Anyone else have a 70+ father back in the dating pool?

[Hillbeans]

My mother passed away last summer from cancer, and my father has been seeing a few different women since. Is anyone else going through this? I'm 33, married myself, and I generally don't have any issue with him dating, it's just weird because him and my DM were married for 42 years. Luckilly the two women he's seeing (yes, 2 women) are both very nice, trustworthy, and have been known by our family for many years.

He's a very lively 70 yo, and I couldn't imagine him being by himself, however i'm not sure i'm hip to the remarriage idea (not that he's mentioned that yet). Some days i'm ok with it, and some days I just wish things were as they used to be.

 

[Serena]

Oh man, I hear you. My dad has had several friends since my mom passed away. It's weird.

 

[Cindy B]

When my FIL divorced my MIL he didn't date for a long time. After my MIL remarried, he decided to date.

He's had about three girlfriends, the most current one for about 5 years.

He's never discussed marriage wiht any of them, he calls them his friends.

 

[Hillbeans]

Yes, that's what my dad calls them also. I know he just likes to have companionship. I couldn't imagine being alone at 70 after being with someone for so long either. It's just a little strange because of course I still imagine him and my mom together.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

Hillbeans, my mother (68) has been a widow for 9 years. Every widower that she dates has asked her to marry him. Men seem to want to remarry rather quickly after losing a spouse. I think my mom has become so independent that it would have to take someone extra special to come along before she would remarry.

It is very strange when I see her with another man besides my father. I am at the point where I would like her to find someone for companionship. She does have a great group of friends but it isn't the same.


Lori

 

[elgerber]

I personally do not, but my boss does. Her mom passed away last October. Before she died she told her husband that he should be with a woman they are friends with from church. Well he followed her wishes, and he is marrying that woman in June!

Erika

 

[ScarlettO]

My 68 Mom dated a man for a few months, didn't say too much about him. Then announced at Christmas that they were getting married, and none of us had met him.

They married 2 months later. He's a nice man, theyv'e been married a few years, but really don't have a lot in common. My Mom loves to travel and he doesn't, so she goes on some trips with a lady friend of hers. I still think she rushed into the marriage.

 

[chesirechik]

My grandfather (76) has a girlfriend and they go on all kinds of trips together. She's very nice and has been great for him. He was very depressed before meeting her, so I'm happy for him. It is a little strange.

 

[Hillbeans]

The one lady friend wrote him a Condolance card because she read the obituary in the paper and just so happened to work with my dad at the same office years ago. They were casual friends who were both married at the time. He started "seeing" her only about 4 weeks after my mom passed.

It's not funny, but my sister in law and I joke that "oh, I was reading in the paper your wife passed, would you like to go on a date for coffee". Apparently single active men over 70 are quite a catch.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

A man called my Mom and asked her out, 3 weeks after his wife passed away from a long illness. He used to live in our neighborhood and I went to school with his sons. We also went to church with his family. I told my Mom that it was too soon for him to be dating.

Lori

 

[always quiet]

Gee...your dads and granddads are babies!! My father, who is 85 (!!) has 'strung' 3 women along at the same time!! My parents were married for 57 yrs. when my mom passed away. It was hysterical....my father had told me he had asked this lady out to lunch (first date ever). At the time, my oldest DD was in first grade. I never told the kids anything about Grandpop going on. Well, that morning AT BREAKFAST my dad comes into the dining room all decked out in a suit. He asks me and my daughter how he looks. Jeana looks up at him and says "OOOHHH!! Grandpop's got a date!!!" He yelled at me "You told!!" I swore I didn't and Jeana told him she figured it out all by herself! She had a blast going into school that day and sharing her "My Grandpop is dating" story!!
When my dad was 'dating' 3 at once, each woman didn't know about the other. Well, whenever one of them would call the house, I would take him the phone smiling. He would know instantly that it was ONE of them but I would never tell him which one!!

 

[CarolA]

My dad lasted about 1 year after my stepmother died. Then he remarried (I was actually surprised it took him that long! LOL)

The best part is he married his high school sweetheart and she says things like "He did not drink when I dated him." NO, he was only 15! This is his third marriage. I love my mom (wife #1), liked Stepmom #2 and think #3 is an idoit, but what can you do?

My parents were married fro 28 years before the divorce. My dad went from his mother to my mother and from my mother to wife #2. I did not think he would last long as a single person.

It was funny when my StepMom died, all the single neighbors were dropping by with gifts! (He lives in a retirement community where single women outnumber men two to one at least. Plus he is fairly young and can drive at night. Quite a catch LOL!)