Anyone else's DH not as excited???

[mommy*RN]

Ugh, I have to vent! I am so hyped for our next trip to WDW (late Oct) but when I try to talk to DH about travel planning or trip ideas he spews something like "Oh, your the planner...just tell me where to be on what day and I'll be there...". Ugh! I want us to be like the WDW commercial where the mom busts her kids talking about Disney and when she gets back into bed she asks her hubby if he is sleeping and he says, "Nope, too excited." Sorry...I just read so many posts here about DH's helping with the planning or being excited (BTW, you guys are sooooooooo lucky! I am green with envy! ) that I was hoping there may be 1 other planner out there like me who has no help at all...

Sorry about the vent...

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[mrFDNY]

Ugh, I have to vent! I am so hyped for our next trip to WDW (late Oct) but when I try to talk to DH about travel planning or trip ideas he spews something like "Oh, your the planner...just tell me where to be on what day and I'll be there...". Ugh! I want us to be like the WDW commercial where the mom busts her kids talking about Disney and when she gets back into bed she asks her hubby if he is sleeping and he says, "Nope, too excited." Sorry...I just read so many posts here about DH's helping with the planning or being excited (BTW, you guys are sooooooooo lucky! I am green with envy! ) that I was hoping there may be 1 other planner out there like me who has no help at all...

Sorry about the vent...

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I am the husband from that commerical!!!!actually things are sort of in the twilight zone in my house,I do all the planning!!!I book all the trips and i bug dw to go and go and go and keep going back all the time.She too is a disney lover so getting her to say yes is no problem!

 

[mommy*RN]

I am the husband from that commerical!!!!actually things are sort of in the twilight zone in my house,I do all the planning!!!I book all the trips and i bug dw to go and go and go and keep going back all the time.She too is a disney lover so getting her to say yes is no problem!

Your post did not make me feel better ! BTW, my DH is a FF too - so ya think with all the "time off" he would be more of a help to me in the planning dept. NOT!

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[Alexsma]

Well this is not about a Dh but a DBF, we have been together 6 years. When my sister and I started to plan this trip, he says leave me out! He doesn't think he will enjoy it, has never been but wont hear of it. So oh well my ds and I are going with the rest of the family and he gets to stay home and watch the dogs oh well.

 

[CA Disney Fans]

I'm sorry to hear that. My DH booked the flights and told me the timeframe he wanted to go back to WDW. But when it comes to the resort, advanced reservations/priority seatings, tours, etc. he's left it all to me. I do accept suggestions of what DH and DS want to do or where to eat, but I have the final say.

Is your DH that way about all trips or just WDW ones?

 

[mommy*RN]

He's like this for all trips...not just the WDW ones. I don't think he is a planner and he is probably a touch more realistic than I am because he likes to remind me that it is still 5 mo away...it would just be nice to have someone get excited with me. I tried to recruit DS, but since he is still only 3, he doesn't really get it yet...

At least I have you guys and my planning books!

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[disneygirlatheart]

Ugh, I have to vent! I am so hyped for our next trip to WDW (late Oct) but when I try to talk to DH about travel planning or trip ideas he spews something like "Oh, your the planner...just tell me where to be on what day and I'll be there...". Ugh! I want us to be like the WDW commercial where the mom busts her kids talking about Disney and when she gets back into bed she asks her hubby if he is sleeping and he says, "Nope, too excited." Sorry...I just read so many posts here about DH's helping with the planning or being excited (BTW, you guys are sooooooooo lucky! I am green with envy! ) that I was hoping there may be 1 other planner out there like me who has no help at all...

Sorry about the vent...

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You are not alone. I also do all the planning for every vacation we have been on. Including our first wdw trip in July. My dh said about the same thing yours did. Whatever, Whenever, I just don't care. But that is ok. I enjoy the planning and searching for the perfect things and best places to go.

 

[CA Disney Fans]

I'm excited for you, mommy*RN! Would you like me to send a postcard to DS when I'm at WDW to get him into going?

 

[powellrj]

my DH never wants to go, doesn't want to hear about what we have planned. Its pretty much just tell me what time I need to be at the airport. Once he gets there he has a great time, but he never wants anything to do with the planning. I should add, he was the same way 28 years ago when we were planning our wedding. He just told me to tell him what time to be at the church and where to pick up his tux.

 

[Harvest02]

I had to chuckle a little when I read this post! My husband sounds EXACTLY like yours "just tell me when to be there and I'll be there". He is not excited about our upcoming Disney trip in June. Or he will tease me and say "Hope you and the kids have fun"(like he's not going). We had a bad experience last time we were there. We stayed offsite(which was OK), but we went in January and it was COLD!!! Then my DH and I both had some type of stomach bug, no vomiting or anything, just nausea. Therefore, we didn't try all the food we wanted to either. It was also a short 3 day trip, so didn't have much time to see a whole lot. This time we will be there for 7 days, so hopefully we will be able to enjoy it a little more. I know we are going at the HOT part of the year, but we have done family vacations in summer before and have handled it pretty well. My husband has been working 15 hour days at work for the past few weeks, so I think he is actually looking forward to getting away this time. He also knows it means a lot to the kids if he comes along. This time we are staying onsite(at All Star Movies), so he will have the option to go back to the hotel if he wants to rest or get out of the hustle and bustle at the parks. I think when we get there, he will enjoy it, but I feel your pain! I plan EVERYTHING!!!! I have always enjoyed traveling, but he has not. Oh well, at least we are going and I plan on having fun!!!! Just think positive, and why wouldn't he have fun when you are there? You are in Disney, for goodness sake!!! The looks in the kids faces should do the trick!!!

 

[Mom to 2]

My husband too!!! He is happy to be on vacation, but zip with the planning. He tells me to tell him the day before we leave so he can pack and fill the truck up with gas!! Then we are off. We get there and he is like "where are we staying??" When we start the parks he is like "wake me up 10 minutes before we are ready to leave" and "what park are we going to today?" He has a blast when we are there, loves seeing the kids and me so happy, but he dreams of the day when we are old and gray and our vacations are sleeping, eating, fishing, and watching a fire. BORING for me!! So I have to make sure we do as much now as possible!!!
Ah, husbands, ya gotta love em

Lory

 

[tictoc]

My DH used to go with us and love it. He was involved in the planning and always got really excited. Something bad happened in his life and now he HATES Disney. We are not comfortable talking about it in our house. I have to do all of the planning while at work or in the wee hours before he gets up. He even hates when I go on this website. He is working this weekend so here I am! My three kids and I just go without him. He plans a trip every year camping which I hate, but I merrily go along. I am hoping I can sway him with my good behavior. It really does bother me that he will not go but the more I push the more he pushes back. It makes it hard because I can never go on the kids birthday and they really all want to go for their birthday. They are all during school closing times too so it would be so easy to go then! I love him, but I have a passion for the mouse and I am not going to give up Disney but I am not going to force hime to go. I want to go for my birthday this fall and it is during free dining. I may just go without him, but I will be really sad to do that. I must admit it bothers me when I read about all of these happy couples while there and the little romantics, but if I have learned anything it is that life is not like a commercial. Chin up and just celebrate your likes and accept your dislikes. I would hate for him to start refusing to go becuase he is asked to do something he does not want to do.

 

[luvmesometigger]

My hubby too!!!
Not that he is not excited. He just has so much going on between now and then. He is the boss at work and it is just non stop there for him so I don't even think he thinks that far ahead sometimes! LOL
It was actually his idea to go and not only is it the 4 of us (me, DH, DS(6) and DD(9 months)) we are also taking DH's parents and my step mother and my sister! And of course we don't qualify for magical gatherings since we are not paying for my daughter!
He seems to be getting more excited as it gets closer (6/5-6/9) but he is definitely not the father in the WDW commercial!!
Oh and not that we have enough going on that week, we are also getting my DD christened on 6/4..the day before we leave! And we have a 7 am flight! We should all be real pleasant Monday morning on the plane!

 

[emh1129]

My DH doesn't get into the planning, either.. he thinks I'm a little nuts to be so obsessed about planning (and I'm really not that bad )but he will humor me and listen to my ideas.
I think he will be excited when it's time to leave (like getting in the car to go to the airport!), but it just takes a while to "sink in" ya know? He doesn't do ANY of the planning~ that's all on me- and that is a lot of pressure! I want everything to be great. I want him to have a fantastic time because he works so hard and we so rarely do anything extra like this! I am going to school right now, so our budget is tight, but we've been planning and saving for this for a long time!

Anyway, I'm right there with ya!

 

[kldmom2000]

OMgoodness, I could have written your post myself!!! DH has been not keen at ALL on our taking the next trip. Everytime I try to ask him his opinion about certain restaurants for our ADR's, he just tells me to pick what I want and tell him one we're there where we are going..... when I booked the trip-he told me to just let him know what days to take off from work- Luckily I have these boards to share my excitement with since I can't do it with my DH!!!!

 

[stahshee]

My dh could care less I do all the planning. I would love for him to get excited! I tell him the $ and he grips . He has no idea how much I have saved. I save the money in the change jar... ( over 150 sense Feb) not him. my dd is on the DIS boards with me she is just as pumped as I am! My dh says" I do not see why we have to spend all this money. I know I will have fun when I get there" although he dose want to make sure we get the buffett. And he did have his boss call me when it came time to planning there vation. who knows?

 

[mommy*RN]

I'm excited for you, mommy*RN! Would you like me to send a postcard to DS when I'm at WDW to get him into going?

Thank you so much for being excited for me CA Disney Fans! At least someone is! Maybe I should take you instead of DH...that would teach him! The postcard is a good idea too!

Thanks so much to all who responded...not that I am glad your SO's aren't helping you plan and super excited...but it is nice to know that I am not alone!

Happy planning! Let's give ourselves all an A+ for the great adventures we are planning!

 

[Kendra17]

My husband is like this. He was very ANTI disney and didn't even WANT to go. Finally, I he went in 2004 and really loved it. But, it didn't STAY with him the way it does with all of us. So, this year, he agreed to another trip, but he PRETENDS he's not excited. But, I think he is. I still do all the planning, but he gets excited about certain things. . . but not the way I do and the kids do. And, he puts it down, he says to the baby (well, she's 2 and a half), "you don't want to go to ucky disney world, do yoU?" and, he'll say "mickey mouse-- BAD". He thinks that's funny. Thank goodness the little one responds with, "Mickey mouse not bad, he's goooooood". Or, "Yes, Disney world, go here"

DH is great, but he's not a completely positive person. He's a bit of a pessimist at times. And, he doesn't WANT to even LIKE WDW, but he does a bit. I think he's glad we're going again and he just asked me tonight, "Is Everest open yet?" And, I said, "yes". He said, "I want to go on that."

So, that's something positive. And, he's definitely excited about the free dining. . . I showed him all the menus and got him excited about the restaurants we're going to. And, that was a happy surprise, since our trip was planned for those dates even before free dining was announced.

 

[Kendra17]

. Or he will tease me and say "Hope you and the kids have fun"(like he's not going). :

Oh gee, my husband says this too. I hate that. I think he finally realized how horrid it is to say to me, and he's stopped saying it as much. As a matter of fact, he hasn't said it in a few weeks.

He is impressed with the quality of WDW. THe truth is, his family never did ANYTHING fun as a family when they were little. NOTHING. I grew up and we ALWAYS went somewhere as a family together every year. And, it wasn't a money thing, really. We weren't wealthy, but we went somewhere for a week, and those memories I have in the car, traveling, are some of the best memories I have of childhood, youknow? The singing, the car games, the stopping to get ice cream. . .

His family? NADA.

By the way, did I mention that he has an interview next week that would bring us BACK to his hometown? Uhhh. . . . I do not feel good about this, but that's another thread I guess.

 

[cynderella]

My DH has been this way with every vacation we have ever taken. I do ALL the planning, but then he does have fun once we're there...same thing with the griping about the money, etc. What's worse about going to WDW, though, is that my hubby is a CM at Disneyland, and while he's totally happy to get the big discount on the resort room, when the rest of us express our excitement about the upcoming trip, he says things like "I'd be more excited if I didn't already see Mickey Mouse every day!" Come on, dude! There are so many other things to be excited about! I have made all the ADRs and set up the itinerary, and since he doesn't want to help much, I tell him he's not going to have a right to complain about any plans I make and that I'm going to be sure to REMIND him of that when we are there. I used to fuss about this a lot, but then I realized that there's one really good thing about him not wanting to assist in the planning: I get to do everything MY way! I admit I got irritated when he wanted to change retaurant plans - my fault for asking for his input. I have learned to just let him be lazy so we end up doing things the way I want.