Anyone else not looking forward to holidays?

[luvwinnie]

This is our second holiday season without my mom, but it hasn't magically gotten easier. Thanksgiving was always at her house and we just miss her so so much.

 

[KelNottAt]

sorry. i don't have any answers, just

 

[dhcoffey]

More to you from me also. I, too, lost my mom and this holiday season is our second without her and it was always at her house. I think you and I could be long-lost sisters. Just this morning I was planning our Thanksgiving with my aunt who will have it at her house and it's just not the same. Make me very, very sad and I wonder will it ever get better.

Here's hoping we both have good Thanksgivings this year.

 

[DVCLiz]

I lost my Mom - gosh, it's been six years already, on Thanksgiving weekend. She died that Sunday morning, of lung cancer.

It does get better. You make new traditions. In my case, not only did I lose my Mom, but my husband had left our family earlier that year, and my step-dad died five months after my Mom, from a heart attack. So I had a lot to adjust to!!!! My two daughters and I made new traditions - and there were plenty of people to help us if we needed it. We made our own fun Thanksgiving tradition - and it turned out fine. We still, and always will, miss my Mom and Stepdad, but time is a wonderful thing...

 

[luvwinnie]

Thank you, all. I know time heals a bit, I also know I will never stop missing her.

DhCoffey, hugs to you too. What month did your mom pass? Mine passed July 12, 2004.

DVDLiz, wow, that is A LOT to adjust to. Glad you are making the best of it.

 

[Blondie]

Nope, not looking forward at all. These will be the first holidays without my dad. I can't believe that Christmas is only 40 days away, how did that happen?

The fact that it's in the 70's outside doesn't help either! It still feels like September, not November with Thanksgiving only a week away!

 

[mickeyboat]

to everyone is feeling the pain of loss over the holidays.

My MIL passed away 3 1/2 years ago, and I still miss her every day. The holidays are just not the same without her.

Denae

 

[4cruisin]

My mom was the center of our holidays. She passed away in 2001 and we still miss her like crazy. The holidays are different now. We have tried to make some new traditions...some worked, some didn't but I know that things will never be the same. We don't have children so that makes it a little harder since we don't have them to focus on.

We always talk about my mom and laugh at some of her antics. It does help but I know there will always be a sadness over the holidays for me.

Just know that you are not alone in your feelings.

 

[Patty3]

This year will be a tough one for us. I am not looking forward to Christmas.

 

[C.Ann]

It's going to be rough - getting through my first Christmas without my DH - but I'm confident that I can do it - enjoy the most of it - and not drag others down with a negative attitude..

 

[rileyroosmom]

It does get easier. It will never be the "same" again, but it becomes o.k.
I lost my mom in July 1999. I think of her all the time. I cook the same dishes that she did and try to carry on some of the same traditions, but it is different. I feel it is suppose to be different. Time changes things. I remember holidays when I was a child and how different it all is today. The family that have passed on, the marraiges that have broken up, I've moved away. It's all different. But different doesn't mean bad. If that makes sense.
I try my best to make the best memories that I can.
Best Wishes to all that have lost someone dear. The holidays can be a sad time, but try to look back at your memories and hopefully it will bring a smile to your face.

 

[2BigKIdz]

This will be my first Thanksgiving without my mom and I really don't know how I will handle it. She lived with us and she and I cooked Thanksgiving meals together. She passed away suddenly on December 14 last year, so I had my first Christmas without her last year, but really I think I was in shock and the holidays were just a blurr. I am really dreading this year. We are going away for Christmas to my SIL's so maybe that will help. I'm sure Thanksgiving will be very hard for me, emotionally as well as not having her there to help me cook. I can't believe it's been almost a year since she has been gone.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Not exactly. We have to go visit my mom and stepfather on Thanksgiving Day. I am not looking forward to having to field questions as to why DS is not exactly walking yet, why he isn't allowed to have soda or juice and why haven't we taken him to McDonald's for his first Happy Meal yet.

TOV

 

[Papa Deuce]

I am looking forward to them only in the sense that my kids will have such a thrill. But for myself? No, not really.

 

[safetymom]

My mother died right before Christmas and several months later my husband died. So there are a few holidays that don't mean the same thing to me anymore.

The kids and I made new traditions. It wasn't easy and we still remember every year but it has gotten softer and easier. Make some new traditions but remember the old ones too and it will help.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

{HUGS} to all of you.

 

[Nite0wl71]

This is our second holiday season without my mom, but it hasn't magically gotten easier. Thanksgiving was always at her house and we just miss her so so much.

This will be my first, I lost my mom in January

Thanksgiving was always at her house, and the night before she would take the grandkids and they would "help" her cook. I really think they just had a big party without us.

 

[Nancyg56]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. In my family ( a blender of a family) we have suffered many losses, and I can tell you that the holidays are not ever the same. They do get easier, but they are not the same without the special people who celebrated with you sharing the table. I really don't have any advise because everyone is different, but I hope that all of you who have suffered the loss of special people try to keep the people left behind in mind. My DH has had such a hard time since he lost his Dad, that he really hates the holidays. It is sad to watch, and not have any way to make it easier. For him, it is better now that we have our little DGD in our lives because it is impossible not to enjoy her.

 

[winniedapooh]

 

[WDWLVR]

The holidays haven't been the same since I lost my mom in 1997. My in-laws only care about the gifts not the holiday itself. It will be hard to beat last Christmas - we were on a 10 day DCL cruise with a great group of DISers! Spent Christmas Day in St. Thomas. Still had Midnight Mass (ok it was at 11 pm) so got in the important part of the holiday covered. Plus the decorations on the ship were just amazing!