Anyone have 2 daughters about 5 years apart?

[Joyful3Heart]

I just wanted to let you know that I have a sister 5 years and 2 months younger than me. I am now 33 years old and I remember her birth as if it were yesterday, I felt like she was a gift just for me. Fast forward a few years and, yes, she did become the pesky (and somewhat spoiled) little sister who annoyed me to no end...during my middle school and early high school years we fought a LOT. But if you follow mom2meiko's advice you should be ok:

word to the wise - don't force the older daughter to let the younger one join in on playdates, etc. i've seen that too many times and it just causes resentment issues.

By the time I was a junior in high school, we had become close and eventually served as each other's maid (matron) of honor. So don't worry, sisters can have that special bond regardless of the age difference. Congratulations on your coming bundle of joy!

 

[monorailsilver]

My girls are just shy of 5 years apart. My oldest was born May 2001 & my youngest was born March 2006 (plus I have a ds in the middle September 2003).

My oldest was already broken out of the only child syndrome when my ds was born so that wasn't an issue.

They are 8 & 3 now & my oldest goes from "I love you" to "she's mean & I hate her", etc...

They share a room too so I know in a few years there are going to be some issues with that.

For the most part they play & get along & my youngest wants to do everything they do.

The hardest parts were when crawling started & that 1 year old stage of "mine" and grabbing everything, ruining everything but we are nearly past that stage so all is good/better.

 

[tarazandra]

My two daughters are 6 years and 5 days apart. We homeschool so I have no advice on the kindergarten thing. But one thing we made sure to tell our dd before and after the baby was born was that all her feelings were okay. It's okay if sometimes she didn't like the new baby and wished she wasn't here. I told her the feelings were normal and okay as long as she never said to her sister that she hated her or wished she wasn't born (so far so good on that one). I also made sure she knew that if she ever felt like she wasn't getting enough attention, to please, just tell us she needed more from us.

Also, my husband and I traded off weekends that we would take the oldest out to breakfast just her and the parent. This gave her one-on-one time. We also made sure she still got special grandma time without the new baby. Once the baby was a older and had a definite bedtime, my oldest got time alone with just mom and dad until she had to go to bed. We still do that part even now, 4 years later.

From the very beginning, I instituted "sister time." At first it was merely my oldest making faces at my youngest, but it progressed to entertaining the little one with toys and has completely graduated to them playing together with toys and their imagination. My girls are extremely close and their sweetness towards each other brings me to tears at least once a week. Does the oldest always want to play with the youngest? Of course not, but she doesn't have to. It's a great teaching tool for knowing when to say no for your own sense of self and balancing that with saying yes to make the other person happy.

Congratulations on your new journey in life!

 

[StephMK]

My DDs are 6 y, 1 mo apart & now 15 & 9. I would say they get along very well. They have times that they hang out & interact & times where DD15 does her own thing. They don't ever fight much & respect DD15's need for personal space & privacy -most of the time.

We also have DS6 so middle child, DD9, is the bridge between them. She & DS are best buddies & sometimes DD15 feels left out. Other times, the girls go into hiding together & DS is odd man out.

DD15 has always been very maternal & great w/younger DD. They are old enough to have their own lives but still enjoy playing games together, etc. It was great when we lived near DD15's BFF because they were a pair & the younger two paired up.

 

[CouchTater]

My daughters are 6 years apart to the day (yes same birthday). Their personalities are as different as day and night.The youngest idolized the oldest and the oldest one didn't want to be bothered with her little sister. Eventually as they grew up they grew closer. I had the same experience growing up with a much younger brother but the age difference eventually becomes less of an issue.

 

[surfergirl602]

I have three girls, ages almost 9, almost 7, and 2.5. They all get along great, and are wonderful big sisters. The younger two get along just fine, and she helps out with toys, etc. I find that my youngest also does things sooner by copying her big sisters.

 

[PA Princess]

Our oldest dd was 4.5 years when her baby sister was born and she was thrilled to have a sister. Course, that probably had a lot to do with the fact that older dd already had 2 big brothers so a sister was really wanted.

My girls are currently 8 (turns 9 this month) and 4. They get along well and have a great relationship. I really like the age difference. I find it is not so great that they cannot play, but also is large enough that each has their own space with friends and activities, etc.

Enjoy your girls

 

[Disney87]

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