Anyone feel like VENTING today? About ANYTHING?

[Jen D]

I need that CB feelin'. I'm feeling tense and angry and frustrated right now and I've been wandering around the Disboards trying to shake it off by reading pixie dust-laced trip reports, reading about resorts, checking out restaurant reviews, but no doing. I can't get that awful feeling out of my stomach I get when I'm having conflict with my dear MIL! I won't bore you with the oh-so-arcane details, but lets just say that she and I clash on just about everything, but we remain unfailingly polite and deferent to eachother all the time. Well-- most of the time. We've been exchanging oh-so-polite e-mails all morning (about a summer visit we have planned) that are filled with veiled recriminations, guilt trips, whatever. The hint of any conflict with my MIL gives me the most awful feelings of simultaneous guilt and anger. I literally get a terrible stomach ache. Anyone else have someone in their life that rubs them the wrong way like this?

I do love her. She just drives me nuts.

There. I feel better. Anyone else have a vent for the day?

 

[ASFCurly]

I have some people at work that do that, there are some really immature teenagers that are just impossible to deal with, some managers that I can't stand, and one pathological liar that was just fired . I am leaving (most likely for good) though in about a week and a half, but guess what, in about a week and a half my sister will start working there.

 

[caitycaity]

ugh -- i feel your pain on the mil front. we are going to a family wedding in a week and i am sure the sparks will fly.

 

[katerkat]

I hate my job. Journalistic integrity was usurped by a picture today. We had good art, so we had to run the incomplete, controversial-story-with-only-one-side-presented. And that's after I was chewed out for something that I *didn't* write, and another story was completely rewritten. Hate this job, want DH to move so I can work at a Disney Store. (If they don't close all of them!)

Ahhh, I feel better now. Thanks!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Since you asked and it is eating away at me, I will spill my guts.

My sisters B-day is Thurs.
2 weeks ago I call her to ask her to let me know if we can get together so my 6yo dd can give her this "book" (47pgs btw) that she has been working on for 6 months to give to her for her b day.
Do you think she called...no. She never does. I only tried to set something up at the major insistance of 6yodd.
Today I had to explain to my dd that she would not be able to give her the book. My poor dd is crushed that the aunt she "adores" does not care for her.

I have a crummy sister...

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font color=navy>Shoot - I vented yesterday & feel better already.

Life is good

 

[RUDisney]

I'm not venting. I've been singing happy, Disney songs all day. My office mate has started to threaten me already.

But, as long as we're talking about MILs, I'll put in my 2 cents.

My SIL got married 2 weeks ago and the wedding was far more bearable than I thought it would be. Even the bride's evil sister behaved. We had requested that our kids be served buttered macaroni since they aren't from this country, and haven't developed the typical American-child love of chicken nuggets. At least I knew that they'd eat the macaroni. What are they served? Chicken and french fries. UGH! At least there was bread on the table, and my DD ate 1/2 of my lobster tail. She thinks she knows far better than I do about what they like and don't like.

The highlight of the reception is when my DS, who was sitting right next to my MIL asked if I had my phone. I told him "no," but asked who he wanted to call. He wanted to call DGM to tell her all about the wedding.

My parents weren't invited, so my MIL could keep up the facade with her family that the kids adore her. If my parents were there, they'd see first hand that my kids wouldn't have left my parents along all night. Plus, my parents would have danced with them. MIL doesn't dance. That would give the semblance of her having fun. All of the other in-laws' parents were invited, but not mine, since it was only their grandchildren who were in the wedding.

Guess what!?! We get to do it all over again this Saturday! This week, BIL is getting married.

Hmm, maybe I'll even be asked to be in a family picture for this one, too. The last wedding, I was left out of all family pictures because they are still hoping that after 9 years of marriage, my DH will wise up and divorce me... if I was in their wedding pictures... they'd be ruined.

Live with the solace that you're not alone.

If all else fails, take Xanax.

 

[Jen D]

Live with the solace that you're not alone.

If all else fails, take Xanax.

Ya got some?

The hardest part about my MIL is her sons- my dh and his brother-- basically have checked out of trying to keep the peace with her. If it were up to dh we'd be blowing off visits with them, she'd rarely be seeing her granddaughter, and everyone would be fighting. He figures you just can't win with her, so why bother. (He says to me good luck with the stomach-aches-- "she gave them to me for years and I finally gave up trying to make her happy and they went away") . I feel like its easier to appease her than fight with her-- she's one of those people you can't argue with because she just makes things up! So I am the official family peacemaker and it really takes a lot out of me. I am just easily guilt-tripped, and she's the queen of martyrs!

Sigh.

 

[Disney Doll]

I used to work with a girl whose in-laws had the in-law children put on the ends in family photos so if something happened they could be airbrushed out without ruining the "look" of the photo!!!!! Guess the "look" would be ruined with a big airbrushed spot smack in the middle, huh?

 

[doxdogy]

Originally posted by The Mystery Machine
Today I had to explain to my dd that she would not be able to give her the book. My poor dd is crushed that the aunt she "adores" does not care for her.

I have a crummy sister...

I am so sorry that your daughter's feelings are hurt. If she ever wants to "adopt" an aunt, tell her that I am up for adoption. Give her a big hug from me.

 

[RUDisney]

Originally posted by Jen D
Ya got some?

Come on down, Sweetie. We can commiserate with one another.

If you'd prefer to just drink with me, I make a very good Grey Goose Martini.

Just remember, you don't have to make things right, you just need to be happy. If happiness comes in the form of extraditing your MIL from you life, and your DH is willing, then sobeit. Your DD will not be any better off having to deal with an unhappy and bitter grandmother than by just feeling the love that you and your DH have to offer, sans GM.

There are some people who will never be happy. It's not your job to show them the light. It took a long time for me to realize this, too.

How many olives would you like?

 

[Steve H.]

Nope, I'm good today -- thanks for asking, though.

 

[RUDisney]

Steve, how's your wife doing? Is she completely wiped out from the treatments? She's lucky to have you and your little cutie around for support.

 

[FergieTCat]

Me ... me ... I wanna vent ...

I am expected to use a computer program at work that no one understands. My officemate professed to be a whiz at it, but admitted that when she didn't understand something, someone (who is on disability leave) would come down and help her. I never had any training on the software, and am expected to generate reports relying on people who only kinda sorta can use it and a manual!

And while I was trying to generate a report, my boss asked me to type up 15 memos for accounting because the person who was supposed to do it doctor's appointment, and my boss's assistant was at lunch. And, once again, I had to give up my lunch hour to do someone else's work. I am tired of working 9 and 10 hour days with NO BREAK!!!!! And, did I mention, that the other person in this department, who was hired over me, was at lunch??

 

[Steve H.]

Originally posted by RUDisney
Steve, how's your wife doing? Is she completely wiped out from the treatments? She's lucky to have you and your little cutie around for support.

She's doing pretty good, thanks for asking. She's had fairly minimal side effects due to the radiation (mostly just a sire throat). She's pretty wiped out, but it's more due to the 7:15am radiation appointments and the 40+ hour work schedule she's been going through lately (yes, technically she's "part time" ). Add on top of that the three days a week she's now going to a friend of ours for a fitness routine that he started her on and she's one tired woman right now!

 

[katerkat]

If this thread survives the weekend, I'm sure I'll have some more! My ILs are on their way down on Thursday! And guess what? Our wedding anniversary is Sunday! I can't imagine a better first anniversary -- me, DH...and DH's parents!

 

[RUDisney]

Wow! Most people who I know who've gone through radiation are so wiped out that they compare it to being 1st trimester tired. I'm glad that she's staying so active, and the fitness routine certainly can't hurt.

I'm glad she's doing well... only 9 more to go!

 

[sharbear]

Okay I have two vents. I talked to my SIL last night. My MIL who tells us every little things that my SIL's kids do never told her that my DD won first place in a state competition and got to compete at an international contest. Guess that doesn't compare to "little Johnny's" piano recital. My feelings are really hurt. My DH says maybe his Mom just doesn't understand that this was a big deal.

Number two. My good friend, who is disabled, her husband is moving out today. What a nice guy.

I feel better getting this off my chest.

 

[Jen D]

RU Disney, thanks for your words of support.

And a martini sounds lovely.

 

[EdiePA]

Whew! The last few days/weeks have been a roller-coaster of emotions. And it's getting harder and harder to keep it together.

On Sunday, DS#1 left to return to Kentucky for training for his mission trip to India. He'll leave for India on July 1st and I won't see him again until August 9th or so. Ten weeks! Plus, he fiance came to stay for three days and stayed for ten. BUT, that was a good thing, because I'm getting to know her and love her. She left to go home on Sunday, too.

DS#2 graduates from high school on Friday night. I made it through Baccalaureate on Sunday night with only a few tears. Yesterday, we spent the day at Penn State doing his scheduling, etc. It was a long day -- we had to get up at 4am and didn't get home until 8:30pm-- but we got his ID, his computer password, his cell-phone, and his new hiking boots.

I'm just not ready for an empty nest!! Add that to the separation that my ex has dragged out for eighteen months with no end in sight and I'm really down. It's so hard to go through something like this that you didn't choose and that you didn't choose for your sons to have to go through, too.

Wahhhh!!

Thanks for listening to my vent!

Hugs to all,
Edie