Anyone else feel like you are losing it?

[allisonswonderland]

My wedding is November10 and the wedding planning with disney is basicly complete and I am thrilled with everything- It is just everything else- I am trying to plan a home reception-- the guy we are dealing with is a jerk and he acts like we are beneath him- he does not own the place, he manages it-
The Dillards discontinued my China and then called Friday, they have discontinued my crystal also! My fiance was in the hospital last week, his cat died yesterday (he was very old and it was not anything that was not expected, but still sad)- I began to freak out because my gown had a receive or cancel by July 21st date and I had not neard from Neiman Marcus and was beginning to panic, so I called and left a message-well the manager called and said my gown had been there since June 14 and no one told me that either! AAAHHH!! So that is actually a good thing, but I spent so much time worrying about it That makes me upset too- I wish Disney could just come in and plan my darn home reception--- I AM LOSING MY MIND!!! I just keep feeling like once I have acomplished something, it opens a whole new can of worms that I was not expecting or forgot about-
I am going to sit down today and make a list of what is left to do-
Now I have to re register at Macy's Help----- can anyone offer some words of wisdom and please do not tell me to go to the Dr for Xanax, as my FMIL has told me....
Thanks!

 

[ItGirl753]

Allison,
I do not have any advice but I wanted to give you some support and say, I'm sorry all those things are happening to you! I maintain a high stress level anyway. I am not carefree and I worry about every little thing so I can just imagine what wedding planning will be like for me! It's not official yet, but I have already got a lot of things "planned" and some little things already purchased! I am very into making sure everything is just so -- First the China problem, that dress being in would make me so mad, and now the crystal too! And I'm very sorry to hear about DF's cat.
Hugs to you and some pixie dust too!

 

[dannirose]

You poor thing - that's a lot to hit all at once.

 

[Eoywin]

I'm not a Disney bride, but I'm in the last months of planning my September 30th wedding.

It can be very stressful, and it sounds like you have a lot going on besides.

I hope you can find some time to refresh and relax!

 

[Moonpie]

My wedding is in November too, and it's a home reception as well. I completely understand all the stress getting to you. But, don't worry. Everything will turn out wonderful in the end.
What helps me is that I made myself a long list of "to do" items. I love crossing things off that list, and try to get to something on that list every day.
Good luck with everything!

 

[allisonswonderland]

Thanks guys- I am usually very high stress and a worrier and I feel like i am getting better, but this is just pushing me over the edge- Thanks

 

[jlhansen]

Hi Allison-

When you have to plan two weddings I can imagine your stressed and when you throw on "regular" life it can push you over the edge. Two things that may help. #1 walk away from the planning for a few days... just to give your head a break. Don't do a thing and in two or three days you'll be up to the task again and don't forget to repeat when it gets crazy again. #2 have you thought about hiring an event planner to help you? People think they are alot of money, but they can save you time (which is priceless), your sanity and they can tell you tricks on how to cut down your budget, therefore making them a wise investment. They can also deal with the idiot at the reception site and any other vendor you have.

Good luck with everything, it will be turn out great.

 

[allisonswonderland]

Hi Thanks- I am in a small town in So. IL and we have one WPlanner, who is the most obnoxious stuck up ***** and her taste is terrible- so unfortunately we do not have that option, but thanks--- Oh what will become of me-- the sad things is that DFi and I had a long weekend in Nashville and things were great, but when we got in the car to come home, I started to lose it, just thinking of all the things that needed to be done- I probably ruined the whole weekend of relaxation with that 3 hour ride home-
Part of the problem is me- when I think of something I want it done immediately and ppl who are around to help don't feel like getting to it asap- ya know- so a lot of it is me...

 

[BrideToBe82]

Aww I'm sorry things are so stressful right now. Just breath! Just know that things are going to go wrong and don't let that ruin your time. Are there any tasks that you can deligate to your bridesmaids? I just booked my wedding so I'm not at the planning stage that you are at...I'm sure in a few months I will be venting on here as well!! Hang in there...you will be happily married before you know it

 

[Chrissie-riel]

Allison - we have emailed before so I remember about your MIL - don't do anything that woman suggests (hahahaha!) I am only a phone call away and just a few miles down the road, so if you need someone to vent to - please call me!! And my hubby is often down in Carbondale for work, so maybe I can bum a ride and give you some moral support!! Hang in there girl!! It will all be good.........

 

[Cinderella Fan]

Allison, I completely understand how you feel. I am down to the wire, and can't get anyone to help me. My FMIL isn't too happy with our decision to have a WDW wedding, so she is NO help at all with the planning. My mother lives hours away, and she can't help a much as she would like.

My MOH lives in FL, so trying to find a dress for her is like a needle in a haystack. I am down to the last second with that, as she is a size 0, so an dress will have to be specially made for her, which can take months. And I only have 4 months or so to go!! I don't know what to do. We are havig to uses David's Bridal so that she can order the dress and have it altered from FL, but the closest store to us is almost 3 hours away.

Stress is high at this point. But, know that I am hoping that everything stays stress-free for you from now on. If you need to talk, feel free to PM me....

Good luck!!

 

[allisonswonderland]

Thanks guys- I appreciate that. My bridesmaids are in Dallas, Tx, Ft Myers. FL, Belleville, IL and one is here, but she is trying to start her own business. So things here are crazy and my fiance, I put him in charge of finding and booking things here, because it was so hard for me to do 2 wdgs and he is so busy with work- Just having finished my Masters- I am finished coaching swim team and now have no income which makes me a wreck, but there is an opening at a community college in the department I did my internship- so keeping my fingers crossed that I will get an interview- but what do I say to a new employer- Oh BTW I am getting married and will be gone the first 2 weeks of NOV? That makes me nervous--
But thanks for listening- I really needed to vent. I thinkpart of my problem is that my fiance is having an elaborate bachelor party and all of my friends are so far away and I really wanted to go to Nashville - Opryland Hotel to the new spa and shop, but no one really wants to do that- I just feel really deserted right now. My best friend is still not speaking to me b/c I expected her to save some money to come to my wedding! I am just having a rough time and I feel like my wedding is a chore for a lot of people, which is sad for me-because I think it should be happy-

 

[dannirose]

I am just having a rough time and I feel like my wedding is a chore for a lot of people, which is sad for me-because I think it should be happy-

It definitely should be happy - and whatever you do, don't let anyone change your mindset there! You are about to marry the person you want to spend the rest of your life with - that is one of the most amazing things we get to experience in our lifetime. I am sorry you are having a rough time of it right now and it doesn't seem like you are getting much support from people but don't let them put a damper on this for you - you deserve your fairy tale, however you choose to write it!

P.S. - I also think you should tell your BMs just how much that spa weekend would mean to you.

 

[janine]

Allison, I felt like this too.
We were married on 1st March this year and flew out to Florida on 15th February.
On 22nd December DH went into hospital and ended up having major kidney surgery, which we feared would cancel the wedding, but despite his surgery he recovered very well from it and was able to go. But also that same day Disney Cancelled our reception we had booked because I had planned it all myself and they said intimate brides were not able to have the sort of reception I had booked. Everything from flowers, car, meal, drinks, entertainment, lighting etc was booked, and the whole lot cancelled.
It was too much to bear all in one day, and I honestly thought a Disney wedding was not going to happen at all. We sorted things out anyway which was good, but then on 3rd of February my dog suddenly took ill and died. I was distraught. He came with me absolutely everywhere and I just couldnt handle it. I lost so much weight through not eating well that I had to have my dress realtered 5 days before we were due to fly.
Also the brdiesmaids dresses were finally ready the day before we flew too due to a delay. It was just a nightmare, but you know as soon as I was in Disney everything fell into place.I worried that my guests had flown all that way just for my wedding, so I hoped it was going to work out ok. It was a beautiful day, that I will never forget. My guests loved it, and said a normal at home wedding would never compare to what we had.
Have faith , things seem like a nightmare, but it will work out for you.
Sending you lots of pixie dust.

 

[allisonswonderland]

It gets worse because my invitations do not look good, they were to go out today and I have spent 100 additional bucks to buy things at hobby Lobby to make them look presentable.....I have lost my mind. I am not ultra picky honestly and even my fiance said they looked cheap and biy never notice details....help I really need some cheering up-

 

[Moonpie]

It gets worse because my invitations do not look good, they were to go out today and I have spent 100 additional bucks to buy things at hobby Lobby to make them look presentable.....I have lost my mind. I am not ultra picky honestly and even my fiance said they looked cheap and biy never notice details....help I really need some cheering up-

Awww. Don't worry. I'm sure that whatever you're adding to the invitations from the craft store will lend more of a personal touch to them... which is a good thing. I enjoy seeing invitations that have a little something different like that on them. Can I ask what worries you about the invitations? Maybe I could help. After all, I made my own invitations. So I have lots of experience fixing, and redoing them.

 

[ItGirl753]

Allison, hang in there! All your trouble will be worth it in the end!

 

[Tinkerbellz]

Allison......here's a great big and a little too. Take some deep cleansing breaths, light a candle, fix yourself a glass of wine and just relax. It sounds like you are running your self ragged. Take some time for you.

I'm sure things will work themselves out. If you need an ear, I'll lend you mine. I'll be glad to listen to you. I'm a communication/theatre student (yes I'm a student at 38 years old ), I know all about being a good listener.

 

[allisonswonderland]

Again- thanks so much guys- I should just invite you all to my bachelorette party that would have happened. I am sitting in my bedroom floor surrounded by invitations I am adding to them and just down in the dumps! I truly hope I can shake this and soon....

 

[Codie]

Allison...I have decided that what you are going through right now is totally pms---pre-marriage syndrome. I went through it and so many of my friends/coworkers currently getting married this year seem to be also. You mentioned that you felt your wedding was a chore for everyone--I TOTALLY FELT THAT WAY. I felt so alone and for no reason other than that I kept coming up with all these things that I wanted to do for the wedding that I had no time for but felt bad asking others for help. Mostly because when I would ask for help I would be told...why are you doing THAT? I got very frustrated and lonely the last two months. Hang in there...it is all worth it in the end!!! I promise