connection." Uh-huh, sure, Bob.
I'll have to watch it later. Thanks for digging & posting the link. 
Too funny!
His mannerisms are kind of girly too, I kept waiting for him to toss back his luscious bangs during the interview.
He also seemed to over-exaggerate some mannerisms, that he doesn't do during the show. I've read that one of the tells when people lie is that they over-exaggerate because they are trying to convince people they are not lying.
Well, if that's what they're calling it now! 
He expects these women to be 100% open, honest and respectful yet he clearly doesn't extend the same courtesy to them. Talk about a double standard.
I didn't even see it and quickly deleted the 
this is the 14th (?) season. I'm sure they have figured out by now how to hide who actually wins. For all we know, they could have had Ben "accidentally" seen in public with a model who looks a lot like the girl who lost, but she's wearing big sunglasses & a hat, so no one knows it's not really her. 
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